It sucks that when black people vent or speak up about our issues especially without sugarcoating kindness towards white people, everyone just sees it and actively avoids listening.
but a white ally can say the exact same thing and these performative ass people will sit their asses down and be like “I am listening and learning”
#noticing
but yes, black people have been proven time and time again that no matter how marginalized or privileged a white person is, they will stick to and flock with other white people over POC (subconsciously or not)
I’m not transfem, but my heart really goes out for black transfems/trans women who are constantly talking about their experiences with transmisogyny/misognoir and their ideas on transfeminism only to clearly get overshadowed and socially isolated. i have met a lot of black trans women recently and they are the kindest ladies ever.
likewise as a black trans man, in my own personal experience, it’s rough not only wanting to talk about racist degendering and how racism and transmisogyny overlaps along with black gender expression only to get shot down by white transmascs (who are probably transmeds or people who refuse to listen to other people’s experiences) while those same guys use the existence of black trans men and weaponize it against people. it’s exhausting.