grabbing like 80 percent of the lesbians I know by the shoulders and saying listen. listen. you have to stop categorizing everyone and everything into Women (Good) and Men (Bad). you might not think you’re doing it, but you are. it’s very clear from the ways in which you talk about trans men and bi women and your experience with gender and your difficulties in the dating scene that on some subconscious level, you think that moral purity is directly proportional to how much Man Stuff somebody has in their life. that contact with men and male-associated cultural byproducts will give you Boy Cooties. it won’t. but I can tell you think it does, and so do all of your trans friends, and it makes us all uncomfortable. so cut it out
hey and also–no, bro, listen. listen. stop associating Women (Passive) and Men (Aggressive). I can tell you’re doing that too. and then these two categorization modes get stuck together, and you wind up with Women/Passive/Good and Men/Aggressive/Bad, and that’s why you believe there’s such a thing as a “top shortage” and why you can’t quite convince yourself to try going on T and why you’re too scared to initiate sex with your girlfriend of four months. please be normal