One of the things that allo society did wrong is using the term “sexual needs”. These are not needs. Drinking is a need, sleeping is a need, eating, resting and breathing are needs. If you don’t do them, you die. Sex is not a need, it is a want (a valid want, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting sex) and I’m tired of hearing someone has “their needs”. It’s a gross thing to say that is often used to excuse not just aphobia but also r*pe (especially domestic), cheating and treating women like properties.
For anyone who thinks sex is a need I want to point out that celibate monks are among the healthiest people in the world. They haven’t died out yet