the kind of people who make it an entire part of their personality that they’re “kind” are always the people who do the most heinous abusive shit to you and they can never acknowledge it because to do so would go against their self conception of themselves as ontologically good people. they’re always people who have like “be kind <3 just trying to make my way through the world as a little sunflower <3” as their bio or whatever and they’re always the same people who will do shit like unperson someone over the most casual interpersonal conflicts. also they are almost always remarkably racist liberals.
like their bio is like “hufflepuff ♡ delicate lights ♡ lana del rey ♡ beloved I want my soul to glimmer in your starlight ♡ there are twice as many stars tonight” and then you find out that they like violently abused a transgender woman they basically kept in their basement as a pet-mother-servant-caretaker-torture puppet for like half a decade.
letting these people go to therapy and learn therapy speak is like handing someone a loaded gun too they’re like honor roll students in the advanced DARVO major program