achilles-in-a-blanket-burrito:
omg you do not understand how rare it is to see queer desi weddings this is beautiful
*tries to type through blurred eyes* No no no you don’t get it this is. This is fucking amazing. There’s so many absolutely beautiful things about desi weddings, so many things that I don’t know about. They’re chaotic and loud and joyous and awkward and lovely, at least from what I’ve heard.
I’ve never been to more than two, and those when I was very young, because of many reasons, from my extended family’s age range being such that everyone was already married, my family not getting along with any friends, or, in later years, I was just so religiously traumatised and exhausted from tradition being pushed onto me that I chose to reject it.
And when I think about my future wedding, I cannot imagine one that will be like those, because I cannot imagine my blood family coming to cheer on a queer marriage, I cannot imagine being treated as a groom and not a bride, I cannot imagine being allowed to both be myself and have that part of my culture. Which is fucked up, because queer people have always been a part of desi history.
But looking at videos like this reminds me that hey, maybe it won’t be my blood family, but there will be family at my wedding, should I choose to get married. There will be queer desi people, just like me, and they will see my wedding and they will have some hope, too, maybe. Queer marriage is still illegal in India, but maybe one day it won’t be, or maybe one day I can finally leave. Maybe there’s hope. Maybe I don’t have to choose between being myself and having the normal things that everyone else gets to have.
oi invite me. i’ll come/j
what’s with the /j you better fucking come. if my wedding isn’t 99% maggots then what am i even doing.