If we are only permitted to consent or not consent to certain aspects of life then consent as a whole is meaningless. It's not a phobia or an ism to say that I don't consent to seeing people's genitals all over my dash. Tumblr is not Onlyfans, go slop your nasty grundle at the camera on OF. Us normal people don't want to see that.
You can consent to unfollow or follow accounts that post mature content in the feed, but none of the PFPs in the live carousel are violating your consent by wearing bathing suits and visibly existing.
And I slop my cunt on clips4sale because OF is too uptight for fisting.
People need to wrap their heads around the idea that ‘consent’ only comes into play when someone is doing something to you. It doesn’t come into play when people are simply existing in a way that you don’t like, including being naked.
In your life, things will be visible to you that you don’t want to have visible to you – the answer is not to make those things not exist, but to turn off those things or turn away from them so that they are no longer visible to you. Even if someone was spreading their cheeks on Tumblr Live right there in the PFPs, the problem isn’t them spreading their cheeks but that Tumblr is forcing you to look at the PFPs once a week in order to turn shit off.
There are many places, incidentally, where public nudity is perfectly legal in real life. In most of Oregon, you can be naked as long as you aren’t advertising anything or performing a sex act or actively trying to arouse people. Portland has laws against exposing your genitals except as an act of protest. (See: Naked Bike Ride.) In Washington State, you must commit 'lewd or obscene behavior’ for nudity to be illegal – and no, being naked is not lewd or obscene behavior on its own, sorry bubbuleh. There are only 3 states in the US where Titties Out For Purposes Other Than Breastfeeding But The Titties Are Just Hanging Out is illegal all by itself. (Indiana, Tennessee, and Utah, in case you were wondering.)
People’s trauma doesn’t make other people’s actions morally wrong, either, because that’s usually the next argument. I was literally put into an Exvangelical flashback and onto the verge of a panic attack earlier today by a comedian badly singing a bit from 'I’m In The Lord’s Army.’ That doesn’t make doing that morally wrong, it just meant that I had to be a fucking grown-up and deal with the feelings that I had when that happened.
And can we talk about the idea that being naked or sexual is not 'normal’? Lord almighty.
Not for nothing, but also you very much DID consent to whatever Tumblr or your followed blogs post on your dash, because you choose to use the website. What you’re dealing with isn’t an issue of consent, what you’re dealing with is an issue of boundaries. Boundaries are limits you draw that dictate your behaviors, not the behaviors of others. “I don’t like when you do X, so you must stop” is an attempt to control the behavior of others, whereas “I don’t like when you do X, so if you do X, I will remove myself so I do not have to experience X” is a boundary.
You consented to using the website when you agreed to their terms of service and continued to use their website, and that now entails participating in the same public space as Tumblr live. In this public space, there are rules about some nudity or close to nude states that are allowed within the rules put forth in those TOS that you are to (and anything else can be reported, as it’s not allowed).
You have a boundary regarding nudity, which says that if there is nudity or near-nudity (Tumblr Live, someone posting it on your dash, etc), then you do not want to be in the same space, and need to remove yourself from the situation (turn off Live, unfollow the person). You are not doing that, and it’s resulting in stress, which you’re taking out on others. But your decision to not follow your own boundary is not on Tumblr or anyone else in this public space. That’s on you for not respecting your own boundary, and behaving appropriately.