probably the most real demonstration of online versus offline discourse on “transmascs versus transfems” infighting was at a transmasc meetup where one person was like “eugh i’ve just had suuuch bad experiences with transfems, i don’t trust them” and the guy next to me just blinks and goes “hey uh. my wife is a trans woman” and the rest of us chime in like “yeah we all have transfem friends, what’s your problem”
and then after talking to that person for longer we discover that they almost never interact with the trans community outside of tumblr and don’t have any contact with transfems face to face