cellaspider:

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charlottan:

charlottan:

charlottan:

i honestly cant believe the normal amount of wanting to be another gender is zero. like arent you sick of yours yet lol

cis ppl how often do you consider being different gender/less gender/more gender

never

every few years

about once a year

about once a month

once or twice a week

daily

not cis

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people with cis mutuals rb this pleeeeaseee

There’s something of a misunderstanding of the cis experience here.

Part of masculinity under cisheteronormativity is to be actively under pressure to do it enough. To not be “girly.” I am 100% cis and I am not masc enough by this society’s (stupid) standards – part of this is racialized (in my case, the antisemitic stereotype of Jewish men as neurotic intellectuals devoid of real manliness (we do it to ourselves too: see Woody Allen and City Slickers)), parts of it are fatphobia and anti-intellectualism (neither fat men nor men with desk jobs are “real men”) and part of it is as a tool to police everyone else, as we can use misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia to “prove” we’re real men if we’re willing to hate the right way.

So yeah, I’m cis, and the only reason I picked “about once a month” rather than “daily” is because I’ve mostly addressed the drumbeat of “am I being masc enough? can I wear pink? can I safely tell these people I enjoy baking? can I go out for a drink and have one drink and not get made fun of for it?”

Any cis people in my orbit?