what i’ve learned from my attempts to be more active in discords and other online communities is you just have to show up and participate in conversation and even if youre a little annoying or awkward eventually people will grow a fondness to you out of familiarity alone
been a year since i made this post and I wanna say the same also rings true from the other side. sometimes new people show up and they annoy me at first but after a while the rapport and familiarity takes over.