when are we going to talk about the epidemic of lesbians and bisexuals who don’t know how to pursue other women like it’s an actual real problem in our communities born out of misogynistic and homophobic socialisation and not some cutesy uwu I can’t talk to women type thing
when are we going to stop acting it like it’s normal to view our love lives solely through the lens of yearning or feeling inadequate or like a predator for simply wanting to get with women
when are we going to address the deep running, widespread shame that leaves so many of us paralysed by our natural desires. too many of us are soaked with shame and we need to talk about it.
Please add tips on how to talk to women
open your mouth and say words like normal person who is trying to make friends
introduce yourself
ask them about themselves
say interesting stuff that’s relevant or tangential to the context
try to steer the conversation towards something you can bond over or something you’re (both) passionate about
make jokes if you think of a good one
try your best to have a good time talking to them, make having mutual fun your objective, engage positively or inquisitively towards anything personal they express to you, this will make you both seem fun to be around and make them feel like they’re interesting and fun to be around too
try to make the conversation enjoyable for them by thinking about how it would be in their shoes talking to you
do an activity together, invite them even
if you have feelings/intentions/thoughts about the person then be open about them, there’s never anything wrong with politely telling someone how you feel about them or asking if they’d like to do something (with you) given it’s reasonable in that social context
literally the only way anyone is going to like you back is if you meet up regularly for the purpose of enjoying each other’s company and express that you like them a lot at some point
accept the fact that any form of rejection is ultimately harmless to you, no exceptions
never compromise on who you are for someone’s affection
idk some other stuff probably