There these seemingly contradictory societal double binds that are used to enforce conformity.
Example: A Lesbian is told that “everyone is actually bi” while a bisexual woman is told to “pick a side”. Seems contradictory but really they just want us to be straight lmao.
Another one: A woman who does not perform womanhood to society’s standard is not a real woman vs. You can never change the gender you were born with. One is butchphobic/anti gnc women, the other is transphobic. Clearly both enforce transmisogyny.
The insidious thing is that these double binds also foster inter community division. Its easy to hear one side of these, for example: “everyone is a little bi” and assume that means bisexuality is more accepted. But on the other side bisexual people are getting the same shit.
None of these are contradictory when you realize that bigots simply don’t want lgbtq+ to exist at all.