legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends
any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don’t have to choose what it is if they can’t make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you’re just gonna make food happen at their house.
friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.
someone’s relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.
buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.
pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that’s what they want.
people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.
legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.
because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn’t make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.
even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like “rape”, “abuse”, “queer” or “racist”. cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify “rape” as distinct from “sex” and “racism” as distinct from “acceptable behaviour” and “queer” as distinct from “invert”
like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that’s hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.
This is what’s so goddamn terrifying about the Internet slowly collapsing into the same 3-5 websites–if Facebook deprioritizes you for saying “sex” and TikTok shadowbans you for saying “suicide” and Twitter X locks your account for saying “racism” we’ve lost a lot more than just the culture of the old weird internet
All that “do not comply in advance” stuff? Applies here. Big time. Do not allow them to take language from you. Do not roll over when they try. Do not do their job for them.
because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn’t make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.
even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like “rape”, “abuse”, “queer” or “racist”. cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify “rape” as distinct from “sex” and “racism” as distinct from “acceptable behaviour” and “queer” as distinct from “invert”
like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that’s hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.
This is what’s so goddamn terrifying about the Internet slowly collapsing into the same 3-5 websites–if Facebook deprioritizes you for saying “sex” and TikTok shadowbans you for saying “suicide” and Twitter X locks your account for saying “racism” we’ve lost a lot more than just the culture of the old weird internet
All that “do not comply in advance” stuff? Applies here. Big time. Do not allow them to take language from you. Do not roll over when they try. Do not do their job for them.
wait do people read first person stories and think they’re the ones in the story???
Saw people talking about not liking first person, which is fair, but their reasoning was like “I would not do that” and I don’t understand that mindset.
First person stories are still about a character. A character making their own decisions. First person isn’t about you???? At least I thought it wasn’t. What am I missing? I’ve always seen first person as just a more in-depth look into a character’s mind and stricter POV. Not as a reader stand-in.
I see first person stories like I’m sitting down across from the narrator getting the wildest tea imaginable
Fun probability fact: If you press the button 100 times, there’s roughly a 1/e chance you’ll become a girl!
Fun gender fact: If you press the button 100 times, you were almost certainly a girl to begin with.
reblogging again with the addition because it was the first time someone had actually implied i was a girl, because despite how much i had related to trans memes and whatnot, the actual idea that i *was* a girl never had ever crossed my mind and had i not read this might not have ever realized. as a person who despite having literally gone onto egg_irl and grown up around queer people on the internet, i beg you. please make that joke about someone being a girl. you might save her life. if nobody ever directly told me “you *are* a girl”, im not sure i ever would have known.
ive seen a variation of the button post blowing up lately and i wanted to point out this incredibly valuable add on that massively expands the idea
Readers, make sure you have all your favourite Ao3 fics downloaded.
Writers, make sure you have copies of all the fics you have posted on Ao3.
I don’t want to be alarming, but things could get really bad really fast. OTW shared this today on Twitter, and I’m a bit worried about it 😅
Ao3 is a non-profit organisation. If they have to start paying taxes, I have no idea what will happen.
I’d like to remind everybody that this isn’t just about A03 or civil rights organizations. This could be applied to any 501 organization. That includes churches, schools, museums and library support organizations. All sorts of support organizations like soup kitchens or places like goodwill. Those are all non-profit organizations and they all have a 501 status. This is a threat to every civil organization we have that is meant to help the public.
So please contact your representatives. Please look this up on Twitter and click the link so you can call your representatives and voice against this. Because there’s a hell of a lot more at stake with a bill like this than just ao3. People’s lives could be at risk.
The House will vote THIS WEEK to determine whether the incoming Trump administration will have the power to shut down non-profit organizations with no due process.
Congress has already tried to fast-track this legislation once and failed because of the onslaught of calls to their offices. We can’t let them do this quietly. Congress giving Trump the power to crush dissent and target organizations fighting for justice is a betrayal. Tell your representatives to vote NO on this dangerous bill!
My favorite part of the PJO TV series casting announcements is that there’s always a tweet of the new actor and Walker Scobell as Percy saying “their beef is about to be insane”. No matter what. Ares actor? Beef is gonna be insane. Hades and Zeus actors? Beef is gonna be insane. Thalia? Beef is gonna be insane/he’s gonna make fun of her accent and she’ll electrocute him. Now, Athena? Again, the beef is about to be crazy.
And it’s always right. That kid had beef with everyone and their mom.
if someone is say 15 it's a lot easier to say hey kid just hang in there three years and you can do whatever the fuck you want, it'll be fine
medical transition is one of the very few things in the world this is not true for—there’s a pretty narrow window to dodge the wrong puberty and 18 is well past it
people will say it’s not the end of the world as cope or whatever but you only get a few years to act to avoid lifelong dysphoria
Really looking forward to future etymologists writing papers on 21st century slang in which they discuss the origin of the term “based”, thus forcing them to explain in academic language who Lil B is
Really looking forward to future etymologists writing papers on 21st century slang in which they discuss the origin of the term “based”, thus forcing them to explain in academic language who Lil B is
I just discovered foodtimeline.org, which is exactly what it sounds like: centuries worth of information about FOOD. If you are writing something historical and you want a starting point for figuring out what people should be eating, this might be a good place?
CHRISTMAS CAME EARLY
this is awesome but the original link just turned into a redirect loop for me, here it is again (x)
OH HELLO
No more potatoes in medieval novels!
BREAD and SOUP have been around longer than alcohol and milk and domesticated chickens and tea and marshmallows (2000BC!!) and coffee and the Neolithic and the UK being islands and ancient Egypt and ancient Greece and Rome and Jesus… love for BREAD and SOUP is as old as time
Ive seen people be like in modern fantasy like “oh the pritagonists can just look up spells on their phone how do you solve that”
Imma be honest most people who go on recipe websites and book every recipe they see don’t even use them lmao why would with be different
Given how terrible most recipe websites are i can only imagine how bad spell websites would be
Having to navigate someone’s entire life story of how they became a witch in order to get to the part where they actually talk about the gods-damned banishing ritual
the number of ‘easy 3 step spell to fly’ that at best do nothing, and have a good chance of doing something very bad to you is non zero
my time on bluesky has been so fucking funny to me. having an existing base + my dog seems like an algorithmic cheatcode and anytime i post him, regardless of the caption, the algorithm starts serving it to anyone’s discover feed and i get a slew of replies from 45-70 y/o’s that just see a dog
I did it! I’ve now done all the unlicensed killers from DbD! Obviously a lot of these heights are just personal headcannons because if I did their in game heights, it’d probably have a lot less variety.
May have gone overboard with the blood. I got very excited about this brush I found lol.
thank god anything at all useful is being torn down and made illegal so that the computer can just be a box you turn on to watch ads for fake phone games
fundamentaly embarrassing to show reference pictures to the hairdresser. Like yeah. Hey. Here’s a picture of a guy who looks cool. One day I would liketo look cool as well. Can you try to make me look cool. With these paltry ingredients Can you try your very best to alchemize a guy who looks cool right now. In 30 minutes, can you make me into a person. Hey, for twenty five dollars, can you fuck my shit up forever? Could you give me a haircut. Is that too much to ask. Could you cut my hairs
btw the biggest lie you will ever be told about being trans is that transitioning will make you ugly. that could not be further from the truth: i never got compliments on my appearance ever, but after i transitioned, began dressing like myself, wore my hair the way i wanted to, and especially started T, i have gotten more compliments than i ever have before in my life. people can tell when you look like yourself, like who you’re meant to be. it’s beautiful, attractive, and sexy. transition will not make you “ugly”. it will make you yourself, and that’s inherently beautiful
