[Translation: People who say ‘What, we got to sign a whole contract before sex, now?’ should sign a whole contract before sex ]
So, I’m involved in the kink community, and a friend of mine is into “free use” scenarios where she’s blindfolded and people come up and do things to her. The way we manage this is that she wrote up a two-page list of all of her preferences, limits, and required safety precautions, and when someone wants to participate, her bouncers first make them read and agree to those terms. We’ve been doing this for years and have never needed to stop or eject someone for bad behavior. It turns out that, yes, a clearly spelled out written contract makes consent– even for a fairly extreme sexual situation– easy and straightforward.
