so in that one post were you saying that ppl like rapists can simply "become better people?" fuck off, jump off a bridge
on all levels except physical i am gently flicking you in the nose
i get the sense based on the fact that you’re telling me to jump off a bridge and clearly angry as hell about a post that is, if its the one im thinking of (the one that ppl should always be allowed to improve themselves), several years old at this point, that you’re probably hurting in some way very badly, and you have my sympathies for that
whatever it is that has hurt you, i hope it passes, and i hope that hurt fades
but yes, i do think “people like rapists” can become better people.
their victims are not obligated to forgive them. their victims should not ever have to be anywhere near them, nor should they be allowed near their victims, unless for whatever reason said victims are engaging on their own for their own reasonsi do not believe in punitive justice. i do not believe that a person is Simply Bad or Permanently Bad. that is the kind of heavily christian-poisoned mindset that leads a lot of the insanity in this world and pure black and white thinking will not only hurt others but it will hurt you
allowing someone to improve themselves and also holding them accountable for what they’ve done is in fact something you can do. one does not cancel out the other.
if a rapist has realized what they did was terrible, and they wish to never do that again, and try and do better in this world, that is something they should be allowed to do.
if you are the kind of person who says ACAB and believes in prison abolition, which you may or may not be, you need to come to terms with the fact that that means people who have done terrible, unforgivable things, are going to be allowed to try and be better
i sincerely recommend looking into restorative justice if it is something that you have any investment in
this is the first anon hate i’ve gotten in several years. i was a little startled to open my tumblr and see someone telling me to jump off a bridge. when i allowed anon on my blog years ago, it was with the intent that ppl who were anxious or shy would not feel afraid to talk to me, but with the caveat that if anyone sent me anon hate, it would be turned off.
i congratulate you on being the anon who fucked that up for everyone.
if you want to keep yelling at me, you’ll have to do it without hiding your face. and full disclosure, im not going to humor you with argument if you do. im just going to block you and move on with my life, and i recommend if you’re so deeply enraged at me that you do the same. im a random guy on the internet who holds a different belief system than you. you really do not need to give yourself an ulcer about it.
like i said before, I hope whatever is hurting you lets go. i hope that if you are in an ongoing situation where someone is doing the unforgivable to you that you are able to get out, and that you are given ample time to heal.
i hope you know that you do not owe forgiveness to anyone who has hurt you; forgiveness is something that is meant to help the forgiver, and if it is not something that benefits you, youre not obligated to it.
stay safe anon.
im going to link a couple resources just in case you are in any danger
Find Domestic Violence and Abuse Help, Information and Stats
i cannot promise that these are the most perfect links or organizations, theyre just what seemed promising when i did some searching
i am not deeply informed on the current status of potential aid in this field, im a random biochem student and not a social worker
i just hope it is better than nothing