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Hey, everyone. I can’t believe I have to say this, but here goes: a lot of gimmick blogs are minors. Actually, a lot of people on here in general are under 18, have “minor” in their bio or pinned post or have mentioned it before. Quite a few even have certain boundaries given, regardless of the owner’s age (even though they’re commonly found in minor’s blogs). For example: people say “don’t do kinky shit in my reblogs” “don’t sexualise me” “don’t make any romantic/sexual advances” “ask for permission before dming” or simply a “don’t be weird”.
Now, a lot of gimmick blogs have gained a large following, are interacted with a lot, et cetera. Some of us are adults, some of us are okay with NSFW/suggestive content. Some of us, however, are not.
Why am I saying this? Because one of my very close friends has been getting kinky reblogs for the second time in not very long despite their earlier pinned post being “I’M A MINOR DON’T BE WEIRD” with an example of what exactly weird things would be. And despite all that, they got similar, extremely fucking weird things in their notes. They’re fourteen. I had an adult saying some rather weird stuff to me, and though he backed off a little when he found out I was a minor, he was still more than a little pushy with conversations and it made me uncomfortable. Some people get hate or threats, which is as bad as sexual shit in my opinion. It’s really not okay, and I’m tired of watching this happen. Yes, they genuinely apologize at times (sometimes they’re a bit too genuine, it gets really pushy and strange for the other person) but still, it’s better if these invasive actions did not occur at all.
Let’s make one thing very clear: gimmicks are people. Everyone on here is a person. There is someone behind the screen and the cool character and the roleplay and the jokes, and that person has boundaries that other people need to respect. As I said before, I can’t believe I’m saying this, but whatever. Don’t be horny in the notes of minors if they haven’t explicitly said that they’re okay with it. Don’t send people weird dms and don’t be pushy or obsessive or develop parasocial relationships with people. I’ve seen these things happen, I’ve experienced them myself (ew) and it’s damn horrible. Tumblr is supposed to be a place to have fun and connect with people, not the place to be sexually harassed or hated on. So, with all due respect: stop. I’m personally okay with mildly suggestive things, but there are people who may not be, and those people deserve respect and space. Thank you to all the people who are normal and kind and make people happy with their interaction, and fuck you to everyone who thinks it’s okay to harass people. Thanks for sitting through this apparently much needed TedTalk, I guess.
Hello people,
Please remember what a boundary is, not a command but a threat:
if you do x I will/won’t do y
So when someone doesn’t respect the boundaries given, block them.
How much leeway you give is up to you but I recommend zero tolerance regarding stuff like this