Hot take, but cis people have gender identities. They aren’t the gender they identify as because of their genitalia or what their birth certificate says. They’re only cis because they identify with a gender and it happens to match their government documentation. Cis men aren’t men because they’re “obviously” men for having a penis. They’re men because they identify as men. It’s the self-identification that dictates this, not any other factor, even for cis folks. And we should be framing it this way. A cis man identifies as a man and a cis woman identifies as a woman. There is no automatic or inherent gender.
You are not “born a boy/girl.” Infants don’t have a gender. You acquire gender when you identify as it. No such thing as “biologically a man/woman.”
“I don’t identify as anything, I’m a man.”
It sure sounds like you identify as a man, bud.
Giving a brownie to cis folks who rb this.
Gonna admit the “this isn’t a hot take it’s obvious” comments from a dozen or so people are grating on my nerves, so I’m gonna address that.
Just say you’ve never had an actual conversation with a cis person outside of a very leftist circle lol. Obvious to you. To you, fellow trans person. I wish I got paid every time I had to hear a cis person say they don’t have a gender identity or don’t “identify” as anything they just “are” a man or a woman.
Sometimes you have to stop and ask yourselves what group of people a post is mainly directed at.
Going to add something here as a few people in the notes don’t know the significance of the date here, or think this might be a dig at Sesame Street somehow - on November 18th, 2003, there was an absolutely landmark legal case in the state of Massachusetts that ruled that civil unions in that state needed to be given the same rights as marriage. This was HUGE - gay marriage was not legally recognized in any state at the time, and civil unions were the closest you could get. This is a WONDERFULLY hopeful, sweet comic drawn five whole days after an enormous, major step forward for gay marriage POSSIBLY being legal. Massachusetts wouldn’t even properly legalize gay marriage until May 2004, and it was the first state to do so.
You can Google Goodridge v Department of Public Health for more details.
No because like, I genuinely feel like there has been a noticeable rightward shift in online urbanist content since 2020 when it really got big
I really don’t think that 4 years ago we would have seen people openly praising the Orbán government and claiming that our cities were destroyed by “modernist ideology”. It is incredibly concerning to me that a movement I care so much for is moving in a direction that would leave me behind
And while this isn’t as obvious as the examples I gave above. The constant talk of the economic benefits of urbanism over the social ones and the way we ignore the need for social housing and developer responsibility in the housing crisis. It all has a conservative taste to me. We seem to care more about the look of a building than what functionality it plays for the people in a neighborhood.
And I think that yeah a lot of it can be attributed to strong towns, they specifically promote urbanism on a pseudo libertarian economic model where to save the city we must remove all regulations which attracts people to the movement who are opposed to every social cause I support but they kinda like walkable neighborhoods, for the business benefits of course
Another thing that I think is causing it is the obsession with the past in urbanist spaces and this idea that things used to be better before cars were available to the masses when they often times were not, millions lived in abject poverty and Jim Crowe segregation was the norm, things were still bad when streetcar suburbs existed, they were built for the wealthy to escape the polluted streets of the cities they were destroying for profit, just in a different way than the businesses do today
And while the culture as a whole has moved rightwards, I find it scary that what started out as a left wing movement to improve the quality of life of city residents is being coopted by business interests and reactionaries
It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be “opposites” but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said “they’re just like me for real”
Poly folks x aro folks in the sense that “alloromantic heterosexual monogamous people view love and sex as an entirely different entity than me, and that makes life kinda strange”
[image ID] : two lines representing gradients. One is labelled “expectation,” and shows aromantic and asexual on one side and described as “no partners,” and on the opposite side shows polyamory described as “multiple partners.” The next line is labelled “reality” and on one side has “amanormativity” described as “having one relationship valued over all else,” and on the other side has “polyam, asexual, aromantic” all described as “not doing that”
just overheard my wife spelling something on the phone and i shit you not saying the words “E as in Eeyore” i am on my hands and knees wailing screaming crying pleading and begging people to learn the NATO phonetic alphabet
like the reason this exists is because none of the words sound like each other, which means that even with a terrible signal both parties should be able to clearly understand the words being spelled
i am dead serious that i believe this should be taught in school
just overheard my wife spelling something on the phone and i shit you not saying the words “E as in Eeyore” i am on my hands and knees wailing screaming crying pleading and begging people to learn the NATO phonetic alphabet
like the reason this exists is because none of the words sound like each other, which means that even with a terrible signal both parties should be able to clearly understand the words being spelled
i am dead serious that i believe this should be taught in school
Outraged by the Jan. 6 Capitol riot, a wilderness survival trainer spent years undercover climbing the ranks of right-wing militias. He didn’t tell police or the FBI. He didn’t tell family or friends. The one person he told was a ProPublica reporter.
Outraged by the Jan. 6 Capitol riot, a wilderness survival trainer spent years undercover climbing the ranks of right-wing militias. He didn’t tell police or the FBI. He didn’t tell family or friends. The one person he told was a ProPublica reporter.
Now what would happen if a homeless quilt was made by someone who actually cared about homeless people?
Meet former ad designer Willie Baronet.
Baronet is an artist who talks to homeless people and buys their signs from them for $20 a pop, if they’re willing to sell. He uses the signs in art exhibits to educate the privileged and point them to ways they can help, and to humanize homeless people and tell them they matter.
One sign at a time, Baronet makes a statement to help people with $20 in their hand and a voice that rings across the nation saying “I’m here.”
So not only did they take the small, hand-made signs away from homeless people but instead of just tossing them, they kept them. Not only did they keep them as some kind of homeless trophy, they actually went through the time, energy, and effort (funded by tax dollars) to tape them together, pose for a picture, and post it during the holiday season.
This is why people say that there are no good cops. Because there aren’t.
ID 1: Two cops holding up a patchwork sign made of pieces of cardboard. They are smiling, looking proud. Someone has edited text onto the cardboard that says, “we do not serve or protect you. we are very blatantly a private military carrying out only the will of your capitalist ruling class. fuck you and fuck poor people.”
ID 2: The came picture in an uncropped Facebook screenshot. The text of the Facebook post says, “Wanna wish everybody in 4th precinct a Merry Christmas, especially our captain . Hope you enjoy our homeless quilt! Sincerely, Panhandler patrol.” The state that the Panhandler police force is in, and the officer names, have been redacted from the screenshot. The signs, fully visible in this version of the photo, say things like “will work”, “in need of help”, and “trying to make it, anything helps, god bless you”.
ID 3: Willie Baronet with his homeless quilt. It is similarly made of signs with pleas for help written on them, but covers most of an entire wall.
[Image Description: a photograph of a light-skinned person cosplaying as Hatsune Miku. Instead of pigtails, they are wearing a loose, teal hijab and the detachable sleeves cover their entire arm. The person smiles, holding up a peace sign on one hand. End Description.]
Love the contrast between the Americans’ “Apollo” and the Soviets’ “Sputnik.” You got the Americans naming their rocket after a Greek god trying to communicate the grandness and importance of this rocket. And you got the Soviets naming their rocket “fellow traveler.” Like a friend you go on an adventure with together. This rocket is our little friend lol
Love the contrast between the Americans’ “Apollo” and the Soviets’ “Sputnik.” You got the Americans naming their rocket after a Greek god trying to communicate the grandness and importance of this rocket. And you got the Soviets naming their rocket “fellow traveler.” Like a friend you go on an adventure with together. This rocket is our little friend lol
I know this isn’t gonna help anyone on the Luigi Mangione jury, but I feel like I see a lot of people throw around “Jury Nullification” without actually understanding the responsibility it entails.
Jury Nullification is NOT your explicit right. It is a legal gray area that rides on the back of your explicit rights. Specifically, a jury has the right to
Return any verdict it sees fit.
Not be punished for the verdict it selects.
Not have their verdict challenged or directed.
For these reasons, you (as a Juror) and the people (as a Jury) have the right to vote whichever way they see fit for whatever reason they may choose. That includes voting “Not Guilty” in a situation where the defendant has broken the law, but the circumstances or law, itself, require an alternative verdict.
However.
Just like you have the right to return whatever verdict you choose, a judge has the right to remove you from the jury if they feel you are being deceptive about your impartiality. The point of a trial is to be as neutral and impartial as possible. After all, a trial with biases is not a “fair” trial. Jurors who have prior knowledge and opinions about a case and its circumstances must be removed from the case and relieved of their jury duty. Jurors who intent to disregard the letters of the law in favor of opinion, morality, whatever, must also be relieved of their jury duty and replaced. Therefore, if you approach your fellow jurors and tell them about Jury Nullification and your plans to utilize it, someone may very well tell on you to the judge. It is then that judge’s obligation to remove you from the jury and replace you with a more impartial juror (one that may not know about Jury Nullification). Therefore, if you openly support Jury Nullification in a court room, you can (and will) be removed from it.
So, even if it means hanging the jury with a non-unanimous vote, you cannot inform others about your intentions, and you cannot encourage others to utilize Jury Nullification, too. It sucks, but it’s reality. Court rooms are very disapproving of Jury Nullification to the point that they have (wrongly) charged individuals with Contempt of Court for telling jurors about it. Lawyers are even forbidden from telling juries they can use this right, in the first place. That’s how disliked this ability is. So one more time:
If you intend on actually utilizing Jury Nullification, you have to be completely silent about it. Period.You cannot inform your fellow jurors about it, and you cannot inform anybody in the court room about your plans to utilize it.That is it. That is how things work, and you have to tread lightly and carefully.
I know this isn’t gonna help anyone on the Luigi Mangione jury, but I feel like I see a lot of people throw around “Jury Nullification” without actually understanding the responsibility it entails.
Jury Nullification is NOT your explicit right. It is a legal gray area that rides on the back of your explicit rights. Specifically, a jury has the right to
Return any verdict it sees fit.
Not be punished for the verdict it selects.
Not have their verdict challenged or directed.
For these reasons, you (as a Juror) and the people (as a Jury) have the right to vote whichever way they see fit for whatever reason they may choose. That includes voting “Not Guilty” in a situation where the defendant has broken the law, but the circumstances or law, itself, require an alternative verdict.
However.
Just like you have the right to return whatever verdict you choose, a judge has the right to remove you from the jury if they feel you are being deceptive about your impartiality. The point of a trial is to be as neutral and impartial as possible. After all, a trial with biases is not a “fair” trial. Jurors who have prior knowledge and opinions about a case and its circumstances must be removed from the case and relieved of their jury duty. Jurors who intent to disregard the letters of the law in favor of opinion, morality, whatever, must also be relieved of their jury duty and replaced. Therefore, if you approach your fellow jurors and tell them about Jury Nullification and your plans to utilize it, someone may very well tell on you to the judge. It is then that judge’s obligation to remove you from the jury and replace you with a more impartial juror (one that may not know about Jury Nullification). Therefore, if you openly support Jury Nullification in a court room, you can (and will) be removed from it.
So, even if it means hanging the jury with a non-unanimous vote, you cannot inform others about your intentions, and you cannot encourage others to utilize Jury Nullification, too. It sucks, but it’s reality. Court rooms are very disapproving of Jury Nullification to the point that they have (wrongly) charged individuals with Contempt of Court for telling jurors about it. Lawyers are even forbidden from telling juries they can use this right, in the first place. That’s how disliked this ability is. So one more time:
If you intend on actually utilizing Jury Nullification, you have to be completely silent about it. Period.You cannot inform your fellow jurors about it, and you cannot inform anybody in the court room about your plans to utilize it.That is it. That is how things work, and you have to tread lightly and carefully.
I know this isn’t gonna help anyone on the Luigi Mangione jury, but I feel like I see a lot of people throw around “Jury Nullification” without actually understanding the responsibility it entails.
Jury Nullification is NOT your explicit right. It is a legal gray area that rides on the back of your explicit rights. Specifically, a jury has the right to
Return any verdict it sees fit.
Not be punished for the verdict it selects.
Not have their verdict challenged or directed.
For these reasons, you (as a Juror) and the people (as a Jury) have the right to vote whichever way they see fit for whatever reason they may choose. That includes voting “Not Guilty” in a situation where the defendant has broken the law, but the circumstances or law, itself, require an alternative verdict.
However.
Just like you have the right to return whatever verdict you choose, a judge has the right to remove you from the jury if they feel you are being deceptive about your impartiality. The point of a trial is to be as neutral and impartial as possible. After all, a trial with biases is not a “fair” trial. Jurors who have prior knowledge and opinions about a case and its circumstances must be removed from the case and relieved of their jury duty. Jurors who intent to disregard the letters of the law in favor of opinion, morality, whatever, must also be relieved of their jury duty and replaced. Therefore, if you approach your fellow jurors and tell them about Jury Nullification and your plans to utilize it, someone may very well tell on you to the judge. It is then that judge’s obligation to remove you from the jury and replace you with a more impartial juror (one that may not know about Jury Nullification). Therefore, if you openly support Jury Nullification in a court room, you can (and will) be removed from it.
So, even if it means hanging the jury with a non-unanimous vote, you cannot inform others about your intentions, and you cannot encourage others to utilize Jury Nullification, too. It sucks, but it’s reality. Court rooms are very disapproving of Jury Nullification to the point that they have (wrongly) charged individuals with Contempt of Court for telling jurors about it. Lawyers are even forbidden from telling juries they can use this right, in the first place. That’s how disliked this ability is. So one more time:
If you intend on actually utilizing Jury Nullification, you have to be completely silent about it. Period.You cannot inform your fellow jurors about it, and you cannot inform anybody in the court room about your plans to utilize it.That is it. That is how things work, and you have to tread lightly and carefully.
im sure theres a word denoting the divide btwn what you believe as a citizen of civic society and what you believe as an animal with anger synapses. as a civic citizen i do not believe in the death penalty nor do i think anyone deserves to die for being stupid on twitter. as an ape,
I feel like making this distinction would also help with venting. “I acknowledge my feelings are irrational and primitive, and would never wish death on another human being. That being said, the asshole who slammed a door in my face deserves to be eaten alive by ants.”
rabbits are shaped like that so that you can easily carve a likeness of their image without much trouble out of a block of wood, or a block of soap, or a block of marble, or a block of anything really. there are so many blocks out there
rabbits are shaped like that so that you can easily carve a likeness of their image without much trouble out of a block of wood, or a block of soap, or a block of marble, or a block of anything really. there are so many blocks out there
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase “self care” doesn’t resonate with you, try calling it “system maintenance” and see if that clicks.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase “self care” doesn’t resonate with you, try calling it “system maintenance” and see if that clicks.
last time my mom visited I was talking to her about parenting and how I appreciated a lot of the choices she and my father had made about raising me and my brother and she agreed that just listening to the child and taking them seriously was the One Weird Trick to cutting out like 60% of conflicts between parents and children. and she said one time I was about three or four years old and we were all going to the grocery store, and at the threshold of the store I just had a meltdown. i was overwhelmed, I was crying, I was just at the end of my rope like kids get sometimes. and instead of dragging me through the store my mom and dad stopped what we were doing and just asked me what the problem was. and I was able to say I didn’t want to be there, I couldn’t do it, I wanted to go home. and she says she and my father just looked at each other and back at me and said “okay” and we all went home that day instead of forcing the grocery store trip. and I had so few public meltdowns as a kid despite being pretty autistic because, I think, I knew that if I ever really needed to leave, my parents would understand and back me up. and that was the case throughout my childhood. which paradoxically (one might think) resulted in me having fewer incidents of being overwhelmed in the first place, which then made me better able to handle increasing amounts of stress and so on. it also taught me that expressing feelings and communicating them to my caretakers wasn’t going to be punished or ignored or called weird, so unlike many other autistic kids who get judged or rebuked for expressing sensitivity or opposition, I didn’t need to constantly blockade everyone and internalize everything all the time.
it’s a pretty simple concept whether your kids are autistic or not, but most parents don’t seem to get it. their parents taught them to just force everything and let the child deal with it alone so they just repeat the cycle even though they know how it feels.
last time my mom visited I was talking to her about parenting and how I appreciated a lot of the choices she and my father had made about raising me and my brother and she agreed that just listening to the child and taking them seriously was the One Weird Trick to cutting out like 60% of conflicts between parents and children. and she said one time I was about three or four years old and we were all going to the grocery store, and at the threshold of the store I just had a meltdown. i was overwhelmed, I was crying, I was just at the end of my rope like kids get sometimes. and instead of dragging me through the store my mom and dad stopped what we were doing and just asked me what the problem was. and I was able to say I didn’t want to be there, I couldn’t do it, I wanted to go home. and she says she and my father just looked at each other and back at me and said “okay” and we all went home that day instead of forcing the grocery store trip. and I had so few public meltdowns as a kid despite being pretty autistic because, I think, I knew that if I ever really needed to leave, my parents would understand and back me up. and that was the case throughout my childhood. which paradoxically (one might think) resulted in me having fewer incidents of being overwhelmed in the first place, which then made me better able to handle increasing amounts of stress and so on. it also taught me that expressing feelings and communicating them to my caretakers wasn’t going to be punished or ignored or called weird, so unlike many other autistic kids who get judged or rebuked for expressing sensitivity or opposition, I didn’t need to constantly blockade everyone and internalize everything all the time.
it’s a pretty simple concept whether your kids are autistic or not, but most parents don’t seem to get it. their parents taught them to just force everything and let the child deal with it alone so they just repeat the cycle even though they know how it feels.
The service industry is like living in a parallel world, you’re busy when everyone else is free on the weekends or night time, you’re working the hardest when everyone else is resting or playing on the holidays
You see your family after everyone else is back at work, there is is no Christmas for service workers, there are no weekends, it’s time formed in the shadow of “real” life, life lived in the invert
“I’m stuck in a time loop” “I entered a parallel dimension” “body snatchers have changed everyone else’s behavior toward me” yes, understandable, we’ve all worked in retail
I will NEVER see an anomalocaris. I will NEVER hold a trilobite. I will NEVER see a dimetrodon or an eight foot long millipede. and I will NEVER see a pterosaur
I cannot put into mortal words how fucking badly I want that swedish goat to burn. We live in a modern surveillance hellscape and not only is big brother watching you but he’s monitoring your purchase habits so he can sell you a smart refrigerator that will spy on you for the cia. the full weight of modern technology can be rallied to protect that straw monument to human hubris and I want us to burn it anyway. I want the might of modern society to crumple in the face of a drunk swede with a zippo lighter. we can do it just take my hand
dude, i just found the craziest game, you GOTTA play it. yeah dude, totally revolutionary, just play it bro. but- but dont search ANYTHING about it, go in as blind as you can, you’ll LOVE it. what’s it about?? sorry dude, can’t talk about it without getting into spoiler territory. you know how it is haha. …what?? the NAME of the game?? are you fucking crazy?? are you insane?!?? that will absolutely RUIN the experience!! yeah, this is one of those knowledge based games yeah! any info will make it literally unplayable. yeah. just- just play it blind, it’ll be toootally worth it, believe me on this one. huh? ..where do you download it?? dude. DUUUDE. are you fucking paying attention. duuuuuude
dude, i just found the craziest game, you GOTTA play it. yeah dude, totally revolutionary, just play it bro. but- but dont search ANYTHING about it, go in as blind as you can, you’ll LOVE it. what’s it about?? sorry dude, can’t talk about it without getting into spoiler territory. you know how it is haha. …what?? the NAME of the game?? are you fucking crazy?? are you insane?!?? that will absolutely RUIN the experience!! yeah, this is one of those knowledge based games yeah! any info will make it literally unplayable. yeah. just- just play it blind, it’ll be toootally worth it, believe me on this one. huh? ..where do you download it?? dude. DUUUDE. are you fucking paying attention. duuuuuude
