“your partner isn’t responsible for your wellbeing”
“go tell this to a therapist”
“omg stop traumadumping” (after hearing a mild complaint)
can you guys hear yourselves? we are human beings. part of being in relationships (including friendships) with each other means looking after each other. we are responsible for each other. I look after your emotional needs when you need it, and you look after mine. sometimes things will be difficult and sometimes they’ll be outside my paygrade, and I’m allowed to step back from that. but you have to stop acting like it’s some massive toxic imposition on you to have to listen to someone talk about their feelings