as an entire queer trans allosexual i think it’s weird when other allosexuals don’t like the term allosexual for themselves. it just means not asexual. smacks of cis people who scream and howl and pee their pants about being called cis
“it lumps me in with my oppressors I don’t like it” cis does that too. lumps your lgbt ass right in with cishet people. so like. why are you ok being called cis but not allo
allosexual isn’t a slur it isn’t perjorative it’s just a word for not asexual. so that ace people don’t have to feel othered as hell when talking about people outside their community. what the fuck do you want them to call you? “normal”? your mask is slipping
ok im done with discourse now i prommy. please treat me really niceys
There’s a few people in the notes complaining that allo- is a stupid prefix because it means other. They think that the categories should just be “asexual” and “sexual.”
But, like, that’s what we did. When I was first realizing my sexuality and hanging out on thr AVEN forums a decade ago, that’s what the categories were.
And you know what? It didn’t work. Virgin and celibate allos didn’t appreciate being called a sexual being. Even those who have sex often don’t like just being called “sexual.”
So we needed an alternative. One of the earliest definitions of asexual is “self-contained sexuality.” It’s been put aside in favor of the current definition of lacking sexual attraction, but it still resonates with a lot of people. And especially did back when we were trying to figure out a better term for “not asexual.”
So allosexual was proposed. It was chosen because allosexual means that you are sexually attracted to other people. To people not yourself.
So yes, the etymology does make sense. You just didn’t bother to look into it.
(I hope the people complaining are doing so in good faith, but I’m not willing to test that by replying to anyone directly. Now the information is out there if anyone wants to bother to look.)