What i’ve been learning thru my research is that Lawn Culture and laws against “weeds” in America are deeply connected to anxieties about “undesirable” people.
I read this essay called “Controlling the Weed Nuisance in Turn-of-the-century American Cities” by Zachary J. S. Falck and it discusses how the late 1800’s and early 1900’s created ideal habitats for weeds with urban expansion, railroads, the colonization of more territory, and the like.
Around this time, laws requiring the destruction of “weeds” were passed in many American cities. These weedy plants were viewed as “filth” and literally disease-causing—in the 1880’s in St. Louis, a newspaper reported that weeds infected school children with typhoid, diphtheria, and scarlet fever.
Weeds were also seen as “conducive to immorality” by promoting the presence of “tramps and idlers.” People thought wild growing plants would “shelter” threatening criminals. Weeds were heavily associated with poverty and immortality. Panic about them spiked strongly after malaria and typhoid outbreaks.
To make things even wilder, one of the main weeds the legal turmoil and public anxiety centered upon was actually the sunflower. Milkweed was also a major “undesirable” weed and a major target of laws mandating the destruction of weeds.
The major explosion in weed-control law being put forth and enforced happened around 1905-1910. And I formed a hypothesis—I had this abrupt remembrance of something I studied in a history class in college. I thought to myself, I bet this coincides with a major wave of immigration to the USA.
Bingo. 1907 was the peak of European immigration. We must keep in mind that these people were not “white” in the exact way that is recognized today. From what I remember from my history classes, Eastern European people were very much feared as criminals and potential communists. Wikipedia elaborates that the Immigration Act of 1924 was meant to restrict Jewish, Slavic, and Italian people from entering the country, and that the major wave of immigration among them began in the 1890s. Almost perfectly coinciding with the “weed nuisance” panic. (The Immigration Act of 1917 also banned intellectually disabled people, gay people, anarchists, and people from Asia apart from the Chinese…which were already banned since 1880.)
From this evidence, I would guess that our aesthetics and views about “weeds” emerged from the convergence of two things:
First, we were obliterating native ecosystems by colonizing them and violently displacing their caretakers, then running roughshod over them with poorly informed agricultural and horticultural techniques, as well as constructing lots of cities and railroads, creating the ideal circumstances for weeds.
Second, lots of immigrants were entering the country, and xenophobia and racism lent itself to fears of “criminals” “tramps” and other “undesirable” people, leading to a desire to forcefully impose order and push out the “Other.” I am not inventing a connection—undesirable people and undesirable weeds were frequently compared in these times.
And this was at the very beginnings of the eugenics movement, wherein supposedly “inferior” and poor or racialized people were described in a manner much the same as “weeds,” particularly supposedly “breeding” much faster than other people.
There is another connection that the essay doesn’t bring up, but that is very clear to me. Weeds are in fact plants of the poor and of immigrants, because they are often medicinal and food plants for people on the margins, hanging out around human habitation like semi-domesticated cats around granaries in the ancient Near East.
My Appalachian ancestors ate pokeweed, Phytolacca americana. The plant is toxic, but poor people in the South would gather the plant’s young leaves and boil them three times to get the poison out, then eat them as “poke salad.” Pokeweed is a weed that grows readily on roadsides and in vacant lots.
In some parts of the world, it is grown as an ornamental plant for its huge, tropical-looking leaves and magenta stems. But my mom hates the stuff. “Cut that down,” she says, “it makes us look like rednecks.”
Invasion ecologists are taking seriously how many of our commonly-used terms reinforce xenophobia.
I had a discussion with someone I work with about the term “pioneer species” and the rather inaccurate and questionable colonialism-tied implications.
I prefer “disaster species,” but “pioneer species” is still the typically used term.
My Appalachian ancestors ate pokeweed, Phytolacca americana. The plant is toxic, but poor people in the South would gather the plant’s young leaves and boil them three times to get the poison out, then eat them as “poke salad.” Pokeweed is a weed that grows readily on roadsides and in vacant lots.
Okay wait. Wasn’t there that post about the word “pokemon” being used in the early 20th century or something? About how it meant someone who was really slow or something?
Either I’m misremembering it, or there may be a connection here…
Pokeweed comes from an Algonquin word translating to “dye plant” so it’s probably not related.
Wait wait wait is that why USAmericans would rather do all the nonsense involved in importing fucking quinoa rather than like… this is why amaranth is classified as a noxious weed in so many places, isn’t it? Because a hardy pseudocereal that just grows wherever would like, help poor people not fucking starve? And while there are native amaranths in a lot of the US, it’s pretty damn cosmopolitan, so many immigrants would know what to do with it, because there was also amaranth where they lived before?
A lot of the way we live is focused around avoiding the aesthetic appearance of poverty, yeah.
So, it seems what you’re saying is more or less: If people could even partially live off the food growing in their neighborhood, they wouldn’t be as exploitable. If they worked together to build a community farm that built solidarity and diversified nutrition, they would be even less exploitable. So the exploiters use laws and propaganda to avoid such things as much as possible.
So maybe we should be doing more sustainable farming, community gardens, homegrown fibres, and generally more pleasing and diverse environments in our “lawns” (while doing due diligence to ensure that we aren’t causing inadvertant ecological problems)?
That is punk as hell. I am getting many ideas and many questions. Maybe I’ll do research and post something when the Texas heat dies down enough that I can think.
Absolutely.
I haven’t been able to read about it in much depth yet but there’s this concept called food sovereignty which is basically people especially marginalized people having agency over their food systems instead of relying on Corporation which controls their resources
I think gardening and knowing plants and growing food and useful plants as part of a COMMUNITY is very powerful because it creates a kind of safety net that you can partly rely on for your basic needs instead of depending on the whims of Corporation
Kaitlin Smith of Outdoor Afro & Storied Grounds in Boston has a whole historical tour about this, but a lot of anti-foraging laws and policies came into effect in the US following the abolition of slavery, when migrating, poor Black families would have to rely on wild plants to survive.
(Kaitlin also has a talk about how Black enslaved people in the US grew their own abortifacient plants for… the exact horrifying reason you might think. If you are in the Boston area and a Black person or close loved one to one, her tours are for you! Go check them out.)
Also if you’re in the Midwest, Alexis Nikole Nelson AKA @blackforager does really videos about plants, foraging, and the history of racism against black and indigenous people in the US
This ties deeply into indigenous oppression as well. One of the first peoples targeted by for foraging/trespassing law and eliminating “weeds” was indigenous peoples.
It’s well documented that there was no trespassing or law against foraging in early US history. It’s even documented that the founding fathers thought foraging, and the land’s bounty, was a god given right as it kept many alive in the early colonial days.
Once the US government was well established, 100 years later, and expanding west rapidly, trespassing and foraging became outlawed for two reasons.
One was so that towns near indian settlements could have a reason to shoot and harass them. Townships claimed a large excess of food growing forest around them, forest that natives had cultivated for generations as a primary food source, and then forced them natives as they were “trespassing.” Not even getting into that native NA agriculture is food forests….
Second, was after the civil war, plantation owners still needed workers. One of the surefire ways to get them was to criminalize any way to live off the land, and make the only available work for black folks, plantation work.
From what I’ve seen, the criminalization of foraging is far more extreme in the south, lesser in the west, and least in the north east.
But it all ties into classism, racism, and forcing the poor people of the country to benefit the wealthly. Here’s a pretty decent article to kickoff all these ideas.
me, every single time i see people (especially women) talking about the divine feminine energy, or the sacredness of the womb or whatever it is now:
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context is this quote by her:
But I didn’t and still don’t like making a cult of women’s knowledge, preening ourselves on knowing things men don’t know, women’s deep irrational wisdom, women’s instinctive knowledge of Nature, and so on. All that all too often merely reinforces the masculinist idea of women as primitive and inferior – women’s knowledge as elementary, primitive, always down below at the dark roots, while men get to cultivate and own the flowers and crops that come up into the light. But why should women keep talking baby talk while men get to grow up? Why should women feel blindly while men get to think?
The real problem with fan-media treating domming as synonymous with topping is that it obliges one to leave unexplored the rich comedy potential of depicting the object of one’s fandom attempting to dominantly suck a dick.
Adding my favorite comments on this wonderful post
Sucking dick is INCREDIBLY dominant. You are holding something precious millimeters away from sharpened bones designed to rip meat and tear it off of bones. You are in a position of INSANE physical power and control, it’s only society’s hatred of women and bottoms that makes you think otherwise.
You want to include some Gypsies in your fantasy setting. Or, you need someone for your main characters to meet, who is an outsider in the eyes of the locals, but who already lives here. Or you need a culture in conflict with your settled people, or who have just arrived out of nowhere. Or, you just like the idea of campfires in the forest and voices raised in song. And you’re about to step straight into a muckpile of cliches and, accidentally, write something racist.
(In this, I am mostly using Gypsy as an endonym of Romany people, who are a subset of the Romani people, alongside Roma, Sinti, Gitano, Romanisael, Kale, etc, but also in the theory of “Gypsying” as proposed by Lex and Percy H, where Romani people are treated with a particular mix of orientalism, criminalisation, racialisation, and othering, that creates “The Gypsy” out of both nomadic peoples as a whole and people with Romani heritage and racialised physical features, languages, and cultural markers)
Enough of my friends play TTRPGs or write fantasy stories that this question comes up a lot - They mention Dungeons and Dragons’ Curse Of Strahd, World Of Darkness’s Gypsies, World Of Darkness’s Ravnos, World of Darkness’s Silent Striders… And they roll their eyes and say “These are all terrible! But how can I do it, you know, without it being racist?”
And their eyes are big and sad and ever so hopeful that I will tell them the secret of how to take the Roma of the real world and place them in a fictional one, whilst both appealing to gorjer stereotypes of Gypsies and not adding to the weight of stereotyping that already crushes us. So, disappointingly, there is no secret.
Gypsies, like every other real-world culture, exist as we do today because of interactions with cultures and geography around us: The living waggon, probably the archetypal thing which gorjer writers want to include in their portrayals of nomads, is a relatively modern invention - Most likely French, and adopted from French Showmen by Romanies, who brought it to Britain. So already, that’s a tradition that only spans a small amount of the time that Gypsies have existed, and only a small number of the full breadth of Romani ways of living. But the reasons that the waggon is what it is are based on the real world - The wheels are tall and iron-rimmed, because although you expect to travel on cobbled, tarmac, or packed-earth roads and for comparatively short distances, it wasn’t rare to have to ford a river in Britain in the late nineteenth century, on country roads. They were drawn by a single horse, and the shape of that horse was determined by a mixture of local breeds - Welsh cobs, fell ponies, various draft breeds - as well as by the aesthetic tastes of the breeders. The stove inside is on the left, so that as you move down a British road, the chimney sticks up into the part where there will be the least overhanging branches, to reduce the chance of hitting it.
So taking a fictional setting that looks like (for example) thirteenth century China (with dragons), and placing a nineteenth century Romanichal family in it will inevitably result in some racist assumptions being made, as the answer to “Why does this culture do this?” becomes “They just do it because I want them to” rather than having a consistent internal logic.
Some stereotypes will always follow nomads - They appear in different forms in different cultures, but they always arise from the settled people’s same fears: That the nomads don’t share their values, and are fundamentally strangers. Common ones are that we have a secret language to fool outsiders with, that we steal children and disguise them as our own, that our sexual morals are shocking (This one has flipped in the last half century - From the Gypsy Lore Society’s talk of the lascivious Romni seductress who will lie with a strange man for a night after a ‘gypsy wedding’, to today’s frenzied talk of 'grabbing’ and sexually-conservative early marriages to ensure virginity), that we are supernatural in some way, and that we are more like animals than humans. These are tropes where if you want to address them, you will have to address them as libels - there is no way to casually write a baby-stealing, magical succubus nomad without it backfiring onto real life Roma. (The kind of person who has the skills to write these tropes well, is not the kind of person who is reading this guide.)
It’s too easy to say a list of prescriptive “Do nots”, which might stop you from making the most common pitfalls, but which can end up with your nomads being slightly flat as you dance around the topics that you’re trying to avoid, rather than being a rich culture that feels real in your world.
So, here are some questions to ask, to create your nomadic people, so that they will have a distinctive culture of their own that may (or may not) look anything like real-world Romani people: These aren’t the only questions, but they’re good starting points to think about before you make anything concrete, and they will hopefully inspire you to ask MORE questions.
First - Why are they nomadic? Nobody moves just to feel the wind in their hair and see a new horizon every morning, no matter what the inspirational poster says. Are they transhumant herders who pay a small rent to graze their flock on the local lord’s land? Are they following migratory herds across common land, being moved on by the cycle of the seasons and the movement of their animals? Are they seasonal workers who follow man-made cycles of labour: Harvests, fairs, religious festivals? Are they refugees fleeing a recent conflict, who will pass through this area and never return? Are they on a regular pilgrimage? Do they travel within the same area predictably, or is their movement governed by something that is hard to predict? How do they see their own movements - Do they think of themselves as being pushed along by some external force, or as choosing to travel? Will they work for and with outsiders, either as employees or as partners, or do they aim to be fully self-sufficient? What other jobs do they do - Their whole society won’t all be involved in one industry, what do their children, elderly, disabled people do with their time, and is it “work”?
If they are totally isolationist - How do they produce the things which need a complex supply chain or large facilities to make? How do they view artefacts from outsiders which come into their possession - Things which have been made with technology that they can’t produce for themselves? (This doesn’t need to be anything about quality of goods, only about complexity - A violin can be made by one artisan working with hand tools, wood, gut and shellac, but an accordion needs presses to make reeds, metal lathes to make screws, complex organic chemistry to make celluloid lacquer, vulcanised rubber, and a thousand other components)
How do they feel about outsiders? How do they buy and sell to outsiders? If it’s seen as taboo, do they do it anyway? Do they speak the same language as the nearby settled people (With what kind of fluency, or bilingualism, or dialect)? Do they intermarry, and how is that viewed when it happens? What stories does this culture tell about why they are a separate people to the nearby settled people? Are those stories true? Do they have a notional “homeland” and do they intend to go there? If so, is it a real place?
What gorjers think of as classic “Gipsy music” is a product of our real-world situation. Guitar from Spain, accordions from the Soviet Union (Which needed modern machining and factories to produce and make accessible to people who weren’t rich- and which were in turn encouraged by Soviet authorities preferring the standardised and modern accordion to the folk traditions of the indigenous peoples within the bloc), brass from Western classical traditions, via Balkan folk music, influences from klezmer and jazz and bhangra and polka and our own music traditions (And we influence them too). What are your people’s musical influences? Do they make their own instruments or buy them from settled people? How many musical traditions do they have, and what are they all for (Weddings, funerals, storytelling, campfire songs, entertainment…)? Do they have professional musicians, and if so, how do those musicians earn money? Are instrument makers professionals, or do they use improvised and easy-to-make instruments like willow whistles, spoons, washtubs, etc? (Of course the answer can be “A bit of both”)
If you’re thinking about jobs - How do they work? Are they employed by settled people (How do they feel about them?) Are they self employed but providing services/goods to the settled people? Are they mostly avoidant of settled people other than to buy things that they can’t produce themselves? Are they totally isolationist? Is their work mostly subsistence, or do they create a surplus to sell to outsiders? How do they interact with other workers nearby? Who works, and how- Are there 'family businesses’, apprentices, children with part time work? Is it considered 'a job’ or just part of their way of life? How do they educate their children, and is that considered 'work’? How old are children when they are considered adult, and what markers confer adulthood? What is considered a rite of passage?
When they travel, how do they do it? Do they share ownership of beasts of burden, or each individually have “their horse”? Do families stick together or try to spread out? How does a child begin to live apart from their family, or start their own family? Are their dwellings something that they take with them, or do they find places to stay or build temporary shelter with disposable material? Who shares a dwelling and why? What do they do for privacy, and what do they think privacy is for?
If you’re thinking about food - Do they hunt? Herd? Forage? Buy or trade from settled people? Do they travel between places where they’ve sown crops or managed wildstock in previous years, so that when they arrive there is food already seeded in the landscape? How do they feel about buying food from settled people, and is that common? If it’s frowned upon - How much do people do it anyway? How do they preserve food for winter? How much food do they carry with them, compared to how much they plan to buy or forage at their destinations? How is food shared- Communal stores, personal ownership?
Why are they a “separate people” to the settled people? What is their creation myth? Why do they believe that they are nomadic and the other people are settled, and is it correct? Do they look different? Are there legal restrictions on them settling? Are there legal restrictions on them intermixing? Are there cultural reasons why they are a separate people? Where did those reasons come from? How long have they been travelling? How long do they think they’ve been travelling? Where did they come from? Do they travel mostly within one area and return to the same sites predictably, or are they going to move on again soon and never come back?
And then within that - What about the members of their society who are “unusual” in some way: How does their society treat disabled people? (are they considered disabled, do they have that distinction and how is it applied?) How does their society treat LGBT+ people? What happens to someone who doesn’t get married and has no children? What happens to someone who 'leaves’? What happens to young widows and widowers? What happens if someone just 'can’t fit in’? What happens to someone who is adopted or married in? What happens to people who are mixed race, and in a fantasy setting to people who are mixed species? What is taboo to them and what will they find shocking if they leave? What is society’s attitude to 'difference’ of various kinds?
Basically, if you build your nomads from the ground-up, rather than starting from the idea of “I want Gypsies/Buryats/Berbers/Minceiri but with the numbers filed off and not offensive” you can end up with a rich, unique nomadic culture who make sense in your world and don’t end up making a rod for the back of real-world cultures.
Preserving tags because these are interesting and useful! Carneys in the States seem to operate totally differently to Showmen in the UK and in Europe in general, where Showman is a hereditary culture (as in, a Showman child remains a Showman their whole life even if they grow up and get a job as an accountant) as well as a profession.
So the Showmen (Always Showmen and singular Showman, which means you do end up with sentences like “A Showman woman wearing a green hat” but that’s just how it is) and Circusfolk- who are basically, the people who own circuses and fairground rides.
And it’s kind of obvious when you think about why- Running a circus requires not just personal coordination between people, but also huge investment: You might spend tens of thousands of pounds on a lorry to haul your gear (your ride, your stall, your actual Big Top itself, seating for customers, metal railings to direct crowds) and the same again on a trailer to live in while you’re on the road - And then you need somewhere to live on the off-season, which usually means a Yard in the UK, which is a permanent address where you both live during the winter when the show isn’t travelling, and where you put things that are undergoing maintenance (eg, new parts for attractions, a shed to paint in which has things like an airbrush booth, fibreglass moulds, potentially old rides or props from old shows that you don’t use right now but that you might bring back into use later, vehicles like tractors and haul trucks to help with setup and teardown etc) - Which means that you are, generally, committed to living in chalets and trailers rather than in a brick house, you’re likely going to live somewhere out in the edge of town where land is cheap rather than in a city centre (and the cities which DO have yards in the centres often have long legal battles as they try to evict their historic Showman communities!) and you’ll be raising your kids in a way that is generally 'different’ to settled people. So most people pass their things down to their kids, as an ongoing business and also as physical STUFF, as land, as machinery, as well as as cultural norms - Who will have themselves grown up travelling with the fair or circus in the season, so they already know “how it all works” and will usually have been helping out since they were little - Obviously, they hire labourers (so your misfit character could definitely realistically be hired to help build up or to drive a wagon, or to be a specialist performer) but just culturally, usually customer-facing jobs will go to a friend’s teenage kids, or your own kids, or some other relative who is willing to help out.
And then, you have to coordinate with other people, because one circus or fair as experienced by the public might actually be ran by two or three families who live in a handful of yards across the area - Eg, the Robinsons have the Waltzer and the Smiths have the shuggy boat and the Millers have the candyfloss stall and the hook-a-duck - Or the Smarts have the big tent and the Joneses have the horses and acrobat act and the Coopers do a car show - And none of them can really work alone without the others’ cooperation. And this is the other incredibly valuable inheritance: Human connections. When you know another family, and you’ve known for six generations that you’ve always travelled together and worked together, you have that kind of social license to expect more of each other- “Of course I’ll let young Jones take a pitch with me, his grandmother painted the old rounding boards on my gallopers, and his sister is going to marry my niece…” sort of thing. A “black book” that is a century deep is a valuable thing in its own right.
And that’s even before getting to - Why do we HAVE fairs? Why do they travel? What’s the relationship between fairs and circuses, and horse-fairs, and markets? Which all broadly came from medieval European fairs which would incorporate both what we would consider fairground and circus attractions, but also livestock and goods sales and would be an enormous event which some of the first passports in Europe were issued for, which were a huge diplomatic milestone and… There is so much history there!
I have a lot of gripes with the admin culture of discord users but easily the worst thing is the proliferation of channels. You do not need that many channels. You are 100 people. Entire IRC networks have fewer channels than this. Show some restraint.
You, discord admin. Every day, find the channel that hasn’t been used for the longest time, kick everyone in it, hide it, and keep doing this until someone notices. Congratulations.
I have a limited number of channels and the discord has responded by creating an endless twisted network of threads
They have a thread dedicated to keeping track of the threads
they truly crave a forum don’t they
We used to have it all
it’s so weird because forum backends like phpBB are still right there to be used, if people would pull their fingers out and write better anti spam plugins for them - like the same forum software we were merrily using 14 years ago is available to us so easily still
i cant stress enough that forums DO exist if you know where to look, and if they dont exist for what you want go make them!
the 17th shard is one such example for fandoms
phpBB forums are superior to every single goddamn social media network ever created
I really love the r/volcanoes subreddit because most of the posts are just people going “what if a Volcano exploded right now?” “What if twenty fucking Volcanoes exploded near you right now?”
The Internet: hello naughty children it’s Discourse time
character: *is actually 100% evil*
The Internet: defense squad uwu
character: *is actually, truly, for once 100% good*
The Internet: um actually in issue 9374 page 297 line 2 they said something that the villain also said way back in issue 27, so sorry sweaty but they’re actually a bad guy
my ideal existence is not knowing about the oscars or the super bowl or any of that horseshit…I jerk off to clear running water and live off whatever wanders into my open mouth
you people are turning me into pjackk. can I have a win for the first time in my entire life
fixed a problem at work that i vaguely saw a manager fix once and i did it faster which means that i get to take his skin i get to take his skin i get to take his skin i get to take his skin i get to take his skin i get to take his skin
I have a lot of gripes with the admin culture of discord users but easily the worst thing is the proliferation of channels. You do not need that many channels. You are 100 people. Entire IRC networks have fewer channels than this. Show some restraint.
You, discord admin. Every day, find the channel that hasn’t been used for the longest time, kick everyone in it, hide it, and keep doing this until someone notices. Congratulations.
I have a limited number of channels and the discord has responded by creating an endless twisted network of threads
They have a thread dedicated to keeping track of the threads
they truly crave a forum don’t they
We used to have it all
it’s so weird because forum backends like phpBB are still right there to be used, if people would pull their fingers out and write better anti spam plugins for them - like the same forum software we were merrily using 14 years ago is available to us so easily still
i cant stress enough that forums DO exist if you know where to look, and if they dont exist for what you want go make them!
The US having an entire city in the middle of the desert dedicated entirely to gambling sounds like a thing other countries would make up about the US as a joke but its real and no one bats an eye at it
started calling my executive dysfunction issues my board of dysfunctional executives and treating it like a room of frail old white men and it hasn’t fixed everything but it sure is fucking funny
alright everyone we need to do the dishes! the DISHES. no, ted, it’s not in your phone. ted you have so many apps open. ted how did you download a virus. the nice exiled nigerian prince sent you an nft? thats nice ted. now, about those dishes,
alright on todays agenda: LAUNDRY. yes laundry as in dirty clothes. yeah greg that’s a board-level task in this organization. greg its very undignified to throw a tantrum like that at your age.
i love you female characters who make selfish choices they know will be bad for everyone. i love you female characters who think they’re making the right choice but make things worse. i love you female characters who are making the right choice but noone else understands it.
Terminal child syndrome lol sorry you’ll be infantilized forever and never get any basic respect we have the right to not treat you like an adult and make life worse for you in the name of helping, or shun you completely :)
Just stop doing that you useless cunt go the fuck outside and stop being a burden to society get the fuck up and stop having this illness. Have this list of pop psychology bullshit and get your shit together. We can still romanticize your struggle if you’re hot and manage it just well enough to not be a useless cunt
Irredeemable piece of shit disorder uh sorry but your vibe is off and you should go to jail for it I fucking hate you and you deserve nothing you vile piece of human garbage you need to be avoided at all costs everyone should cut you off immediately no one should have to put up with you you manipulative asshole
To everybody in the notes saying something along the lines of any specific disorder could be any of these three depending on how someone wants to justify mistreating the individual, you are correct. I was thinking of autism, depression and npd respectively but you’re actually right
Terminal child syndrome lol sorry you’ll be infantilized forever and never get any basic respect we have the right to not treat you like an adult and make life worse for you in the name of helping, or shun you completely :)
Just stop doing that you useless cunt go the fuck outside and stop being a burden to society get the fuck up and stop having this illness. Have this list of pop psychology bullshit and get your shit together. We can still romanticize your struggle if you’re hot and manage it just well enough to not be a useless cunt
Irredeemable piece of shit disorder uh sorry but your vibe is off and you should go to jail for it I fucking hate you and you deserve nothing you vile piece of human garbage you need to be avoided at all costs everyone should cut you off immediately no one should have to put up with you you manipulative asshole
To everybody in the notes saying something along the lines of any specific disorder could be any of these three depending on how someone wants to justify mistreating the individual, you are correct. I was thinking of autism, depression and npd respectively but you’re actually right
dick makes people mentally ill. dick havers, dick wannabes and dick lovers are all insane. it's like toxoplasmosis, you have compulsive need to defend and push and worship dicks all the time and spead your dick mania to everywhere you go.
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Your hatred of cardinals just sounds like racism. Any evidence to back up any of your claims that an entire species of birds all have the traits you're claiming they do? Cuz it feels like either they're a scapegoat or you had a bad ex
Polycule but it’s just two people in a romantic relationship with each other and their third who’s pretty obviously aroace but also somehow so deeply intertwined in their lives that it’d just be wrong to not count them as involved. Is this anything.
the thing about me is that I’m not ever allowed to call someone my friend first because I don’t know how the rules work but after they call me their friend even once I would go into battle for them
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