I hate how oddly sexualized breasts are, and how oddly sexualized bedrooms are, and I hate how anything not inherently sexual gets sexualized, it was hot outside and me and my boyfriend were watching his friend repair his truck at my house and I had a shirt off and only my binder on since yk it was hot out, and the other guys also had their shirts off and it was considered fine, but when me and my boyfriend went to go relax in the ac in my room I changed from my binder to a sports bra cause my ribs hurt and kept a shirt off cause I was still sweating a lot and really hot, and my mom came in complaining about how I need to wear a shirt and how it’s weird to wear only a bra in a bedroom with your significant other even though she knows I’m ace and she thinks it’s weird since he isn’t ace and I have breasts and bedrooms are sexualized, why is it okay to not have a shirt as one assigned gender and not the other, why are certain environments more sexualized than others, it makes no sense especially since we weren’t doing anything sexual, neither me nor him made it weird, but my mom was making a huge deal out of having tits in a bedroom
maybe it’s cause I’m autistic or maybe cause I’m asexual but I think the oversexualization of literally everything is weird
OP you are so right. Literally so right. For example:
- My adult sister doesn’t wear a bra when she’s comfortable at home. she lives with me and our parents. my mom will throw a fit because ‘dad shouldn’t have to see that’. my father literally does not care. it’s just my mom making a thing of it and that makes it uncomfortable for everyone.
- said adult sister is ten years older than me (a minor). her boyfriend is fiver years older than her. sometimes, I like to walk around the house in just a sports bra bc comfy. if sisters bf is around my mother will throw a fit. sisters bf does not freaking care. sister does not freaking care.
- and get this! for the longest time I had no titties!!! i still barely have any. my sister literally says 'you looked like you have the chest of a little boy. so if that made him uncomfortable i’d have to assume he was into little boys.’
LITERALLY NO ONE IS MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF THIS BUT YOU. YOU ARE MAKING IT WEIRD. SO FREAKING WEIRD. PLEASE STOP AND GET OVER YOURSELF.
oh also @official-boob-posts
I’ve been slowly combating this by wearing tinier and tinier tank tops to desensitize myself (luckily the parent I live with sometimes is not so weird about that so it’s a lot of fighting my own body image that I’m dealing with). I’ve gotten to the point of comfortably wearing short tank tops
if this method has worked so well for increasing my comfort and confidence in what clothes I wear, I think it could be helpful for combatting the judgmental people in your life