sorry, it’s a GOOD thing if cishet people use non-conforming pronouns or dress in non-conforming ways or whatever else. for one, that person may not be cishet. but more importantly, living in a society where more people feel comfortable exploring their relationship to gender and sexuality is an undoubtedly GOOD thing
”He’s queer baiting! He’s in a skirt!” I thought clothes weren’t gendered? What does a skirt have to do with gender and sexuality? Are you, perhaps, just a little bit bigoted?
“Girls with short hair are never straight.” Yes they are. It’s a haircut. I thought hair didn’t define gender? I thought we were allowed to do whatever we want with our hair? Why does she have to have long hair to be considered straight?
“you can’t use neopronouns, you’re not even non-binary!” I thought pronouns didn’t equal gender. I thought we could use whatever pronouns feels most correct. Why are you gendering these pronoun sets that were literally created to be used by anyone of any identity? Are you possibly trying to govern how other people express or experience gender?
Why are these things inherently queer? Are you stereotyping queer people? Are you trying to say that a specific type of person has to be queer? Why? Are you homophobic and transphobic? No? Then stop being a fucking prick and let people do whatever the fuck they want. Let cishet men wear skirts. Let straight woman have short hair. Let binary people use whatever pronouns they want. Stop pushing gender norms, it’s not progressive.
sometimes I see people get actively mad if a woman has short hair and is wearing cargo shorts and a hoodie with no makeup… and then mentions her husband. congrats! you just implied straight women should be dressing for men and fit certain societal beauty standards. they have as much of a right to shave their head and dress “butch” as queer women do. when feminine presentation is often associated with a lot of extra labor and clothing that makes physical activity more difficult - shaving your legs, maintaining long hair, doing your makeup, wearing heels - it’s a pretty basic feminist talking point that all women should be allowed to not do that stuff!