fascinating how multiple of my friends have explicitly avoided using the singular “they” for themselves because they (haha) associate it with getting degendered by people who are uncomfortable with the way they present (usually women). people were handed “this is a gender neutral word for when you don’t know someone” and very quickly turned it into “this is a word i’m allowed to use instead of she/her'ing a trans woman”
95% of the comments on this post are people from across the gender spectrum going “YES EXACTLY people will they/them me when I have explicitly told them to use (any other pronoun)!” and then like 5% people going “uhhhh if you dont know someones pronouns you should they/them them” like NOT WHAT THIS IS ABOUT