people can be so disingenuous when telling people with EDs that they want them to heal. It’s only when the person is anorexic AND skinny that they have sympathy, and they only want people to heal if they stay skinny.
When I started eating again during my ED recovery, I started gaining weight and holding onto it because my body was likely terrified of going without food for so long again.
And guess what? A lot of people in my life talked negatively about my weight gain either to my face or behind my back. People who *knew* that I had been starving myself. They claimed it was about my health, but I know now that it was fatphobia. It was much healthier for me to be eating 3 meals a day than starving myself 90% of the time, but they just saw that I had gone from skinny to fat, and to them, the fat was worse than the malnutrition.
I’m fat now, and much better off. No one who had bad things to say stayed in my life. And I’m better for it. But I worry about fat people with ED’s who don’t have the support I had. I worry about people who are ready to heal but the shaming from outside sources keep them in their illness or push them back in if they started to heal.
being fat is not a bad thing