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is the tgirl wearing a collar doing it because she has a fetish, or just because it’s a cute accessory? is the gay man in leather and a pup mask actually being “indecent” or is he just dressed up like a dog because it’s fun? are drag queens doing it because crossdressing is sexy or because drag is an expression of who they are as a person? does the furry walking around in full suit have a boner under their outfit or do they just like cosplaying as their cute cartoon squirrel oc?

you will never know. you can never tell. sometimes even the people doing these things won’t have an answer. is it a sex thing? is it kink? who fucking knows! there is no line! public expressions of sexuality aren’t immoral to begin with, but if you make any attempt to suppress them, you have to decide what is and isn’t allowed, and you are going to get it wrong. there is no way to untangle kink from personality and hobbies and interests. kink does not even necessarily involve sex. sometimes it’s just self-expression and vulnerability and sharing a particular dynamic with another person. sounds a lot like (checks notes) literally every other human experience that exists.

i’ll say it again: the person wearing a leash in your vicinity is not sexually assaulting you. they’re just wearing a leash.

for anyone concerned about children seeing these people in public and asking questions, here’s a script to help:

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kid: hey that man is walking another man on a leash what’s up with that?

adult: i don’t know, but some people like to play pretend. maybe they’re pretending to be a dog and its person for fun.

kid: 👍 cool, this was an entirely non-traumatic experience and i didn’t even have to hear anything about sex

adult: 👍 cool, i told the truth in an age appropriate way that doesn’t result in any confrontation or distress to my family or to the strangers harmlessly going about their day

see!!! no harm done!!! wow it’s that easy!