June 2025

iloveuppers:

im in the break room full brightness if anyone wants to reblog some porn

infectedwithnyanites:

antiterfbutch:

danepopfrippery:

youngalientype:

There’s a reason the state starts by going after the people you refuse to respect

Fuckin iowa jesus christ. And fucking republicans in general

Please notice that the wording they use has shifted from “marriage between one man and one woman” to “marriage between one male and one female”. This is not a coincidence. GCs and terfs have no excuse to not see the blood on their hands.

Daily reminder that bioessentialism is a fantasy.

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quietwingsinthesky:

i do think there should be more stories and shows and stuff about guys falling in love with butch women actually, i think that’d be a good thing. and not ‘this is as butch as twitter can handle’, i mean butch as can fucking be without apology, and making those boys weak in the knees about it. i think it’s great actually to have f/m romances that exist to break gender norms, too. i think it sucks that the only mainstream het romances that exist are either about women who are already feminine or with women who are just a little too scarily masculine and have to be fixed into being girlier. that’s shit.

Sybil Ramkin, my beloved.

lizifer-vonfunshine:

cat-mermaid:

igottatho-deactivated20250417:

depsidase:

It was said by Resmaa Menakem, and the full quote is: “Trauma decontextualized in a person can look like personality. Trauma decontextualized in a family can look like family traits. Trauma in a people can look like culture.”

This quote was taken from a podcast interview which Menakem participated in, which you can find here.

I highly recommend “My Grandmother’s Hands” for more of his thoughtful and nuanced words.

ooo ooo this feels like the same flavor of thing as that story about:

except that in the version i read, it was a guy asking the generations of women in a family why they cut off the ends, and the great grandma answered that it was because when she was young her family was so poor and didn’t have a big enough oven to fit the entire ham in

the point was that often if you go back far enough, the origin of bizarre, backwards and even harmful traditions/rules of society were often the result of people in that time period making the best of what they had, not because they thought it was the “right” way

the family in this story now has a big enough oven to fit the whole ass ham but its tradition to cut off the ends, its just how its done and the crazy part is that two fucking generations removed don’t even know why but they do it without questioning it because thats. how. we’ve. always. done. it.

so yeah i feel like this melds very nicely with the whole “Trauma in a people can look like culture” thing

So, like, this is going to heal very much like I’m boasting or something, but genuinely: this is why self-reflection and inventory-taking is so important. When we stop and ask ourselves “…why, though?” We can really start to deconstruct the things that don’t make sense for us.

A lot of the things I do in my life - or, more importantly, *don’t* do are explicitly because I have spent a fuckload of years doing personal inventory, thinking about “why am I doing this? Is this valid? Does this make sense to me to do?” And, subsequently, discarding shit that I think is dumb and doing shit other people might not because it is important *to me*

flagellant:

flagellant:

we dont really talk about it but HP Lovecraft just kinda looks like the guy who’d write all that shit like have you seen his portrait photo that man looks like he’d get a blue ribbon at the county fair for “soggiest, shakiest rabbit”

this is the face of a man with social anxiety and racism so bad that the life he lived is scientifically indistinguishable from the average Amnesia: The Dark Descent protagonist

moranion:

yeah, yeah, i know, academia is an evil bourgeois lair of useless elitist white cishet men writing self-congratulatory articles about nothing and groping their brilliant female students’ arses and so on and so forth, but occasionally, it is prudent to let some of those useless academics - plenty of whom are women and/or poc and/or lgbt nowadays, how shocking, and who’ve spent their lives learning EVERYTHING about a certain subject - explain a text or a concept to you, so that you don’t run around after with a wildly inaccurate understanding of smth like what ‘social construct’ means, or what Nietzsche was all about, or what Freud actually wrote or did or said, or inventing already invented strains of feminism, etc etc etc

oh, and while i’m at it - this whole “academia is useless” is a belief that the far-right ideology has been extremely fond of all throughout the last century or so. just saying. 

moranion:

yeah, yeah, i know, academia is an evil bourgeois lair of useless elitist white cishet men writing self-congratulatory articles about nothing and groping their brilliant female students’ arses and so on and so forth, but occasionally, it is prudent to let some of those useless academics - plenty of whom are women and/or poc and/or lgbt nowadays, how shocking, and who’ve spent their lives learning EVERYTHING about a certain subject - explain a text or a concept to you, so that you don’t run around after with a wildly inaccurate understanding of smth like what ‘social construct’ means, or what Nietzsche was all about, or what Freud actually wrote or did or said, or inventing already invented strains of feminism, etc etc etc

oh, and while i’m at it - this whole “academia is useless” is a belief that the far-right ideology has been extremely fond of all throughout the last century or so. just saying. 

yellenabelova:

#Happy Labor Day to Shrek I guess

strawberryteddybear:

lets go to sleep with mama

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tyrantisterror:

bcomic-blog:

tyrantisterror:

The core appeal of Willy Wonka is that he’s a nigh-omnipotent maniac who uses his near limitless powers over reality to trick shitty people into killing themselves. You can’t make him the protagonist of a whimsical coming of age tale - you have to treat him like Jason Voorhees, or Dracula, or any other horror icon. Give him some new victims and new interesting kills and set him loose, that’s all audiences want.

I feel like I watched a somewhat different movie…

This is why Gene Wilder is the only Willy Wonka I respect. He plays it SO FUCKING SINISTER and nobody since has even come close.

hallowvamp:

“How can you like these very toxic and horrible characters that have done despicable and unforgivable things?” oh it’s quite simple actually, this is fiction and I think with my dick.

pawberri:

schizopositivity:

In case anyone thinks this type of sanism doesn’t happen on Tumblr

It’s so hard when you’re in a state where you’re actually “schizo rambling” in public because everyone takes it as a joke. You can post “I’m having an psychotic episode from no meds” and people will reblog it as a joke… cuz this schizo stuff leaked off of 4chan and now we have to suffer for it… even videos of people having psychotic breaks go viral because people just think the state of being in psychosis is funny… please we are real people

And if you make jokes pretending to be schizophrenic or psychotic please consider what happens to us when you muddy the water about our experiences

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thisisthinprivilege:

baggytrousers27:

glitterandgoo:

systlin:

littlegreydove:

wodneswynn:

Man, when I was like 16 I got so sick of being made fun of for being the fat kid that I took an axe down inna woods, chopped down a tree, and started doing log-lifts all the time. I got strong as fuck, but I didn’t lose no weight. I actually got bigger.

Same thing happened when I got into fighting. I got even stronger, and I got *fast*, man, and nimble, like a cat. Still chubby.

Body-building culture is a bunch of crap, my dude. Functional muscle is not necessarily toned or lean. You can be swole as hell and still be heavy. And that’s cool.

Embrace your inner barbarian. And when fatphobic little gym twinks try to body shame you, you should DESTROY THEM with your MIGHTY AXE

Can comfirm, i am Quite Fat ™ but i still hit my punching bag hard enough last week make it touch the ceiling and broke a finger in the process

You know, I train with (martial arts) a bunch of dudes, and a few bodybuilders have showed up over the years. 

And every damn one of those huge shredded motherfuckers has the endurance of a fucking newborn puppy. Fifteen minutes into warmups and they’re panting for air like like they’re about to die. I’ve sparred them and every one of them telegraphs their moves about two weeks in advance, and are slower than my dead grandpa because their huge useless muscles get in the damn way. 

Now. I also work with a couple of guys who are not weightlifters. They do, however, do very physical jobs and are Big Dudes. Picture this sort of build. 

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No abs to speak of, a bit of a tummy, and those motherfuckers can pick up one of the weightlifters and throw them. 

And they’re fast. Like, unfair fast. 

Bodybuilding culture is bullshit. Embrace your status as a giant barbarian and if anyone gives you crap throw them off a mountain. 

i love and support all strong, fat people

This time, I DO mean to post it.

Bodybuilders don’t lift to be able to do work, including sports, combat, or even really lifting heavy weights. They lift to make certain specific muscles look big and defined. That’s why they have no endurance, that’s why they have no body fat, that’s why they can’t spar or do farm labor, that’s why they have no flexibility, that’s why comparatively tiny rock climbers regularly make them look like fucking chumps in tests of useful strength like, oh, I dunno, actually holding onto a heavy thing for more than one second. That’s why über-jacked Marvel superhero like Chris Evans and Hugh Jackman and Kumail Nanjiani all complain about how dehydrated and on-the-verge-of-passing-out they have to be to look Like That on set. They lift for aesthetics, and that’s a fine reason to exercise if it’s what you want, but expecting bodybuilders to be able to pitch hay bales all day is not realistic because it’s not what they’ve trained for. Powerlifters and manual laborers (i.e. the functionally strong) don’t look like bodybuilders because functional strength is a result of prolonged full-bodied work to build an entire body’s worth of support rather than just focusing on the muscles competition judges will salivate over.

itswalky:

rlyehtaxidermist:

the-silliest-stiltwalker:

prokopetz:

prokopetz:

prokopetz:

prokopetz:

I think we should bring back 1980s style Horrible Little Man animated mascots, but this time extend them to products beyond food.

“Horrible Little Man who’s fiendishly addicted to the product and will abase themselves utterly in order to get it”, except the product in question is furniture.

“Horrible Little Man who inexplicably hates the product and will go to enormous (and inevitably futile) lengths to prevent others from consuming it” who just can’t fucking stand blue jeans.

“Horrible Little Man who wields sinister magic to compel others to consume the product whether they like it or not” shilling for a major airline.

I NEED EVERYONE TO KNOW ABOUT MY BLORBO, MR DELICIOUS.


He is the former mascot for Rax, “You can eat here.” He’s a traumatized Vietnam vet with a vasectomy going through a midlife crisis who picked up drag.


He was such a bad mascot he killed the restaurant chain.


He could have been a tumblr sexyman in 2025. I love him so dearly and am currently writing about him getting pregnant.

jesus christ this is real.

he’s a special cartoon for adults

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dontgiveaduck8075:

catherinebunnington:

nosimpincurly:

You’re not depressed. You just need $250,000 in your bank account.

Reblog to materialize $250,000 in prev’s bank account

The previous two posts typed on an index card by a blue/green typewriter the card is still on.ALT

I’ve trapped prev in an index card

But did you give them $250,000

chilewithcarnage:

girldraki:

cardassiangoodreads:

gaynfl:

ON WISCONSIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is what I mean by right wingers being the MOST out-of-touch!!!! Journalists who interviewed Wisconsin voters are saying that voters for both candidates were really turned-off by Musk’s role in the race, and that they thought it was clear he was trying to buy their election. Musk and DOGE are getting booed in town halls in deep, deep red districts. These Republican Party officials are failing to listen to their own voters, not even just Democrats or swing voters, when they say these things. The only way you’d fail to recognize that Musk is unpopular throughout the American populace and its political spectrum is if you’re in a far-right echo chamber, probably online. If you’re just straight-up not leaving the house to get your impressions of how people vote.

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sreegs:

guy at a party you’re being introduced to and you will later learn he’s against AI use only because he thinks the AI is real and sentient and we’re abusing it but you wont find out this information until you’re three drinks in and locked in a forced conversation around the near-empty chip bowl at the snack table: hey whats up

That guy (who is totally not me using this post to think out loud cuz I don’t want to be the “calls people NPCs” guy): but no really think about it, how different is a sentient human being from a computer program fed huge amounts of data and trained to synthesize new information based on the data it’s been shown?

intriga-hounds:

Teeter tot

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ariaste:

malcolmschmitz:

literary-illuminati:

It’s very #problematic of me I’m sure but if they must do either I really desperately prefer authors coming up with fancy always-italicized elven words for being gay or trans than having preindustrial warrior aristocrats and barely-socialized monsters have a vocabulary that casually includes ‘demisexual’ and 'enby’.

This is only slightly a principled stance (queernorm fantasy worlds are very obviously not trying to have any sort of realistic political economy of gender, which I only slightly judge them for), mostly just painful aesthetic mismatch.

The thing that irks me about using modern queer terminology in fantasy is that you’re depriving yourself of a way to Say Things about people in your world.

In my YA fantasy book with the trans prince stealing back his kingdom, trans people are called cymerans. Cymerans are named after the goddess Cymera, who presides over death and change.

A person who decides to trans their gender is, in this society’s conception, dying and being reborn. They throw a wake for the person they used to be, a big party with food and drink and stories and laughter. (Part of the wake is the 'deceased’ giving their own eulogy, which is often an incredible self-roast.) It’s equal parts funeral for your past self and coming-out ball for your new self.

When someone is born, in this world, they’re consecrated to a god. Most of the time, you’re consecrated to the Lady of Currents (goddess of luck and the sea), Atheran (the god of bloodlines, and patron of the royal family), or the Beetlemaker (god of craftspeople). It really depends on who your parents are and what they want for your future. If your parents want you to be prosperous, they’ll consecrate you to the Lady. If your parents want you to be clever and inquisitive, they’ll consecrate you to the Beetlemaker. And if you’re the eldest son… you’ll get stuck getting consecrated to Atheran.

Most of the time, people don’t get consecrated to Cymera. If your baby is really sickly and you’re scared they’ll die, maybe? However…. there’s no formal rebaptism process, but most people see cymerans as having been re-dedicated to Cymera after their rebirth.

In this world, cymerans are Cymera’s children. They died and came out the other side of death, like a moth from the chrysalis.

…. You cannot get that across the same way if you just say 'transgender’.

You just can’t. It’s a completely different mindset. It’s a completely different conception of gender, trans genders, and religion-re:-queerness. Calling my protagonist “trans” isn’t inaccurate, but it leaves out a huge dimension of how he interacts with his gender and his world.

Using modern queer terminology in a secondary-world fantasy story is the same kind of thing as having your characters eat potatoes. Sometimes, it’s the right choice. A lot of the time, they should be eating cabbage, or turnips, or aklano root.

LOVE the trans worldbuilding there and 100% agree that giving them a Word for it is the same thing as giving them a Concept for it, and the Concept (as illustrated above) is so much deeper and more interesting. Cultures all over the world have had their own ways of categorizing/classifying the gender spectrum, and those categorical systems are can’t really be fully “translated”. For example, we can’t say that being two-spirit is the same as being nonbinary, because it’s not – it is as much an expression of Native culture as it is an expression of gender. That cultural element is significant enough that it must be considered as its own thing rather than shoved under the umbrella of “nonbinary” and therefore erased.

Now, there has been an ongoing conversation in the fantasy community about, “When is it appropriate to make up a word, and when should we just use the English word?” This is sometimes joked about as The Great Kahvee* Debate (*or other fantastical spellings of the word “coffee”), because of a trend in the 80s/90s for scifi/fantasy writers to anxiously try to erase all real-world concepts from their books in pursuit of Worldbuilding. “Well, you see, they can’t drink coffee because they’re not on Earth and they’ve never heard of it,” says the Fantasy Writer™, except the drink in question looks like coffee, tastes like coffee, has the same physiological effect as coffee, is drunk in the same contexts as we drink coffee, and is potentially flavored with sukrr (fantasy sugar; spellings vary) and milk from a creature you’ve never heard of (or, if your author is really unhinged, some other appalling bodily excretion). We have, as a society, mostly agreed that this is Silly, and now characters drink coffee in your fantasy novels.

So the question you face as a writer is, “If this character is [trans, gay, nonbinary, whatever], and it’s exactly the same as it is in the real world, should I bother to make up a word for it?” The authors who are answering “If it is the Exact Same, I will use the IRL word for it” have swung the pendulum of fashion on the Great Kahvee Debate allllllllll the way to the other end, possibly out of a desire to do Good Representation. Except… I don’t really feel like mentioning a label IS good representation (except perhaps to small babies who don’t have enough reading comprehension to recognize a concept unless it is Clearly Labeled), so the way it actually comes across is, rather, a desire to BE SEEN to be doing Good Representation without actually doing much work. Because being queer in your fantasy world ISN’T going to be exactly the same as being queer in the real world. Whatever culture your character is operating within IS DIFFERENT, that is why you have gone to all the trouble to talk about their special magical tattoos or their special magical dragon familiars or their special magical prophecies or whatever. Give them their own word for what they are, IF that categorization system is important in their culture – and it might not be! In which case they might not have a word for it! Like, a character might just say, “Oh, that man? No, girl, you don’t have a chance, he only has boyfriends” instead of “He’s gay.”

You don’t have to give them a label, either a fantasy one or a real-world one. You’re allowed to say, “They don’t think about sexuality that way” – that is a perfectly valid worldbuilding choice, and I encourage you to lean into that and explore it! You don’t have to have a label! But what you DO have to do is treat your queer characters like whole, complex people and honor the culture that they come from even if it’s a made-up one.

Which brings me to the subject of italicizing the special fantasy words – I’d encourage people to just leave them in plaintext, actually! This ties into an ongoing discussion on the exoticization of foreign languages in English text (link to an article on the subject). Basically, it marks those words out as jarringly OTHER, which 1) doesn’t make a whole lot of sense when the speakers themselves are using the words with fluent familiarity, 2) implicitly frames English as the dominant language over all other languages (linguistic imperialism as an expression of white supremacy), and 3) doesn’t even make sense from a descriptive-linguistic perspective when you look at how easily and readily English adopts words from other languages into common parlance.

Consider the sentence: “I went to the cafe and ordered a chai latte” – italicize chai for emphasis is fine (“no, i didn’t order a coffee latte, it was a chai latte”); but it is patently absurd to italicize it (or cafe!) for being an ✨exotic foreign word✨. We know what chai is, we know you can buy it at a cafe. The words have entered our language. English speakers are very, very used to learning new words for a Specific Concept (“Sitting in the sauna eating naan and sipping boba that I bought from the tomato-colored kiosk”). Scifi/fantasy readers will do this even more readily (see Jo Walton’s article about SF Reading Protocols).

If you’re in the dialogue/narration of someone for whom the word/concept is just part of the ambient cultural background, honor that! Even if they are a fantasy person from a fantasy culture, honor it! It’s good practice for real life. :)

See also: Terry Pratchett’s dwarfs with regards to gender roles. He says, and I quote, “["He”] is used to refer to both sexes. All dwarfs have beards and wear up to twelve layers of clothing. Gender is more or less optional.“ Later on, he discusses dwarf courtship rituals, which mostly consist of very discreetly trying to figure out if someone is the right gender for you. And when a dwarf character decides that, you know what, if gender is optional, then surely there must be an option other than Male, it turns the entirety of dwarfdom upside down, because suddenly, out of the woodwork, perfectly respectable dwarfs are seen wearing sensible floor length leather skirts and high-heeled iron boots and battle axes with fetching carry-straps and a bit more jewels than you’d typically festoon a mining implement with, and chainmail so fine that it doesn’t even chafe! And there is, of course, a nasty and brutal war about it, complete with a killing slur, "ha'ak”, used to indicate an “undwarfish” lifestyle almost exclusively in the presence of Known Female Dwarfs. All of this is done without using “out” or “closet” or “transgender” or “presentation” or any IRL/modern words at all besides the female pronouns. Because the concept is not the same as being transgender.

sadfransisko:

enki2:

[ID: Screenshot from what appears to be a tiktok of a femme-presenting person looking pointedly at the camera, with text above them that reads: “Are drag queens inherently sexual or are you unable to divorce the performance of femininity from a presumed solicitation of sex?” /End description]

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realgoogleclassroom:

tf2incorrectquotes:

banesberry-anomoly:

6qubed:

the-floral-skeleton:

foodie-semi-evil-witch:

antioch-actius:

nevercure:

ndiecity-deactivated20241101:

femmedesyeuxnoirs:

MEAT BERRY MEAT BERRY MEAT B

They did tissue recellularization on a grape

Please watch this guy’s YouTube

He is a real life mad scientist

be altered his genome so he won’t be lactose intolerant anymore

he made bioluminescent living Christmas tree ornaments

he made a cold torch just to feel fire with his handd

he made gecko hand pads in an attempt to climb walls

this man.. He tried to make spider silk out of beer

All of that was done by ONE GUY!?

I-

I’m sorry, did you say he cured his own lactose intolerance on a cellular level??

in the midst of what is clearly Mad Science Previously Undreamt Of, it’s kinda nice to hear somebody else classifies grapes as berries

This is also Wheeljack sorry I dont make the rules chat

Medic-core

Reminds me of this other youtuber, NileRed, he does stuff like making toilet paper into moonshine, and cotton balls into actual cotton candy

NileRed also turned children’s glue into moonshine and vinyl gloves into hot sauce and diamonds into sparkling water and Styrofoam into cinnamon candy and made purple gold, I love the era of harmless subscriber-funded mad science so much more than the inherently violent military industrial one

bendingsignpost:

mercuryfountain-deactivated2024:

PSA gays: if you’re wearing a mesh/lace shirt to a pride fest, sunscreen your whole chest/back before putting it on. I can’t live to see another diva fall prey to sunburns with bizarrely specific patterns.

Also goes for fishnet leggings!

coffeepeople:

I find it endlessly fascinating that most humans just want someone who will get up in the middle of the night to close the windows with them when it starts down pouring. We want someone to dry our dishes after we wash them. We just want another person to do mundane activities with. We want to tell someone how the copy machine broke at work and we want to listen to how Debra is causing office drama again. We just want something so simple. We want human connection and honesty and to be bored with someone else instead of bored alone. 

dumbusahana:

younger subs (18-21 year olds) or new to kink subs, please make friends with other subs. please talk to people who aren’t potential partners about your kinks, please create safety nets for yourselves, please don’t let doms hold too much power over you. it’s easy to miss red flags or to misread them as part of the kink, having other subs to check in with can really help you be less vulnerable to manipulation or coercion.

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sensoryscorpio:

creepymutelilbugger:

hikarisakurariver:

ya0ishi:

wardenaristraith:

rabbitheartedfool:

applejuicewerewolf:

iampattonsanders:

balillee:

rikusqueenofhearts:

kleeklutch:

happy pride month to country mama lynn and country mama lynn only

Someone give this woman a damn crown and medal

Happy pride month to country mama lynn and ger gay son only

aint it crazy how many people realize they’re queer when they have the language to express how they feel and a support system to encourage self exploration????

I never stop enjoying reading this. Literally everyone’s lives improves.

Ancient legends say that if you reblog this on June you get 110% gayer and stronger

right at the beginning when she’s like how do I help my son feel loved and accepted I’m here shouting
“QUEEN YOU ALREADY DID THAT BY TAKING HIS SIDE AND LEAVING THAT NO GOOD HUSBAND FOR HAVING THE AUDACITY TO KICK YOUR BABY OUT!”
And Good for her! this is the only response to a man who kicks out a child.

FUCK YES I LOVE THIS

happy early pride to Country mamma lynn and her gay son and her gay son’s BF :3

Happy pride to Country Mama Lynn, I’m glad this post came around again so baby queers can know how parents should react if they come out this month

injuries-in-dust:

Gotta admit, any one of these would work on me.

Love me some burritos.

Source: could be worse comics

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manichewitz:

trans men and trans women are not opposites bc men and women period are not opposites. man and woman are not two sides of the same coin they are two drops of water in the great gender ocean

And I’m pissing in it

anarchistmemecollective:

elbiotipo:

elbiotipo:

elbiotipo:

Also I’ve said this before but advertising is an industry that should be considered as pointless and harmful as fossil fuels.

“as harmful as fossil fuels? don’t you think you’re exaggerating a bit?” the world’s largest and most sophisticated surveillance networks that gather incomprehensible amounts of personal data to make profits technological companies who are the largest corporations on the world and shapers of public opinion often for the worse, all do it for advertising.

Cut the head, just ban advertising.

#not to mention the amount of power that electric billboards suck up every minute of every day #and the paper that goes into junk mail #and all the labor that goes into marketingALT

that-house:

8ball-wizard:

maidthings:

evil-tips:

monikatouhou:

Tip: you can microwave stale croissant for 15-20 seconds and it will become soft and warm and nice. Cut it open, put butter in it. Peace and love

Tip: you can refrigerate stale croissant for 3-6 hours and it will become mushy and cold and unpleasant. It won’t cut well, so just put a big clump of cold, hard butter on it. Strife and hatred.

Tip: you can do nothing to a stale croissant for any arbitrary length of time and it will remain as is. Do not cut it, or add butter. Stasis and stagnation.

Tip: you can cast Butter Blast on practically any pile of pastries to make them absolutely fucking soaked in butter. it’s excessive and a little gross. magic and power.

Tip: you can put a stale croissant in the HELL OVEN for 666 years and it will TURN EVIL. Cut it until it BLEEDS and put SHADOW BUTTER in the wounds. Torment and regret.

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viktor-sbor:

In the 1830s, such books were very popular, as they showed the reader amazing 3D projections.

This is fucking SIIIIIIIIICK

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throathole:

I will never fucking understand grown ass gay men who are ONLY attracted to really muscular men or ONLY attracted to big dicks or any other unrealistic gay porn stereotype like… you have the sexuality of a 15 year old. How are you at this big age and you haven’t evolved at all. How are you not just turned on by the vast majority of men or am I the broken one

I have some unfortunate news about straight men too

bestest-goblin:

rapidashrider:

poorghost:

utah-mountain-drifter-deactivat:

guerrillatech:

no one follows the trees warning

You know the parable about how the foolish man built his house upon sand and the wise man built his house upon rock and it’s always about having a sturdy foundation well there is also the fact of location which is that the sand probably used to be rock except it’s been eroded to sediment because it’s a FUCKING FLOODPLAIN

I feel like a dumbass, but @rapidashmascot just revolutionised my understanding of that parable.

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ramshacklefey:

arithmeticanimaniac:

itspeanutlove:

mommyhorror:

tiktoks-for-dead-pope:

Creepiest monster thing alive: moves like that

this little girl: 😊☺️😄😄☺️😊🤩

This is so cute omg my heart is going vrooom vroroooooom

The little boy holding the sign is having a Very Different Experience

Is this the same person who did a video in a similar suit where they show you how to make pancakes in a tiny kitchen and the suit is just knocking shit all over the place?

doomhamster:

salmonandsoup:

sosayset:

seymour-butz-stuff:

c-ptsdrecovery:

educatedsavage:

probablyasocialecologist:

sisyphereantask:

sustainableseparatists:

rumade:

I’d divorce him too lmao

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood. 

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”

And if you can’t respond to the emotional bid at that moment, let them know you heard them. If there’s a gorgeous bird outside, ask your loved one to take a picture so you can share in it together. But by god, hear them. Tell them they were listened to.

That *is* a response though! Telling someone “I’m busy/low on energy right this moment, but if it’s possible, I’d love for you to show me this thing later” works just fine. At least so long as you establish a pattern of actually following up on it, even if it’s just going “hey, wasn’t there a thing you wanted to show me? a bird?”

Most people hate being told “later”, but that’s just because most people who say “later” really mean “I can’t be bothered”.

luxshine:

blurds:

this is the funniest thing I’ve seen in weeks

The “Thunk” will always kill me.

danepopfrippery:

Actor Johnathan Joss was just murdered for being gay. On the first day of pride 2025. He was best known for playing John Redcorn on King of the Hill.

I had no idea he was gay but he was married to a man named Tristan Kern de Gonzales (on valentines day 2025!)

They lived in San Antonio Texas where his family is from and he grew up. He was 59.

In Janurary 2025 his home was burned down which made news. It killed some of his beloved dogs. He didnt elaborate beyond he believed it was arson (gofundme is still up and i suggest donating to help his funeral costs and his husband

)

Now we know he and his husband had been threatened by several neighbors for being queer. They told pigs, pigs being pigs did nothing before or after it happened.

Yesterday Joss and his husband went to check their mailbox wherein they found one of their dogs skulls (statement from his husband

)

As they weeped and mourned in shock, a neighbor, Sigfredo Alvarez Ceja, came out and aimed at de Gonzales…but Hoss jumped in front of the bullet and was instantly killed.

Ceja, homophobia murdering coward, tried to take off but de Gonzales had called pigs who vaguely tried to do something. He was arrested and his bail set for $200k. Or as my sister said who the fuck sets bail for a murderer?

San Antonio.

De Gonzales is clearly mourning, posting pics on Hoss’ fb page. This one really struck me

This is why we need pride people, and not rainbow capitalism. Please donate to the gofundme and let san antonio cops knows what you think. De Gonzales said multiple neighbors had threatened them…id like to see those people investigated for arson.

Go into pride with rage and knowing. Have joy, kiss puppies, dont bow to homophobes. And maybe enjoy a little king of the hill.

thestuffedalligator:

A regular part of my job is trying to reach out to people who have been quietly trying to make their community a better place; the volunteers, the teachers, the fucking. People who rehabilitate injured wild owls in a Quonset hut in the woods, and to a one this is the kind of person who immediately reviles at recognition. The kind of person who immediately says that they never got into this to get praise for it, and that they’d infinitely prefer to quietly plug away at this anonymously forever.

And from this I’ve always drawn two conclusions:

  1. To always distrust Mr. Beast and his ilk who always want their acts of charity done on film, because the people who really want to do good and have no motives to do it besides the doing it never want recognition for it, and
  2. That there are, in the dark, in the quiet, always people who are doing good, and the reason you don’t hear about it is because they’d rather die than receive recognition for it, but they’re real; they do exist. And you are never alone

exit-pursued-by-spiders:

ariaste:

the-uncanny-dag:

museoftragedies:

captainlordauditor:

marzipanandminutiae:

jg-piff:

starshine-honey:

jg-piff:

starshine-honey:

fakewant:

mycoolstoryworld:

saintemiliosandoz:

y’all really recommend books like: title, there are gay characters, enemies to lovers, young adult, written by poc

not once do i ever see a summary

What more info do you need?

A SUMMARY

WHAT DO U MENA SUMMARY WHAT ELSE MATTERS ITS GAY POC AND ENEMIES TO LOVERS HOW OFTEN DO U CONE ACROSS THAT

i want to know what its about mainly. is it a romance? is there plot besides the romance? is it realistic fiction? sci fi? fantasy? historical? future? alternate history? whats the tone? what are the themes? what are the main characters’ NAMES?

I- it’s gay the gay

i value queer characters too. but i also want to know WHAT THE BOOK I’M READING IS ABOUT.

“GAY AND/OR RACIALLY DIVERSE” IS NOT A GENRE. nor is it an indicator of quality

do you know how many times I’ve been recommended a book solely because “it’s queer fantasy!”

do you know how many times those books have been so poorly written that I couldn’t finish them

Mostly, I want to know the tone. A 19th century war story isn’t gonna do it for me when I’m in the mood for a lighthearted austenesque romance - and those are both historical. A star warsy space romp isn’t gonna do it if I want to read about interplanetary political negotiations - and those are both sci fi. A fun gratuitious don’t-think-about-it-too-hard action story is not the same as a dark and complicated mob drama. A suspenseful thriller will bore me if I’m looking for a fast paced spy novel.

not providing a summary literally just shows how you treat marginalized people and their representation as this token woke thing that you can show off like a shiny trophy. no, people aren’t going to read something just because it has representation! that’s not how it works!

Black & white board on a red brick wall saying:  THE WRITER (SHE/HER) IS A TRANS WOMAN AND LEBANESE-CANADIAN WHO ALSO IDENTIFIES AS QUEER. HER WORK IS ABOUT

Artist bio by Anna Daliza

When people say “summary”, what they want is that paragraph or two from the back cover of the book (or the flap of the dust jacket, or the description from the book’s page on a bookstore’s website) that says something like….

“Jane Maincharacter had never thought she could do hero stuff. But when plot event happens and Jane’s most beloved place/thing/way of life/vibes is threatened by Bob Antagonist, Jane picks up a giant magic sword and vows to obliterate him from existence and save everything she has ever loved. The only problem is, she’s been kidnapped by a pack of sexy kobolds.”

You are allowed to just copy-and-paste the back-cover summary when you are telling people about the book! You don’t even have to come up with a summary yourself! The cover-copy (fancy industry term for “summary on the back of the book”) has already been specifically handcrafted and engineered for the purposes of telling people what the book is about. By all means point out other highlights that speak to you, such as the representation in the book (“Jane is trans and all the sexy kobolds are bisexual!”), your favorite trope (“It’s got enemies-to-lovers and only one bed!”), your favorite line or character or vibe (“The sexiest kobold guard is SO FUNNY, he makes a ‘hi hungry i’m kobold’ joke that had me on the floor laughing”) or scene (“The scene at the beginning where Jane goes into the attic and unearths her grandfather’s giant magical hero sword…. ahhh i won’t post spoilers but I was screaming and cheering, SO GOOD”). But if people are like, “WHAT IS THE BOOK ABOUT” just give them the back-cover summary! Copy and paste that shit! That’s literally what it is for!

This is why I hate that ad going around that’s like “trans heroines! Sapphic romance! Blah blah blah please buy our content we are pandering to you faggots and dykes just ignore the fact that we’re only doing this because you freaks are the only people still buying books these days”

exit-pursued-by-spiders:

kaceycat:

waynekiller:

robotclownery:

boccs:

headspace-hotel:

longsightmyth:

discountalien-pancake:

longsightmyth:

longsightmyth:

brb the whole discord in an uproar at the UNCONSCIONABLE results of Mister Global 2022

seriously though, MR. SPAIN?!

Mr Spain vs the runner up Mr Vietnam. Like. How the fuck?

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Looking very respectfully at Mr. Vietnam

I mean personally I was in favor of Mr. Peru and Mr. Nigeria but I can fully agree Spain can get out of there.

Tbh mr spain looks like a piece of art compared to britain and cuba’s costumes

SE asia brought the thunder

Alright you guys I found all 33 of them, and it seems there’s three schools of thought for the costumes: Just Some Guy (tends to be more traditional or modern clothing), Slutty Halloween Costume, and Balls To The Wall Batshit Insanity. I can’t pick a favorite, so here they all are in alphabetical order by country:

(By virtue of there being 33, which doesn’t split into groups of 4 evenly, Vietnam gets to be the big photo.)

What a beautiful, majestic lineup.

Honestly if your Mister Global costume doesn’t include a huge fucking weapon what the fuck are you even doing there

splendentgoddess:

splendentgoddess:

FOR PARENTS OF YOUNG KIDS IN THE US!

Someone over on bluesky posted this and I figured I’d better repost it here. It’s the pre-RFK 2025 vaccination schedule for babies and young children, ya know, just in case it mysteriously disappears. Save this and give it to your child’s pediatrician; tell them this is the schedule you want your child on.


Got a hold of the older children/teen and adult versions of this chart.
Vaccines for everyone!

writerbuddha:

starwarsfangirl:

“Nor did we expect the story of the galactic republic’s decline to be so tedious and technocratic, involving trade embargos, boring speeches to the senate” laments The Guardian’s Ben Child in 2024 May. In 2025 April:

problemnyatic:

reagan-was-a-horrible-president:

jean-luc-gohard:

I honestly don’t understand why there aren’t more people who, when given the platform to discuss minimum wage, don’t simply distill it to the simplest of facts:

  • A forty hour work week is considered full time.
  • It’s considered as such because it takes up the amount of time we as a society have agreed should be considered the maximum work schedule required of an employee. (this, of course, does not always bear out practically, but just follow me here)
  • A person working the maximum amount of time required should earn enough for that labor to be able to survive. Phrased this way, I doubt even most conservatives could effectively argue against it, and out of the mouth of someone verbally deft enough to dance around the pathos-based jabs conservative pundits like to use to avoid actually debating, it could actually get opps thinking.
  • Therefore, if an employee is being paid less than [number of dollars needed for the post-tax total to pay for the basic necessities in a given area divided by forty] per hour, they are being ripped off and essentially having their labor, productivity, and profit generation value stolen by their employer.
  • Wages are a business expense, and if a company cannot afford to pay for its labor, it is by definition a failing business. A company stealing labor to stay afloat (without even touching those that do so simply to increase profit margins and/or management/executive pay/bonuses) is no more ethical than a failing construction company breaking into a lumber yard and stealing wood.
  • Our goal as a society should be to protect each other, especially those that most need protection, not to subsidize failing businesses whose owners could quite well subsidize them on their own.
  • Wages are a business expense, and if a company cannot afford to pay for its labor, it is by definition a failing business. A company stealing labor to stay afloat (without even touching those that do so simply to increase profit margins and/or management/executive pay/bonuses) is no more ethical than a failing construction company breaking into a lumber yard and stealing wood.

oh my god this post is ten years old

reallyseally:

*flopping on your lap* plushie time!!!!! you may pet me now until i declare that plushie time is over okay?

fridayagaingarfiebaby:

Friday Again Garfie Baby

unclefather:

peashooter85:

A world map without place names except for Bhutan and Greenland, which are labeled in the wrong places.

Thank you. I needed to see this today

t4tails:

t4tails:

does aquaman even have villains other than black manta and ocean master. he’s always fighting those two guys

wow. and people say he’s not a relevant character

virtualtoybox:

BORN TO FORGET

WORLD IS A BLUR

I Am Memory Issues Man

410,757,864,530 FORGOTTEN PRECIOUS MEMORIES

moringmark:

tarragonthedragon:

irish coworker: *is back from a month in italy*

me: the weather must have been great, you’re looking so tanned!

irish coworker: *stares down at his arms, which are a shade of eggshell white i associate with tasteful wedding table settings* i suppose i am!

welsh coworker: *enters room* wow, youre looking so tanned!

ghanaian coworker: *looks around like hes on the truman show*