Critiquing social/societal norms and systems — why they exist, what role we play in them, and if things could be different or better — does not mean that we forget material reality as it currently exists. Conflating what should be and what is is unhelpful at best and damaging at worst as is assuming that’s what we’re doing when we speak about, for example, capitalism, patriarchal gender roles, etc.
When we say arbitrary socially-constructed Western beauty standards for women, such as total body hair removal, is perhaps detrimental, not just to cis women but trans, non-binary, and GNC people as well, we are not saying that therefore gender-affirming care like laser hair removal for transfeminine people should be withheld from those who benefit from and need it. Because, as I’ve said, we don’t forget about our material reality and we realize that women, cis and trans alike, have to exist and survive in the society that is currently in place.
Recognizing that adhering to strict beauty standards prevents the dismantling of patriarchal gender norms ≠ being against individual bodily autonomy or gender-affirming care particularly for trans people.
Being critical about how we exist in society is never a bad thing and is indeed the first very small step necessary to enact actual change if such a thing is possible.