BDSM gets a bad rep as like a violent (male) dom pushing the boundaries of a reluctant (female) sub but in my experience it’s a lot of subs with wildly elaborate fantasies screaming shit like “PUT MY ASS IN THE CHILI” while a new dom is like “Okay I think, we are reaching yellow for me,”
Sub: Okay so before we begin how familiar are you with the ancien régime? It’s not super important but it does help contextualize this. Essentially I’d like for you to be a ravenous, semi-cannibalistic Antoine Barnave-esque figure
Dom, holding a pen and notebook: Yeah okay