Sometimes you have to take a step back and remember that same-sex marriage has only been legal in America for ten years.
I know that it seems like it’s been this way forever, but when they were leaving it up to the states and Indiana legalized it for a whole 24 hours before Mike Pence got wise to it- me and a bunch of strangers ran around the city hall block with a rainbow flag because we were so happy. People were getting married on the spot because they’d been waiting so long and we didn’t know if the ruling was going to stick.
It’s wild to think about how much has changed just in my lifetime. Sodomy was a crime until 2003. Don’t Ask Don’t Tell was both enacted and repealed in my life.
The processes are slower than we want, but in retrospect- a lot has changed since the 90s.