If I say “cover your nose when you sneeze” and everyone agrees that this is a good thing to do, and one person isn’t happy with this and says sneezing into an open salad bar is fine, then they are wrong, and telling them “that’s okay, we’ll make an exception, YOU can sneeze on the food” is bad.
The person is wrong. They’re ALLOWED to be wrong. But if the only way to make them happy is to cater to their wrongness and risk public safety, I don’t care
If someone is angry that nobody wants to be exposed to snot salad, then I’m comfortable making them unhappy. Their unhappiness in this case is a good sign.
Am I thrilled that they are experiencing bad feelings? No. But in this case, their bad feelings are a good indicator of a healthy e vironment. You know?
I’m not saying you should bully them, or kick them out of the restaurant, but they certainly shouldn’t be sneezing on the salad. You can be wrong without making that everyone else’s problem.
So, yeah. I don’t care that they’re upset, but they’re allowed to be wrong. You know?
You don’t need to fight someone cause they think bad foodsafe procedures are cool, just don’t share from their plate
[Text ID: We are thought of as less than people. When every story about me broke, it was “porn star Stormy Daniels, real name X,” and they printed my real name everywhere. Every time you see Whoopi Goldberg’s name, or Nicolas Cage or Bruno Mars, they don’t put their real name in parentheses behind it. I had so many female journalists do it to me. And when I said something to them, [they’d say,] “Say her name. Say her name. Her name is Stephanie Clifford, say it! She’s not just porn star Stormy Daniels!” But they never paused to think that maybe that’s the name I wanted. And you just outed my family. I guarantee you wouldn’t misgender me, so why would you use a dead name? And they thought they were doing the right thing because they’re on their big high feminist fucking #MeToo horse and they never even stopped to do the most basic feminist thing, which is ask the woman in the center of the storm what she wants to be called. And nobody did it. /End ID]
Fun fact! When I was googling to find this citation to make it easier to add the text id, google auto-completed “Stormy Daniels” to “Stormy Daniels real name” with her full legal name in giant letters right below the question!
There’s also this very insightful bit from her right before the above passage:
“One of the things I want to do, because of what happened to me in court, is to use [my] platform to lobby to change the rule about being able to discriminate against sex workers. Because as a director, all these years in the business, I saw so many girls come in and not want to be stars. They just wanted to make money to go to school, and they didn’t buy purses, they didn’t do drugs, they didn’t party, they didn’t do anything fucking stupid, right? I really got to know these women on a personal level because I was directing at least once a month for 10 years. And so I saw these girls come in, do everything right, get a degree in nursing, leave the business—but then a year or two years later, they’d come back because they got fired over and over and over because they got recognized at work.
And when they came back, that’s when they were broken. That’s when they did drugs. That’s when they died. That’s when I saw them commit suicide, not the first time around. I can name 50 girls right now who have gotten fired because they used to do porn. And that’s got to change and [the rape shield carve-out] has to change. And what they did to me has to change. Because it’s bullshit. You don’t want us to do porn, but you won’t let us do anything else.”
[Text ID: We are thought of as less than people. When every story about me broke, it was “porn star Stormy Daniels, real name X,” and they printed my real name everywhere. Every time you see Whoopi Goldberg’s name, or Nicolas Cage or Bruno Mars, they don’t put their real name in parentheses behind it. I had so many female journalists do it to me. And when I said something to them, [they’d say,] “Say her name. Say her name. Her name is Stephanie Clifford, say it! She’s not just porn star Stormy Daniels!” But they never paused to think that maybe that’s the name I wanted. And you just outed my family. I guarantee you wouldn’t misgender me, so why would you use a dead name? And they thought they were doing the right thing because they’re on their big high feminist fucking #MeToo horse and they never even stopped to do the most basic feminist thing, which is ask the woman in the center of the storm what she wants to be called. And nobody did it. /End ID]
Fun fact! When I was googling to find this citation to make it easier to add the text id, google auto-completed “Stormy Daniels” to “Stormy Daniels real name” with her full legal name in giant letters right below the question!
There’s also this very insightful bit from her right before the above passage:
“One of the things I want to do, because of what happened to me in court, is to use [my] platform to lobby to change the rule about being able to discriminate against sex workers. Because as a director, all these years in the business, I saw so many girls come in and not want to be stars. They just wanted to make money to go to school, and they didn’t buy purses, they didn’t do drugs, they didn’t party, they didn’t do anything fucking stupid, right? I really got to know these women on a personal level because I was directing at least once a month for 10 years. And so I saw these girls come in, do everything right, get a degree in nursing, leave the business—but then a year or two years later, they’d come back because they got fired over and over and over because they got recognized at work.
And when they came back, that’s when they were broken. That’s when they did drugs. That’s when they died. That’s when I saw them commit suicide, not the first time around. I can name 50 girls right now who have gotten fired because they used to do porn. And that’s got to change and [the rape shield carve-out] has to change. And what they did to me has to change. Because it’s bullshit. You don’t want us to do porn, but you won’t let us do anything else.”
“Clearly”. I love that. By what measure is my assigned gender at birth made clear to you through text posts? How do you know I’m not a 56 year old accountant named Hank catfishing you all from a small-town suburb in Pennsylvania? Do I disperse my lowercase “i”’s like a celiac patient too? Or did you scroll through my blog, see “he/him” in my header, and declare yourself the transphobic Sherlock Holmes of digital coochie detection? Congratulations my good man you’ve cracked the case and saved the rec center, now be a sport and join your pop-pop for a hot fudge sundae at Webley Wumble’s good old-fashioned fuckall fun time saloon, home of the foot-and-a-half long fuck yourself free with a side of get bent. You absolute corndog. Eat ass and grow as a person
The American Justice System is sending a very powerful message.
They will not condemn Nazism. They will only slap the wrists of people (white rightwing men) who storm our most sacred government buildings. Mass shooters will face justice, but the act of mass killing is nothing more than run of the mill murder.
But kill a CEO? Speak out against institutions that kill and cause suffering for millions? That’s terrorism. That’s a terrorist threat. Nevermind how many mass shooters and capital rioters had bombing plans and what have you. Only killing a CEO will get you terrorism if you’re white.
They really want to dissuade us. To make a show of Luigi Mangione so we learn our lesson and leave the rich and powerful alone. Because they’ll protect them no matter the cost. Fuck that. Fuck that and this country. Do not get quiet about it. Do not get quiet about Briana Boston either. This is tyranny.
I haven’t seen any proof that Luigi is the killer. With both him and Briana, the people in power are railroading innocent folks to intimidate the rest of us.
“Deny, defend, Depose, you’re next” should be everyone’s default curse. We should stand together and demonstrate our solidarity and resolve.
The American Justice System is sending a very powerful message.
They will not condemn Nazism. They will only slap the wrists of people (white rightwing men) who storm our most sacred government buildings. Mass shooters will face justice, but the act of mass killing is nothing more than run of the mill murder.
But kill a CEO? Speak out against institutions that kill and cause suffering for millions? That’s terrorism. That’s a terrorist threat. Nevermind how many mass shooters and capital rioters had bombing plans and what have you. Only killing a CEO will get you terrorism if you’re white.
They really want to dissuade us. To make a show of Luigi Mangione so we learn our lesson and leave the rich and powerful alone. Because they’ll protect them no matter the cost. Fuck that. Fuck that and this country. Do not get quiet about it. Do not get quiet about Briana Boston either. This is tyranny.
I haven’t seen any proof that Luigi is the killer. With both him and Briana, the people in power are railroading innocent folks to intimidate the rest of us.
“Deny, defend, Depose, you’re next” should be everyone’s default curse. We should stand together and demonstrate our solidarity and resolve.
When you kill a healthcare ceo, it’s terrorism. When someone shoots your kid in elementary school, it’s thoughts and prayers for like a week and then they move on. It truly shows the fact that terrorism is whatever the american government wants it to mean.
Until we get government single-payer healthcare, an insurance company isn’t a “unit of government”. A single CEO isn’t a “civilian population”. They’re embarrassed about how they can’t find the killer, so they’re making the biggest, gaudiest, most distracting bus they can and throwing Luigi under it.
From the start this whole thing has shown us that the police are ineffective. They’re trying to get a quick result to show us that we need to keep funding them.
But they’re actually about to confirm what we’ve known since the corrupt Supreme Court appointments and decisions: the justice system is a big bias amplifier. It only serves to further empower the powerful.
“weird and unhealthy relationship that cant be categorized neatly as sexual or romantic or platonic but has a defining air of devotion and obsession to it” wins sound of the summer for the 13th year in a row
That one anime screenshot where that dude says he’s stronger than other people because he has more bones made me stop and really think about the phrase “That took a lot of guts” for the first time in my life.
I have an abundance of physical courage because my intestines are longer than yours. See, where most people have a small and a large intestine, I have a large and a larger intestine. And it makes me so brave.
look i’m hearing you we’re a noble people we do what’s right and good and just and so on and so forth yes yes we’re people who respect the powers on high i’m just saying have we considered that skeletons are really cool and dope so maybe a little necromancy is o- i’m just asking questions! i’m just acknowledging that skeletons are cool!
i have to have a paladin babysit me for 2 weeks because they’re “scared the prince is being taken in by necromantic influences” what is it a CRIME to think skeletons are cool and awesome with glowing eyes and big sharp swords. whatever.
he would make an awesome skeleton with that big armour & hammer…. hmmmmm… well one skeleton can’t hurt surely
I just appreciate that he did a valley fold in the hat instead of a teardrop. The “official” Indiana Jones fedoras that Disney sells have a teardrop divot in the fedora’s crown, but anyone who has watched the movies can see that it’s a valley fold. It is such a silly thing, but it drives me nuts that so much of the official merch fucks up the iconic hat.
Okay, this is finally some Indiana Jones content I can get behind.
“Yes, I completely agree that monarchy is, in general, unsustainable; no matter how robust the system is, it’s ultimately dependent on the person on the throne not being a malicious idiot, and given enough generations you’re bound to get one eventually. However, I personally am a just monarch, so as long as I live forever that’s that problem solved. Now pass the mercury.”
When you kill a healthcare ceo, it’s terrorism. When someone shoots your kid in elementary school, it’s thoughts and prayers for like a week and then they move on. It truly shows the fact that terrorism is whatever the american government wants it to mean.
Whenever someone posits that people are ‘lazy’ I’m reminded of the fact that if you leave humans in a room with some blocks and no instructions they will literally make up their own tasks to carry out because humans just fuckin love having stuff to do and objectives to work towards
In one of my psych courses we learned about a study where a person was left in a room with nothing but a box that would SHOCK THEM painfully if they touched it. After awhile, everyone touched the box and got shocked to hell and back. Now, this isn’t that abnormal. What’s abnormal is that everyone then sat there for a few minutes and then TOUCHED THE BOX AGAIN. And got shocked AGAIN! Moral of the story: People fucking hate being bored. They would rather be in IMMENSE PAIN than be bored.
Maybe humans aren’t lazy maybe we’re being kept by neglectful caretakers in understimulating environments & enclosures lacking in enrichment
Don’t let this die. Taylor Swift is the Pollution Queen now. We need meme edits with her photoshopped onto backgrounds of wildfire-ravaged landscapes and oil refineries chugging out black smoke.
Photo of smudgy black eye shadow? That’s THE Taylor Swift-inspired look now, it represents fossil fuels.
We need parodies of Taylor Swift songs about pollution and killing polar bears.
Give her representatives a full-time job for the rest of their lives defending her from the phrase “Pollution Queen.” Make this meme a the figurehead of an entire fleet of other celebrity-terrorizing memes.
“But this doesn’t dismantle the system that—” Shut. Don’t care. Isn’t it great that such a huge portion of environmental damage is being done by human individuals with egos, whose feelings can be hurt when people are mean?
Money can save you from physical harm, but can it save you from looking ridiculous?
blows up a random stranger with a rocket launcher for no reason then falls to the ground weeping histrionically & receives the tender attention & support of everyone present
at the library and i know im supposed to be “volunteering” for “college credit” but theres a dude at the other end of the room playing yu-gi-oh on the computer and let me just say. he is not good at it
I need minors to learn how to lie online again. Your name is Derek, you’re 25 and work in accounting now. Please for your own safety learn how to fucking lie. And if you don’t want to lie, then don’t put your age anywhere. Don’t even say whether you’re a minor or not. It is perfectly easy to avoid adult spaces without signposting that you are doing so because you’re a child.
Stating your age doesn’t protect you this only makes you a target.
It’s weird how anarchist and anti-police symbols have been diluted so much
You might actually care about other people or you might just be angry the police set up a perimeter around the pride parade to prevent you from brutalising someone there
It’s also insane that there are fascists here
Like, what do you mean you write nazi symbols on bathroom walls with permanent markers??? Have you ever actually listened in history class??? Our people were declared non-aryan and were put in concentration camps!?!? If you were there they would have killed you
imagine being a Korean person awake at like one in the morning trying to accept that the president of South Korea actually just tried to go full dictatorship by way of an emergency martial law because he was basically having a political temper tantrum and every agency and corporation in the country is all hands on deck, code red mode on everything and the military is being deployed and then the assembly revokes the martial law and then the president is like lol nevermind and now you have to get ready to work at your shitty job on a Wednesday
friend overheard me saying “yeah he’s like…kind of cute. im a little scared of him though.” and she was like omg girl who!!! and I was like oh sorry. im literally talking about a mouse that lives in my church
thinking again about the time I plugged my laptop in and the charging cable started boiling
there was a fizzing sound and lots of little bubbles came out around the sides of the charge port. luckily I noticed and pulled the cable out immediately because like. that probably isn’t good for it
I saw some news outlets say that this was because he loved D&D so much but knew it had to be something else.
And yep, I was exactly right for his motivations. The current Senior Designer and Project Lead for Dungeons and Dragons gave the most lukewarm criticism of the racism in the earliest versions of D&D, and Elon Musk threw a fit over it.
This man is so easily offended, it’s ridiculous. This is what happens when you grow up the son of an emerald mine owner in apartheid South Africa and attend private schools that only allow white boys to attend.
It’s wild to me that more people don’t talk about that fact because it explains literally everything about this man.
“afab underwear” what the fuck are any of you talking about
you all understand that gender designation is an event that happens at birth and does not determine what genitals someone does or does not still have as an adult, right? you all remembered the surgeries, right? you all remembered intersex people, right?
moreover, you all understand that, regardless of what genitalia you have, you can wear whatever fucking underwear you want, right? as long as it feels good to you? cis butches have been buying men’s boxers for decades can you all just relax. it doesn’t fucking matter. none of this matters. this is such stupid inane bullshit.
afab is not a synonym for vagina. amab is not a synonym for penis. these are events. I was assigned a gender at birth, once upon a time. what’s that got to do with my damn jocks?
Just saw a post on Lex that was basically a transmasc person asking the queer community at large to stop excluding them because they pass as a cis man. They asked that we maybe stop coming down on trans men, masc NBs, hell, even trans women who don’t know they’re trans yet.
And…yeah. I don’t think that’s an unreasonable ask. Tbh I think that should also include cis men who aren’t straight, because they are part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
I think what’s vastly more important than whether someone has a masculine identity is whether or not they’re explicitly being toxically masculine. Wanting more body hair isn’t toxic, wanting a flat chest isn’t toxic, wanting to enjoy more “masculine” activities and be seen as one of the guys isn’t toxic. SIMPLY BEING A MAN IS NOT TOXIC.
Anytime I’ve seen someone insist otherwise, it’s been someone closely tied to—if not within—radfem/TERF circles. The logic that leads people to say masculine traits == bad is the same as the logic that results in having penis == bad, yet for some reason the former is treated as common sense even in queer circles. We’re supposed to be rejecting gender norms, not reinforcing them dammit.
What’s bad, what’s toxic, is possessiveness. Needless aggression. Unchecked jealousy. Entitlement (especially sexual entitlement). None of these are inherently masculine traits.
It’s one thing to be cautious of cis men, who more often than not have accepted masculinity as the default rather than a conscious choice, and may have learned more toxic traits as a result. But you don’t know who is or isn’t trans.
You don’t know how that “cis man” actually identifies. Even if you do, you don’t know whether or not he’s examined his gender identity and decided he’s happy where he is. You don’t know whether or not he’s actually possessive or entitled or aggressive. Making such assumptions is no better than assuming that a woman will be shy and submissive.
You don’t know, and it’s not your place to decide.
