Just so you know, a normal response to a child breaking something is to first check to see if they got hurt and then if they’re old enough make them help clean it up. And then afterwards explaining to them how to avoid doing that in the future. At no point is yelling necessary to make them understand why they shouldn’t do that.
This also works for teenz. Teenager get drunk? Well, that’s a good opportunity to check in with their mental health and teach them how to drink responsibly in the future. Don’t try to match the amount your boyfriend drinks, Jessica. You have an estrogen system and you’re like four feet tall. Eat some bread.
A lot of people say this method is “too soft” but my dad taught me how to drink when I was fifteen and I never once got yelled at for breaking things and guess who doesn’t go around binge drinking and breaking stuff over peoples heads? Me, that’s who. I didn’t need fear or treats to learn things because I’m not a dog and neither is your child
As someone whose father was the “yell about it” type of parent, I eventually figured out that if he was determined to see everything I did as intentionally malicious no matter what, then I had nothing to lose or gain by putting the effort in and just quit trying. I already knew not to break things on purpose because I wasn’t an idiot, but I had no reason to be polite or generous with HIM because he made it clear through his actions that effort or intent would never be appreciated.
I moved out at 17 and didn’t talk to him again till I was 25.
If your actions show that you are determined to see someone as malicious, they will eventually become malicious.
Just so you know, a normal response to a child breaking something is to first check to see if they got hurt and then if they’re old enough make them help clean it up. And then afterwards explaining to them how to avoid doing that in the future. At no point is yelling necessary to make them understand why they shouldn’t do that.
This also works for teenz. Teenager get drunk? Well, that’s a good opportunity to check in with their mental health and teach them how to drink responsibly in the future. Don’t try to match the amount your boyfriend drinks, Jessica. You have an estrogen system and you’re like four feet tall. Eat some bread.
A lot of people say this method is “too soft” but my dad taught me how to drink when I was fifteen and I never once got yelled at for breaking things and guess who doesn’t go around binge drinking and breaking stuff over peoples heads? Me, that’s who. I didn’t need fear or treats to learn things because I’m not a dog and neither is your child
As someone whose father was the “yell about it” type of parent, I eventually figured out that if he was determined to see everything I did as intentionally malicious no matter what, then I had nothing to lose or gain by putting the effort in and just quit trying. I already knew not to break things on purpose because I wasn’t an idiot, but I had no reason to be polite or generous with HIM because he made it clear through his actions that effort or intent would never be appreciated.
I moved out at 17 and didn’t talk to him again till I was 25.
If your actions show that you are determined to see someone as malicious, they will eventually become malicious.
Just so you know, a normal response to a child breaking something is to first check to see if they got hurt and then if they’re old enough make them help clean it up. And then afterwards explaining to them how to avoid doing that in the future. At no point is yelling necessary to make them understand why they shouldn’t do that.
This also works for teenz. Teenager get drunk? Well, that’s a good opportunity to check in with their mental health and teach them how to drink responsibly in the future. Don’t try to match the amount your boyfriend drinks, Jessica. You have an estrogen system and you’re like four feet tall. Eat some bread.
A lot of people say this method is “too soft” but my dad taught me how to drink when I was fifteen and I never once got yelled at for breaking things and guess who doesn’t go around binge drinking and breaking stuff over peoples heads? Me, that’s who. I didn’t need fear or treats to learn things because I’m not a dog and neither is your child
As someone whose father was the “yell about it” type of parent, I eventually figured out that if he was determined to see everything I did as intentionally malicious no matter what, then I had nothing to lose or gain by putting the effort in and just quit trying. I already knew not to break things on purpose because I wasn’t an idiot, but I had no reason to be polite or generous with HIM because he made it clear through his actions that effort or intent would never be appreciated.
I moved out at 17 and didn’t talk to him again till I was 25.
If your actions show that you are determined to see someone as malicious, they will eventually become malicious.
Just so you know, a normal response to a child breaking something is to first check to see if they got hurt and then if they’re old enough make them help clean it up. And then afterwards explaining to them how to avoid doing that in the future. At no point is yelling necessary to make them understand why they shouldn’t do that.
This also works for teenz. Teenager get drunk? Well, that’s a good opportunity to check in with their mental health and teach them how to drink responsibly in the future. Don’t try to match the amount your boyfriend drinks, Jessica. You have an estrogen system and you’re like four feet tall. Eat some bread.
A lot of people say this method is “too soft” but my dad taught me how to drink when I was fifteen and I never once got yelled at for breaking things and guess who doesn’t go around binge drinking and breaking stuff over peoples heads? Me, that’s who. I didn’t need fear or treats to learn things because I’m not a dog and neither is your child
As someone whose father was the “yell about it” type of parent, I eventually figured out that if he was determined to see everything I did as intentionally malicious no matter what, then I had nothing to lose or gain by putting the effort in and just quit trying. I already knew not to break things on purpose because I wasn’t an idiot, but I had no reason to be polite or generous with HIM because he made it clear through his actions that effort or intent would never be appreciated.
I moved out at 17 and didn’t talk to him again till I was 25.
If your actions show that you are determined to see someone as malicious, they will eventually become malicious.
okay, so, im aromantic, right? and i have a polyamorous friend. i waa curious about polyamory so i asked them about it. they explained that some like multiple people at the same time but kind of jump from person to person. i called it couch surfing but romantic. i have no idea if that was rude or not
i never fucking get how you’re supposed to measure the waist in online shopping. do you mean the whole circumference or half? and if it’s half, what arbitrary point on my body is half??? FUCKING TELL ME!
if this is the whole circumference then the largest size they have would be 30 cm too small for me. like what do they mean here
thank you online shops that get different models to model different sizes, i love you, it’s so much more helpful
“you don’t get it, the usa is a fascist country full of government propaganda, and our rights as women and queer people are constantly attacked!! you have no idea what that’s like!!” i’m hungarian 👍
the brave oppressed american says under a post literally written by people from other countries. you don’t have access to it? you don’t have access to the information by the foreigners you’re currently whining about because they’re being too mean to you? on the world wide web?
you’re not going to get put on a list and disappeared for the crime of knowing mexico has cities. like get some fucking perspective.
You can still go to a library and pick up a shitload of books. Get a life and drop the dramatics.
Newsflash: if you can read this, you have access to Tumblr reblogs from good ol’ Germany. Unglaublich, I know.
In my Irl Au, digital hallucinations still persist even after escaping the digital circus, and unfortunately [Pomni] experiences them the most intensely…
[gripping the sink] perfectionism does not help me avoid embarrassment or shame. perfectionism is in itself a form of shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame
“does this character eat pussy” poll and it’s your full name first middle and last under an unflattering candid picture of you having a bad experience at the grocery store
im not sure if americans realize this but “not knowing anything about other countries and their politics” is very much a USamerican privilege and not actually a sign of like. how oppressed you are
Food history has been so sanitized by the demonization of carbs. “Our ancestors only had fruits and veggies they didn’t have all these refined carbs” our ancestors drank beer 25/8 because the water was bad. Our ancestors drizzled honey on shit ever since we knew it existed. We’ve been making bread for our entire recorded history. It’s true that bleached sugars specifically are a new thing but high glycemic carbs are not new at all, we’ve been consuming them for thousands of years
Quick correction bc I see this myth everywhere.
People drank beer & fruit wine 25/8 because it was high in calories and also tasty and pretty cheap/easy to make in bulk.
IT WAS NOT USED TO REPLACE OR SANITIZE WATER! THEIR WATER WAS NOT BAD!
The alcohol content in beer/wine back then was too low to actually sanitize anything effectively, and beer/wine only lasts for 6 months (usually less) even while still sealed in a cask, due to oxidization. Oxidation turns fermented liquids into vinegar. Wine and beer wasn’t meant for long-term storage.
This is great, because vinegar is the great preserver! VINEGAR is what people used to store their foods long-term, along with SALT and DRYING and SMOKING.
“Pickling” can be done with pure vinegar if you don’t have any expensive salt around, and vinegar can be made by fermenting any fruit or grain with wild yeast! If you’re lucky, you can also get wine/beer treats out of it on the way.
Circling back around: beer/wine was NEVER a replacement for water. Humans have been drinking from ground springs, wells, rainwater, and clear running water since our ape ancestors got the instinct to avoid stagnant pools.
If you didn’t have immediate access to a source of clean water, you didn’t fucking build a town there!
That’s a big reason why, WORLDWIDE, settlements are ALL historically clustered around sources of water like springs, wells, and rivers. (Or utilized rainwater catchment & storage) And why “the town well is poisoned/dried up!” Is a huge and terrible thing that comes up in a ton of old stories. Losing your source of freshwater means everyone has to move somewhere else, or die.
Even in huge cities, you’d be surprised at how sophisticated freshwater delivery systems were in the middle-ages. London had the “great conduit.” - a man-made, underground channel that moved water directly from a freshwater spring to fill a water tank in the Cheapside marketplace, accessible to the public. This conduit was built in 1245.
Mesopotamians in the BRONZE AGE built clay pipes for sewage removal, and other pipes for rain water collection, and wells. In 4,000 BC.
Building Aqueducts to move spring water into towns was first attributed to the Minoans, who lived in 2,000 BC.
Sanskrit texts from 2,000 BC also detail how to purify water you’re not sure about: expose it to Sunlight, filter it through Charcoal, dip a piece of copper in it at least 7 times, and filter it again. (UV treatment kills bacteria, Charcoal catches many poisons and heavy metal, copper is also antibacterial) <- even if they didn’t know what germs were, prehistoric humans were great at recognizing patterns, and noticing when people DIDNT die.
Persians in 700 BC used ‘qanat’, or tunnels dug into hillsides to let gravity move (CLEAN!) groundwater to nearby towns + for agriculture irrigation. Qanats were still the main water supply for the entire Iranian capitol city until about 1933.
The Roman Empire (312 BC) also built aqueducts to move spring and groundwater across miles and miles.
The Incas (1450) built wondrous examples of hydraulic engineering. Their “stairway of fountains” supplied the entire city of Machu Picchu with fresh spring water from a pair of rain-fed springs atop the mountain. The fountain canals could carry about 80 gallons a minute.
Getting clean drinking water was just not an issue for normal people in MOST long-term settlements. They may not understand germ theory, but they knew clean water was important and would kick up a BIG fuss if those water sources were sabotaged.
In conclusion: people absolutely drank beer and wine with breakfast. They also drank water. It was not a replacement.
In many cultures, there were weak beers. They had names like small beer — they were specifically beers that had low alcohol because people knew that beer got you drunk and if you watered it down or re-brewed using previously used hops or barley or whatever, then you would get a beer that wouldn’t get you drunk.
Same with wines: there was get you drunk wine, and there was wind that you could drink a lot of. They were also cordial made by concentrating fruit juice, or historical drinks like Posca.
As far back is the Babylonian Empire they were making pastries out of dates and pistachios and flour.
Previous to that they probably were as well, but we don’t have any written records of it.
Literally as soon as somebody figured out that you could smash some high fat, high carb, high sugar stuffed together and bake it into something resembling cookies, they absolutely did.
So you should go and eat a cookie, because all of your ancestors spent a lot of time arranging the situation of civilisation to make sure that cookies were available. And if you don’t eat one then they’re going to be very sad
Food history has been so sanitized by the demonization of carbs. “Our ancestors only had fruits and veggies they didn’t have all these refined carbs” our ancestors drank beer 25/8 because the water was bad. Our ancestors drizzled honey on shit ever since we knew it existed. We’ve been making bread for our entire recorded history. It’s true that bleached sugars specifically are a new thing but high glycemic carbs are not new at all, we’ve been consuming them for thousands of years
Quick correction bc I see this myth everywhere.
People drank beer & fruit wine 25/8 because it was high in calories and also tasty and pretty cheap/easy to make in bulk.
IT WAS NOT USED TO REPLACE OR SANITIZE WATER! THEIR WATER WAS NOT BAD!
The alcohol content in beer/wine back then was too low to actually sanitize anything effectively, and beer/wine only lasts for 6 months (usually less) even while still sealed in a cask, due to oxidization. Oxidation turns fermented liquids into vinegar. Wine and beer wasn’t meant for long-term storage.
This is great, because vinegar is the great preserver! VINEGAR is what people used to store their foods long-term, along with SALT and DRYING and SMOKING.
“Pickling” can be done with pure vinegar if you don’t have any expensive salt around, and vinegar can be made by fermenting any fruit or grain with wild yeast! If you’re lucky, you can also get wine/beer treats out of it on the way.
Circling back around: beer/wine was NEVER a replacement for water. Humans have been drinking from ground springs, wells, rainwater, and clear running water since our ape ancestors got the instinct to avoid stagnant pools.
If you didn’t have immediate access to a source of clean water, you didn’t fucking build a town there!
That’s a big reason why, WORLDWIDE, settlements are ALL historically clustered around sources of water like springs, wells, and rivers. (Or utilized rainwater catchment & storage) And why “the town well is poisoned/dried up!” Is a huge and terrible thing that comes up in a ton of old stories. Losing your source of freshwater means everyone has to move somewhere else, or die.
Even in huge cities, you’d be surprised at how sophisticated freshwater delivery systems were in the middle-ages. London had the “great conduit.” - a man-made, underground channel that moved water directly from a freshwater spring to fill a water tank in the Cheapside marketplace, accessible to the public. This conduit was built in 1245.
Mesopotamians in the BRONZE AGE built clay pipes for sewage removal, and other pipes for rain water collection, and wells. In 4,000 BC.
Building Aqueducts to move spring water into towns was first attributed to the Minoans, who lived in 2,000 BC.
Sanskrit texts from 2,000 BC also detail how to purify water you’re not sure about: expose it to Sunlight, filter it through Charcoal, dip a piece of copper in it at least 7 times, and filter it again. (UV treatment kills bacteria, Charcoal catches many poisons and heavy metal, copper is also antibacterial) <- even if they didn’t know what germs were, prehistoric humans were great at recognizing patterns, and noticing when people DIDNT die.
Persians in 700 BC used ‘qanat’, or tunnels dug into hillsides to let gravity move (CLEAN!) groundwater to nearby towns + for agriculture irrigation. Qanats were still the main water supply for the entire Iranian capitol city until about 1933.
The Roman Empire (312 BC) also built aqueducts to move spring and groundwater across miles and miles.
The Incas (1450) built wondrous examples of hydraulic engineering. Their “stairway of fountains” supplied the entire city of Machu Picchu with fresh spring water from a pair of rain-fed springs atop the mountain. The fountain canals could carry about 80 gallons a minute.
Getting clean drinking water was just not an issue for normal people in MOST long-term settlements. They may not understand germ theory, but they knew clean water was important and would kick up a BIG fuss if those water sources were sabotaged.
In conclusion: people absolutely drank beer and wine with breakfast. They also drank water. It was not a replacement.
In many cultures, there were weak beers. They had names like small beer — they were specifically beers that had low alcohol because people knew that beer got you drunk and if you watered it down or re-brewed using previously used hops or barley or whatever, then you would get a beer that wouldn’t get you drunk.
Same with wines: there was get you drunk wine, and there was wind that you could drink a lot of. They were also cordial made by concentrating fruit juice, or historical drinks like Posca.
As far back is the Babylonian Empire they were making pastries out of dates and pistachios and flour.
Previous to that they probably were as well, but we don’t have any written records of it.
Literally as soon as somebody figured out that you could smash some high fat, high carb, high sugar stuffed together and bake it into something resembling cookies, they absolutely did.
So you should go and eat a cookie, because all of your ancestors spent a lot of time arranging the situation of civilisation to make sure that cookies were available. And if you don’t eat one then they’re going to be very sad
the main problem i have with america is that nothings old as hell there. i cant be so far away from a castle it damages my aura
man people really just say stuff on here huh
Noooo haha don’t spread racist ideals and colonizer propaganda by idolizing white european aesthetics above all else and denying the life and accomplishments of native peoples on their own lands
People have been living in the downtown area of Tucson, Arizona for at least 4,500 years. The greaterSanta Cruz river valley has been occupied by humans for 12,000 years.
You see this?
That’s not a river. That’s the South Canal in Mesa, Arizona (Phoenix metro area).
This is a view of the East and South canals. At least half of all the Phoenix metro canals were originally built by the Hohokam (from roughly 200-1400 CE), and are still in use (restored) today.
Phoenix, Arizona actually has more miles (kilometers) of Canals total than both Venice and Amsterdam. No, really. Phoenix has about 180 miles of canals, many of which are built on ancient canal foundations.
below is an aerial view photo taken in the late 1930’s of one branch of Phoenix’s canal systems:
Also have the “Montezuma Castle,” if you need a castle:
I don’t need to look at some 12th century European castle to see age.
Squidward clocking out of the Krusty Krab and heading to the nearest gay after hours event
Come on, now, op. We all know squidward doesn’t go to the club.
He’s one of those “I’m not like other gays” gays who goes home to a bottle of wine and his obscure 50s vaudeville records, and then mopes because he can never find a boyfriend.
I love this website so much
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you can leave the house with a bare face and suffer no consequences btw. if you’re a woman you do not have to wear any makeup
places and events i’ve worn no makeup to: every job interview i’ve ever done (i’m employed), every doctor’s appointment i’ve ever attended (i still get treated), every shift i’ve ever worked (nobody gives a fuck), every pub and nightclub i’ve ever been to (they still let you in)
topping is actually gayer than bottoming because like the top is the one who’s deciding again and again to put his dick in another man. The other guy could just be chilling. For all we know
topping is actually gayer than bottoming because like the top is the one who’s deciding again and again to put his dick in another man. The other guy could just be chilling. For all we know
Me, after forgetting to cut the top off an onion before dicing it: “Aw dammit”
The Gordon Ramsey that lives in my head: “Don’t worry there, this mistake isn’t going to ruin anything. No need to be too hard on yourself”
Me: “Wow, that’s…not what I was expecting”
Gordon: “Of course, you ought to know by now that I don’t shout at cooks just to do so. I do it because the people in hit television show Kitchen Nightmares are putting their services out into the public and claim to be good enough to have the title of head chef. You’re just some guy in your twenties making beef stroganoff for yourself and your roommate. I’m kind of a dick, yeah, but I’m not gonna scream at you for a minor mistake like this”
-i go to a university that takes exam season so seriously that nightclubs and bars are shut down early in order to accommodate study schedules
-7 years ago the president of the student union of my constituent college had to send an email begging us to have quieter sex during exam period (aka quiet period) after multiple noise complaints, which obviously became a massive meme across the whole university
-now at the start of every exam season we get our student union president drunk and make them send a new sex email to the whole college
It’s genuinely so much worse than just this. People have basically gotten it to show a fuck load of its biases, one of which is to prioritize any opinion given by Elon Musk in any form. It scrapes interviews, podcasts, videos, whatever and will give his opinion special treatment in its algorithm.
We obviously all knew this was happening but having Grok itself expose this as fact is fucking hilarious.
It’s made even funnier by Grok admitting that a lot of his views don’t actually make sense when compared with actual evidence and how it was instructed to treat opinions posted on Twitter as better evidence than anything put out by actual, reputable sources.
some nice bits that were on the link! medicine has a massive misogynistic bias it needs to address.
my family has a history of hypothyroidism, but my mom wasnt diagnosed for decades. she was misdiagnosed and only symptoms were addressed without searching for the actual reason. even now, because how how long she went untreated, her bodys systems are extremely taxed, causing other issues. her body is permanently off the deep end to some degree because doctors refused to investigate to a proper degree.
if you have consistent symptoms, keep pushing. the doctor is not always right. keep pushing.
ALT
