some of you are miserable because you’re mean. like you’re just mean to people and things
“why don’t i have any friends” because you are mean
this can be fixed at least in part very easily though! just stop being mean. i believe in all of you 👍
‘but i’m not mean’ ok, cool! do you:
- point out people’s mistakes and failures to them? in front of others?
- belittle their accomplishments and successes? in front of others?
- make fun of people and laugh at them? in front of others?
- do all this secretly to your ‘friends’ because friendship means being able to ‘joke around with’ each other, or ‘be brutally honest’ with each other?
- bring up past grievances with people over and over until they’ve apologized ‘enough’, or just to shut down arguments with them, or get out of conversations you don’t want to have?
- refuse to do favors for people? like when you feel they haven’t ‘earned’ your time or effort? or at all because you don’t want to be ‘taken advantage’ of?
- try to get out of paying your share of bills, doing your share of chores? spend time figuring out exactly how little you can contribute to groups in terms of time, effort, and money, without anyone noticing or getting too mad at you?
- get angry and jealous when people are happy about things that don’t concern you? get angry and jealous when people pay attention to each other and not you?
- spend any amount of time ‘getting even’ with people?
THIS BEHAVIOR IS MEAN.
you might feel like you’re a perfectly nice person who cares a lot about people but also speak your mind and take no shit! but if you do any of this stuff, people won’t like you anymore, because it fucking sucks to be around you. you suck to interact with. no one fucking likes being mocked, criticized, picked on, upstaged, pushed around, mooched off, or revenged upon. they will, if they have any self-respect at all, avoid you.
the worst case scenario actually isn’t that you end up alone. it’s that you end up with other people who are just as mean as you are, and you all mutually tear each other to pieces on your way to drug addictions, losing all your money and property and kids, and jail time. this happens a lot, i have seen it go down, and it’s not fun even for bystanders. please consider putting the time and effort in to be nice, instead.
A lot of people need to hear this.