Has anything actually gotten better, for all the work you talk about doing? Or is it just treading water in misery forever?
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Anon, ten years ago gay people couldn’t get married in large parts of the US. AIDS was an almost certain death sentence when I was in high school. I was looking at job boards the other day and found a part time gas station job that had health insurance as a benefit, which NEVER would have happened 15 years ago. When I was a kid, hitting your child was extremely normalized in the US and my parents were the weird ones for not doing it. There is a vaccine for chicken pox. I didn’t meet anyone who had transitioned until my 20s because it was so uncommon to transition in the aughts, and now there are some states that protect your right to have gender affirming care provided by your health insurance. It’s not all states, but it’s better than the number of states that had it in 2010, which was zero. THERE ARE TENANTS UNIONS NOW. WE HAVE A VACCINE AGAINST CERVICAL CANCER.
And all of that has been the work of a lot of individuals and organizations and research teams and activists.
Do you know how bugfuck insane the words “Unionized Starbucks” would have sounded to someone in 2005? Baristas getting union-mandated breaks could have been a throwaway joke in part of the Scary Movie franchise as something ridiculous.
RALPH NADER WAS AGITATING FOR A FIFTEEN DOLLAR MINIMUM WAGE IN 2004 AND SHIT IS MOVING SLOWLY BUT MY STATE HAS A TWENTY DOLLAR MINIMUM WAGE FOR FAST FOOD WORKERS. WHEN I STARTED HIGH SCHOOL THE ONLY OPTION FOR AN ABORTION AFTER 7 WEEKS WAS SURGICAL AND NOW THERE’S A PILL.
FUCKING. ELECTRIC CARS. SO GODDAMNED MANY PEOPLE HAVE SOLAR PANELS ON THEIR HOUSES OR IN THEIR PARKING LOTS.
WE DON’T HAVE SMOG DAYS IN LOS ANGELES ANYMORE UNLESS THERE’S A FIRE AND IT’S BECAUSE OF CARB STANDARDS.
LITERALLY MILLIONS OF FUCKING PEOPLE TURNED OUT TO PROTEST POLICE BRUTALITY IN 2020 AND YOU CAN SAY “NOTHING HAPPENED” ALL YOU WANT BUT THE WAY PEOPLE TALK ABOUT IT NOW IS FUCKING DIFFERENT THAN THEY DID AFTER RODNEY KING AND NOW PEOPLE WILL STOP AND WATCH OUT FOR EACH OTHER INSTEAD OF GOING ‘NOT MY BUSINESS’
THERE IS A MALARIA VACCINE THAT HAS BEEN GIVEN TO OVER A MILLION CHILDREN IN JUST THE LAST FIVE YEARS SINCE IT WAS APPROVED FOR USE OUTSIDE OF TRIALS
Something that struck me the other night as truly incredible—I grew up during the height of the AIDS crisis in the ’80s and ’90s. I remember around 1990 or so was when people really started working to bring HIV/AIDS and the search for a cure into public view and begin the really, really long work of destigmatizing it, even a little bit. The homophobic terror people had of even being NEAR someone who had the so-called “gay disease,” I really cannot understate this. A diagnosis was considered an absolute death sentence.
The other night I was watching whatever random thing on YouTube, and I got yet more of the constant ads that irritate the fuck out of me. But this one was for an HIV maintenance medication. It was a long ad, probably 60 seconds, and so help me, I watched the whole thing. It talked about this drug (forgive me, I can’t remember the name) that would let you live a happy and fulfilling life (while mentioning that of course safe sex is important). And it showed queer couples, straight couples (to break the stereotype), people who looked single and happy, different races and genders and presentations and body sizes, going out to lunch or cuddling on a couch or going out for a date, whatever it was the scene was implying. Bright colors, soothing optimistic music and voiceover, physical affection including kissing—you couldn’t even tell who among the actor couples was or wasn’t portraying an HIV patient. It blew my fucking mind to just see a whole minute of this between ads for Pizza Hut and car insurance. I’m not even sure anyone would have shown a gay couple kissing, full stop, on TV in 1990. And this ad was just out here like, if you’ve contracted this illness, there’s help for it, and you can live a good happy life among your loved ones. But also, you deserve to have that happiness, out in the open, and there will be people who love you, unafraid. Even if, and especially if, you’re gay. This is a world where this is possible. Like I’m honestly tearing up right now. I could not have imagined this in 1990. I could not.
You will swim for decades, and suddenly you will look up and see islands that you never would have dreamed of.
I remember when I was a kid, the “hole in the ozone layer” was all anyone would talk about with regards to climate change. Now it’s rarely mentioned anymore. Want to know why? Because it’s getting better. It’s projected to be fully closed by 2066.
In 1971, Dr. Seuss wrote The Lorax, which included a line “their future is dreary… I hear things are just as bad up in Lake Erie.” In the 1986 edition, that line was removed. Why? Well, Theodor Geisel (the real Dr. Seuss) wrote “I should no longer be saying bad things about a body of water that is now, due to great civic and scientific effort, the happy home of smiling fish.” I swam in Lake Erie as a kid, and it was nothing like the lake Dr. Seuss was describing. Things change. Things get better.
My first protest was in 2004. I was in middle school, and Ballot Measure 36 was being run statewide in Oregon, to define marriage as being between a man and a woman. We protested, we marched, we fought, and we lost. Ten years later, I was sitting in my apartment the day after graduation, when the news broke that Oregon would now recognize same-sex marriage. I remember sitting on my bed and breaking down in tears, thinking of my partner of a year and how maybe we could have a legal future together. Ten years beyond that, I’m looking at the save the dates on our kitchen table. I’m inviting the family who I swam with at Lake Erie, my parents who taught me to protest No on 36, my friends from all over the world, to our wedding. Things change. Things get better.
It’s 2024. Oregon is a sanctuary state for trans people. My parents use they/them pronouns for my partner with ease. My sister called to check up on us the morning after the election. Things seem dire. Things seem like they’re never going to change.
But I thought that in 2004. Dr. Seuss thought that in 1986. Climate scientists thought that in 1976. And the ozone layer isn’t fully healed yet, and there’s still pollution around the world, and queer rights are still threatened, but it’s better.
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