it is maybe a little mean to tell people “hey. by repeatedly saying ‘oh whatever you want!’ 'oh whatever is easier for you!’ 'really don’t worry about me!’ when someone asks you what you want, you are making the situation more uncomfortable and inconvenient for everybody than if you would just state your preference” but i really do feel it needs to be said. oftentimes people are genuinely invested in making you happy + doing something nice for you + catering a small bit of effort to make you more comfortable and by repeatedly trying to make yourself small and unobtrusive you are preventing them from doing these things and dragging out this social situation as they continue to try to help you and you continue to deny them the chance. you’re allowed to have a preference for something. and someone would not ask you what that preference was if they were not ready and willing to cater to it. 'but what if my request is unreasonable—" well it’s not a request if someone is asking You. and if it’s unreasonable then someone will just not do it. but honestly with so much love in my heart i think saying 'i would rather have chocolate than vanilla’ is an easier step than making everyone live through you agonizing over what an inconvenience it would be to express what you want