my advice to kids on the internet is don’t get too attached to your username and absolutely do not blend your offline life with your online presence. you do not want your future self to have any connection to the stuff you are saying and doing right now
you don’t have the privilege of every embarrassing thing you said being lost to a defunct bbcode forum like my generation did. please, please leave yourself the opportunity for a clean slate. you’ll thank yourself later.
btw this post is just as much about online safety and protecting yourself from stalkers/employers as it is being able to distance yourself from kin drama and ship wars when you realize the absurdity of it all