Some Things I Did Not Realize Until Later In Life
- When it is sunny and miserably hot (>65F) outside and someone tells you to “enjoy the beautiful weather,” they’re not being ironic and genuinely think it is pleasant weather.
- The default amount of pain most people are in is literally 0, not figuratively.
- Most people feel a compulsory urge to breed with their preferred variety of people. Sex isn’t supposed to be some kind of trial you endure to prove you love someone, and it’s ok if you don’t want any.
- Polyamory doesn’t have to be [people A-N in a relationship with each other at the same time] it can be (and is much more logistically feasible as [person A in a relationship with every person B-N individually]
- If you think something is wrong with your body, follow that hunch as far as it will go. Your body doesn’t just hand out warning signs for fun, those serve a purpose. Sometimes your body spamming you with warning signs for no reason is the problem in and of itself, and you should see a neurologist.
- The golden rule is usually pretty good, but it can get you in hot water if you’re autistic and trying to help someone. (I don’t have a fix for this, just try to make sure people know your intentions before you speak to them.)
- You don’t need a “type”
- You don’t need a label.
- You deserve accommodations for any disability you have, even if “it’s minor” and you can live without them.
- People tend to want to help each other out. Often you do not need to make it worth someone’s time to ask for help, and they would prefer spending time to help you over spending time watching you flounder around without help.
- It’s ok to stop talking to people you don’t vibe with, just be nice about it.
- If you know someone who has a condition triggered by someone doing something they can’t control such as Misophonia (when certain sounds send them into a panicky rage) triggered by a family member’s eating noises: Neither of them are at fault, and it’s ok to for either to ask the other to leave.
- Equality is great in an ideal world but we live in a horrible bastard world where equity (certain marginalized groups receiving the aid they need before and in larger volume than advantaged groups) makes more sense.
- Capitalism will always be at odds with general prosperity.
- People give each other gifts because they like them. You should not feel obligated to give someone a thank you gift or feel guilty or indebted in any way. They would not like that.
- Visualizing things from other people’s perspective if you have low or no empathy is made easier by picturing it’s you in their situation. A reminder that the world is complex and all those other people living in it are like you sort of.
Sorry this turned more into life advice! Hope it helps at all!
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