“brbr but what if cishet aro men want to join the lgbt community to gain access to resources?”
A: what resources?
B: p sure “the lgbt community” is either opt in or opt out- it’s not like you send an application and need a letter of approval
C: and? If you don’t want to date him don’t date him. If you don’t want to fuck him don’t fuck him. I assure you that you will survive.
“but what if he’s just leading innocent women on?” Well those women are very capable of making sure they’re compatible with their prospective partners so either he’s a shithead that lies (in which case the problem is that he’s a shithead that lies), or they talked about what their relationship means and are fine with the arrangement (in which case… why do you care???)
And like. Anyone can be a shithead that lies. Are we going to start quizzing everyone to make sure no one’s lying about being lesbian gay bisexual or transgender? Do I need to get my queer license renewed every year or is this more a one-and-odone type of thing? What council of gayhood do I need to report to?