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Always be aware of DARVO (Deny attacker reverse victim and offender.)

Abusers will make you feel like you are the abuser and make you question your sanity, and always deflect any form of criticism and deny it’s happening. It is a technique people use to never take any accountability, and deny their victim’s efforts to take it and work on their flaws, to make them dependent on the abuser’s validation to make the victim feel secure in their feelings. If someone is making you feel like you can never do right and you are always wrong and all your efforts get dismissed/something that happened long ago where you clearly were an asshole gets brought up out of nowhere, just to trigger you and make you upset. You should probably leave that relationship.

at least dad taught me one thing well, he taught me how to spot a manipulative abuser and to never fucking talk to people like him.

thanks dad, for using all of these on me for twenty fucking years