honeybeemenace-deactivated20220:
alright I found the video.
hey white people listen to this video.
Video Transcript:
First person: Black people are treated like a sexuality. And I do not-
Video cuts to second person: See, I actually like this video. And I think I got a explanation for you.
The reason that blackness almost acts as a sexuality is because antiblackness is something that is so innate in the minds of nonblack people when growing up, that them preferring not to date someone who is black is almost as normal as them preferring not to date someone who isn’t their preferred sex.
Did y’all follow that? Like, let me give you an example. Like, a straight white male saying that they don’t date black girls is just as normal in society as a straight white male saying that they don’t date boys. And straight white women saying that they don’t date black boys was almost as normal as them saying they don’t date women. And granted, that example might not be as prevalent as the last one, but still.
And I know in both of those examples, they were white, but it applies with nonblack POC too. And to add a little bit of intersectionality, let’s be honest, it probably applies to some black men, too. And that’s a shame, that we would treat our own women similarly to that of a sex we don’t prefer.
Oh, I just thought of something! Antiblackness is something that is so innate in the minds of nonblack people that they would almost have to come out! Come out! And say that they like black people. It’s like homophobia was so innate that you would have to come out and say you’re homosexual.
That’s the one. I’m not even gonna lie, that’s the one. End Video Transcript.
Worth noting that interracial marriage became legal in 1967. 1967. That’s about 52 years ago.
Oh this.
EVERY single one of my relationships, once we get to meeting the parents? I have to ask them three questions:
Do they know you’re gay/bi/pan/whatever?
Do they know I’m transgender?
Do they know I’m black?
Sometimes I’ve gotten “I don’t see how that could be an issue” for the last one and I tell him I don’t care, warn them in advance that I am black. You know most of them have reported back to me “they were really surprised, I don’t understand, it’s more surprising to them that I’m dating someone black than someone gay and transgender?”
I’ve been through this song and dance with friends already, friends who neglected to mention to their parents that I’m black prior to me coming over and whose parents had less than fantastic reactions to seeing their kid playing with a little black kid in their yard. I’m not doing a surprise round with a partner I’m trying to determine if I want to spend the rest of my life as part of that family. My sister still has not met her white husband’s family because she insisted on the same prior warning before walking into that house, and a good thing too because his parents basically disowned him for even considering marrying a black girl. They’ve been married more than a decade! They have children together! They’re straight! And he had to ‘come out’ to his parents and get kicked out of his family for his attraction to a black woman.
It is one of the major reasons I stopped actively pursuing relationships with people who are white.
Interracial marriage was legalized when my parents were teenagers. My parents grew up not knowing they would enter an interracial marriage, not thinking it would be possible. It remains a major factor in why my parents hesitated for YEARS to get married, thinking the ruling would be overturned and they would have to end their marriage and not wanting to do that to their future children. Or that they would have to constantly uproot their kids and move around the country to stay safe. I remember growing up repeatedly having to explain how I could be black even though my mom is white [passing], because everyone jumped to 'adoption’ and not 'her husband is fucking black’
I’m just going to put this here again so you understand I’m not just ranting alone by myself