interesting how transmascs & transfems alike think losing weight is the answer to pass as our chosen gender…. almost as if fat people are never Truly afforded a passing gender regardless of trans status. as fat people we are never Truly seen as Men or Women. anyway fuck that notion & if u think u need to lose weight to pass that’s the devil talking
i’d also like to point out that this is a problem with people seeking to present androgynously. even androgyny must be skinny in the eyes of the world. in order to even be a person outside of gender, you mustn’t be fat
i want fat nb folks to know that you aren’t any less of a person or any less androgynous for being fat
To be fat, in white societies, is to be inherently de-gendered - fat women aren’t ‘worthy women’ because they’re not considered fuckable, fat men aren’t 'worthy men’ because they’re considered unathletic/lacking in self-control, fat enbies are just 'seeking attention’ because androgeny is supposed to be thin and they’re just pretending because they failed at their assigned gender.
If you’re fat, you’re only considered passable if you make extra effort to perform your assigned gender. Fat women get a pass if they do the busty lipsticked pin-up girl thing, or they’re motherly and once again unfuckable. Fat men get a pass if they’re wealthy in a good suit, if they’re a beer-drinking funny guy, or a muscle-chubby type. Fat enbies barely get a pass anywhere, and even then it’s if we do the quirky-cute creative thing, but we can’t be too quirky because then we’re freaky and freaky is barely a step away from perverted or disgusting.
Fat people are, as far as thin people see us, our fatness before we’re anything else. And we shouldn’t let their obsession with our fatness get in the way of living our lives, or expressing our gender.
And fatness comes along with a lot of intersex bodies, so we not only are degendered due to whatever specific intersex traits we have, but we often are even fat the “wrong” way for other fat people to gender us right! Because our fat will be stored in ways that their fat doesn’t for their sex!