btw it’s like. extremely inappropriate to go up to random strangers IRL and say you think they’re gay/trans/queer/etc. it’s not funny, it’s terrifying and a huge overstep of boundaries
it’s also inappropriate and dangerous to just in general bring up someone else’s queerness around people they are not already explicitly out to. i once looked a guy in the eyes and said “call me she/her and my deadname around my parents. it went badly when i came out to my mother and i am afraid of what she may do or say if she finds out i go by Nico when possible.” and then we went outside and he immediately yelled “BYE NICO!” to me, because he didn’t want to deadname me or some shit… directly beside my mother.
i still don’t know what would have happened if she didn’t mishear it as something else, and i never, ever want to find out. i do not care if it makes you feel bad, i do not care if you really want to make that gay joke, I DO NOT CARE IF YOU THINK IT’LL BE FINE, do not fucking mention someone’s queer identity to another person without explicit permission.
Yes, even if you’re queer too.
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