ok hands up
how many other nonbinary/genderqueer people here hate the phrase “women and nonbinary people”
It feels like radfem crap
Like simultaneously saying “nonbinary people are pretty much women”
And also
“Men are bad and only people who are not men are good”
every time i hear that shit i think about that post about an amab nonbinary person who got turned away from a “women and nonbinary people” group of some sort because it wasn’t “for” them and i get so mad
i would much rather hang out with that person than with the kind of people who would “welcome” me into the same group they were prevented from joining lmao
also like personally i have been directly invited to join “women’s” art shows and the like TOO MANY TIMES because they’re like “oh nonbinary women can join too” and i am just like yeah, you see, i’m still not welcome, because i am not a woman. and they always look so awkward, like they can’t understand what i mean. makes me furious
It’s such a flagrant “nonbinary people are just woman-lite, unless they’re too masc to fit my idea of woman-lite, in which case they’re actually dirty men.”
I stopped getting invited into “women and nonbinary” spaces the second I shaved my head and started embracing my butchness, so it’s not even just along AGAB lines like people want to act. If you’re masc or butch AT ALL, you get shoved into “icky man-aligned invader” and it’s fucking gross.