didn’t wanna derail the last post with it but in general most trans people don’t give a shit about minor mistakes. you can slip up and use the wrong pronouns or a gendered term and go “oh my bad” and 99% of the time that’s where the problem begins and ends. no one is out there screaming “did you just assume my gender?!” because, like, yea. you probably did. shit happens. it’s when you make a massive deal out of it, kick your heels and insist that actually “dude” is completely gender neutral or you’re trying your best so everyone should just shut up ect ect that things become a problem. but every single person who does the latter insists it was the former and that everyone is making a big fuss about a mistake when in reality they’ve misgendered someone 10 times in a row and made no attempt to correct themself.