are you ever like damn why is literally everyone else scared of openly communicating and being direct and truthful and honest
i’m kind of bored of subliminal messaging or vaguing or being anything but truthful and blunt and forthright. every miscommunication that has ever befallen me is a result of jumping to conclusions or not giving the benefit of the doubt or just not being open to hearing the other side. i am so bored. i just want communication. i want straightforwardness. i want here is why i’m bothered. here are the facts. here’s what i think. now tell me your side. let’s talk about this. let’s start a dialogue. there’s no reason for either of us to be guessing. languages were meticulously crafted over the years for a reason. so let’s use them! let’s talk! let’s communicate!
btw you can be straightforward AND kind. i’m not sure why people seem to think it’s one way or the other. either way a lot of people need to not only internalize this mentality but practice it bc i feel like so many people are willing to BURN BRIDGES ??? rather than just communicate and be honest. and some people don’t communicate and end up fostering resentment and bitterness and dislike for the other person that cause them to snap out of nowhere and the other person is like ?? bc guess what. it was NEVER commuicated
omg memory unlocked of me in my biochemistry professor’s office once helping her grade bc i was her ta. and she told me that she had an awkward situation and ended up just bluntly asking something. i don’t remember what the context was but i remember looking at her like “you really just asked that??” and she looked me in the eye and went “at some point i learned to just ask.” queen behavior at its finest. at some point you really do learn to just ask
I no longer act on subtext.
If you’re struggling and want my help making it into the text, I’ll work with you.
But I no longer act on subtext, nor do I try to guess what someone else is thinking. Human communication should not be a literary analysis project.