A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it’s been a long day and he didn’t mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn’t need to do that for my sake.
His response: “No, it’s my name now.”
I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he’s immigrating and in the process he’s changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That’s why he’s now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: “It’s mine now. Not yours. I’m taking.” His tone indicated that decision is final.
Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It’s his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.
like, okay, consent does literally just mean agree. which is what enables this little rhetorical trick. because there’s all this cultural emphasis on sexual consent, which is just expressed as consent, a lot of phrases whose intended meanings are “rape is bad” can be taken literally to mean “i should get to agree to everything that happens in my vicinity.”
for an example, “i didn’t agree to seeing you wear that shirt” is straightforwardly a fucking insane thing for someone to say, but people regularly make use of this trick to make the (functionally identical) statement “i didn’t consent to seeing that”
Strongly recommend that people familiarize themselves with the white supremacist concept of “right to comfort” because of how scarily that concept aligns with this behavior
THIS is where the logic comes from that drives misogynistic control of what women wear, how fat people exist in public, how disabled people exist in public, miscontrues kink-related fashion as the same as sex itself, and prevents people breastfeeding their children in clean environments.
Its interesting what demographics are effected most negatively by this huh
when i go in a room and forget what i needed i become a point and click protagonist. [water bottle?] that’s not helpful right now. [socks?] i don’t know what to do with that. [charger?] that’s not helpful right now. [scissors?] i can’t do anything with that. [water bottle?] that’s not helpful right now. [lone paperclip?] that’s not helpful right now. [water bottle?]
Off the coast of Australia Macroctopus caught the shark, wrapped all its tentacles around it and soon released it. Most likely, he scraped all the parasites off her.
The octopus
this is how sharks stay smooth
Bro the cuttlefish and everything else checkin it ou
the best part is the rapidly growing crowd of onlooker fish and squids hoping that this event will end in a festive shower of delicious shark guts (it did not. woe to the peanut gallery)
We never really talked about it but The Ugly Ducking that grew up to be a beautiful swan was still probably pretty fugly from a duck’s perspective
Like that story isn’t about an ugly duckling that grew up sexy, it’s a fucking swan was judged as a duck and hated itself as a duck until it found out it wasn’t a duck and stopped trying to be a duck.
The actual ducks in the neighborhood were probably still looking around at perfectly normal swans like “damn, look at those busted ass ducks”
This is pretty important, actually. The good ending is finding the other swans, not tearing yourself to pieces trying to impress the ducks.
So many people who claim to care about trans issues will see conservative transphobes rave about “cutting off healthy breast tissue” and “girls mutilating themselves,” rage or clown on male pregnancy, constantly share post-op photos of top surgery scars and phallo skin grafts to illicit outrage, transvestigate male celebrities to “prove he’s secretly a woman”–and then turn around and declare that the Right forgets that trans men and mascs exist. I’m so tired of it.
Customer started yelling at me because I was 1 minute late to open the shop so I banned him from shopping with us and locked the door on him. Play stupid games.
This man had the audacity to come back at the end of the day as I was closing up by the fucking way. Ranting and raving about how he had been mistreated and that no one had even bothered to reply to his complaint email all day
Well I had the UNBRIDLED joy of informing him that not only had I seen his email, which was insanely abusive towards me for the crime of being 1 minute late and not putting up with his shit first thing in the morning, but that I was also the manager who he demanded to speak to, and I’d now also had our IT team block his IP address from being able to contact us or order with us ever again.
I should’ve been allowed to castrate the man but this will have to do
Okay this got way more notes than I was expecting so I feel like I should add some important context here. I’m not management. I’m not even middle management I’m just some guy that works here. I don’t have the authority to do any of this I just like lying to customers
saying “you are a burden on society” is just such a weird framing of priorities
It’s like saying “wow, think how much better gas mileage your car would get if you weren’t sitting in it” or “think how dry that umbrella would be if you weren’t holding it in between you and the rainstorm”.
the things we create? they’re for us. they are meant to carry us. they are meant to protect us. we are meant to hold them up to keep us dry.
why do we even have a society if not to take care of each other?
I just liked someones post from 2023 with 1 singular note. I hope they see that and are reminded of their past self. i hope they are frightened because who tf is liking a frankly quite boring post from two years ago with, previously, 1 note? i hope they are scared of me. i hope they are active on tumblr and are reminded of the times they did not know how to post, and are scared and embarrassed and laugh a little.
For those who don’t understand, EBT are food stamps (government money for buying food for low-income people). Because the money is from the government, it comes with horrific restrictions, one of which is you cannot buy “prepared” food with it. You can only buy raw chicken, not cooked chicken, for example.
This kitchen is getting around that stupid rule by selling you raw, unprepared chicken, and then charging your EBT account for raw, unprepared chicken.
Then as a side thing, totally unrelated, they cook the chicken for free. Since you bought raw chicken with the EBT, it’s legal. There’s no law against cooking people’s raw chicken for free for them. That’s just charity.
This kitchen is a blessing to anyone who doesn’t have a kitchen of their own.
Ah yes, prepared food, the thing that of course poor people would have no reason to buy. Everyone knows that people living in poverty are guaranteed to have infinite free time and energy, access to an equipped and functional kitchen, and be free from disabilities that affect their ability to cook. Poor people never have unreliable gas or electricity, are never struggling to feed multiple dependents, and just live for the chance to come home from ten hours of underpaid work to spend another hour in the kitchen cooking. Excluding prepared food from benefits makes SO much sense, it’s not like that’s the demographic who needs it the most or anything. We gotta make their lives as hard as possible so they’ll choose not to be poor.
For those who don’t understand, EBT are food stamps (government money for buying food for low-income people). Because the money is from the government, it comes with horrific restrictions, one of which is you cannot buy “prepared” food with it. You can only buy raw chicken, not cooked chicken, for example.
This kitchen is getting around that stupid rule by selling you raw, unprepared chicken, and then charging your EBT account for raw, unprepared chicken.
Then as a side thing, totally unrelated, they cook the chicken for free. Since you bought raw chicken with the EBT, it’s legal. There’s no law against cooking people’s raw chicken for free for them. That’s just charity.
This kitchen is a blessing to anyone who doesn’t have a kitchen of their own.
Ah yes, prepared food, the thing that of course poor people would have no reason to buy. Everyone knows that people living in poverty are guaranteed to have infinite free time and energy, access to an equipped and functional kitchen, and be free from disabilities that affect their ability to cook. Poor people never have unreliable gas or electricity, are never struggling to feed multiple dependents, and just live for the chance to come home from ten hours of underpaid work to spend another hour in the kitchen cooking. Excluding prepared food from benefits makes SO much sense, it’s not like that’s the demographic who needs it the most or anything. We gotta make their lives as hard as possible so they’ll choose not to be poor.
an appalling number of marginalized people in this upcoming generation appear to be under the impression that saying they’re “reclaiming” a slur gives them a free pass to use that slur in a derogatory way towards other marginalized people in their communities that they dislike or think are annoying. maybe it’s just the people i’ve had the misfortune of encountering in the wild, but it’s getting bleak out there, folks.
like the other day i encountered some cunt using the fucking R slur to refer to an autistic person stimming in a way they found annoying, and when confronted about their ableism, they replied, “oh, i have ADHD, i can reclaim it.” and it’s like, no, you jackass, you absolutely the fuck cannot! that is not what that means! if the way you use a word is indistinguishable from the way a fucking nazi would use that word, then you’re not “reclaiming it” anymore, you dumb bastard!!! you’re just using it the same way the damn nazi does!!! shut the fuck up and be kinder you ass!!!
Reclaiming a slur means applying it to yourselves as a badge of honor. It needs to be used with a positive connotation. That is what reclaiming means!
If you are not talking about yourself, it is not reclamation.
If you are not talking about the group kindly, it is not reclamation.
You reclaim a word by making it from a weapon into a way to connect with your own community positively. That is what reclamation means.
due to the moisture in the air just about everywhere in the world, even continuous oiling and waxing was not entirely sufficient to prevent the rusting of armour. because of this, sand and vinegar came in great handy for the removal of rust. even still, fabric that came into contact with the rust would be stained, and because armour was worn with specialised clothing, that clothing needed regular maintenance as well.
The thing about reclaiming slurs is that once you’ve been affectionally called ‘faggot’ by friends, loved ones, and amiable fellows on the internet for long enough, you almost forget that it means something else to people who hate you.
Honestly at this point if a stranger on the street yelled “hey faggot!” after me, I’d probably turn around like “what?” like they’d just casually called me by name, and they were only trying to get my attention because they wanted to tell me something, before processing that they’re being hostile.
That is the wettest sounding bat I’ve ever heard. :’)
In fairness Australia does actually have “bat rabies” so you should still be careful handling bats, but it’s a lot more controllable than normal rabies (which we do not have). This person clearly knows what they’re doing though.
ALT
