Every time I hear about Nex I get choked up. That was almost me. I’m nonbinary but I always use the bathroom that corresponds to my AGAB and I’ve almost been attacked multiple times because of it.
When will we ever be safe? It feels like we’re damned if we do, damned if we don’t. If we go to the bathroom of our AGAB but we’re GNC, we risk getting attacked. If we go to the bathroom opposite of our AGAB but we don’t pass, we risk getting attacked. And neutral bathrooms are often just not an option. So what are we supposed to do? (Not directing the question at you, just kinda screaming into the void at this point)
im so lucky i live in a blue state and we have gender neutral bathrooms, but i’m also white and fairly well off economically. so many factors led to nex getting killed, probably somewhere between exorsexism/transphobia and anti native racism, but is terrifying how often things like these are happening and being dismissed as “sadly passed away” or “died”.
nex was brutally beaten to death and only barely hung on for another day and the school suspended them rather than their attackers. i hope we all fucking learn from this and it never happens again, but that would be naive, wouldnt it?