it is genuinely bewildering to me that adult human beings do not know this but if you are mean to people they will not like you. like tbh they are probably also not going to like you if you are mean to other people but they are definitely not going to like you if you are mean to them. it doesn’t matter if you are funny or if you can use r/aita rules to prove that you are in the right. people simply do not enjoy being treated like shit.
I might have already reblogged this with this same comment but:
no matter who you are, everyone believes they’re an essentially decent person and wants to be liked by everyone they meet and any attempt at denying or refuting that is coming from a point of instinctive defensiveness against the fact that not everyone actually will.
Every cool cucumber or screeching wackaloon who claims not to care or to welcome others’ negative opinions of them is overcompensating for their own inability to be universally beloved for who they are. It’s a fear reaction. You don’t want your tribe to cast you out into the dark by yourself. As up-jumped shit-slinging apes, it’s practically genetic. Being alone means being in constant danger. So when somebody gets mad at you, you strike back in perceived self defense, whether it’s verbally or physically or fucking their mom or voting to oppress them or invading their country and massacring them, YOU are always right because YOU are, in your heart, a Good Person.