(guy whos scared of everything and feels guilty about everything) sorry i got scared and felt guilty
Why do you feel guilty you are a good wizard, the best I know even
I feel guilty for doing things I want and like doing, I’m scared that people would be disappointed in me for this. My father most definitely is and he doesn’t even know the half of the things I do that he wouldn’t approve of
I totally get it and it’s the same for me but while it is important to keep in mind what other people think of us and our actions it’s not everything that matters.
Listening to criticism is a good occasion to take a moment and evaluate what you’re doing/have done but you don’t necessarily have to agree with them. Doubting and holding yourself accountable is good to an extent but it’s very different from hating yourself or constantly denying you what makes you feel good out of guilt or fear of judgment; and I know it’s hard because I for one constantly fail at it but it’s important to not lose sight of that and at least try to stick to this, judge yourself fairly means accepting your mistakes but also having compassion for yourself and be kind enough to yourself to give yourself the space to grow out of your errors.
Holy crap you’re making me genuinely tear up, I know you’re right and stuff and it’s what my moms told me to do but damn it’s so hard, I can be really mean to myself and shit but you’re absolutely correct, I’m going to go to my therapist today and try and talk to them about how I can start being nicer to mysel, thankyou so much dude
I’m going through the same shit and have been for years. Realizing how much I actually hate myself is what finally made me decide to start going to therapy.
It’s hard to ignore the voice that tells you how much you suck, how selfish you are, how much of a burden you are, and knowing you shouldn’t doesn’t really help when things get bad and I don’t really have a solution but tell you that you have to stay strong. That voice is not right and your struggle to be better than that isn’t worthless. People do love you and you should thake that into your heart just like you listen to criticism.
Thank you so so much. Telling me this means a lot to me, if you want to talk we could sometime since we have a lot of shared experiences!