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derinthescarletpescatarian:

toastyglow:

A flow chart. "NEGATIVE EMOTION" leads to "MALADAPTIVE RESPONSE", which leads to "FALLOUT". That branches into the options "It's their fault for causing that emotion!" and "It's my fault for having that emotion!". In both cases "Emotion" is circled. Also circled is the "NEGATIVE EMOTION" item at the top, which is notated "Not the actual culprit". There is an arrow pointing to "MALADAPTIVE RESPONSE" which is notated "THIS IS THE BASTARD"ALT

I have a thing to get to but had to get this out real quick

This is what “your emotions are valid” means.

It doesn’t mean that any random shit you do is fine so long as you’re angry or sad. It means that the anger and sadness is fine, attacking the emotion is pointless, and it’s your behaviour in response to it that can help or harm.