got someone in my ask box trying to get me to say porn is evil anyway as a trans woman sitcoms have done a hundred times more damage than porn ever will
I’ve seen the “get thee to a nunnery” scene done where hamlet has no idea he’s being spied on and just goes off on ophelia because he’s hangry. I’ve seen the “get thee to a nunnery” scene done where hamlet knows he’s being watched from the start and the whole thing’s an act. I’ve seen the “get thee to a nunnery” scene done where hamlet figures out he’s being watched half way through and gets super mad at ophelia for betraying him. now I want to see the “get thee to a nunnery” scene done where ophelia covertly nods at where polonius and claudius are hiding, hamlet gets the idea, and they’re both in on the performance the whole time. I want classically trained shakespearean actors to give us their best best show of bad acting. I want ophelia to mouth some of the most cutting lines to hamlet before he says them. I want hamlet to frown exaggeratedly at her and for her to take this as a cue to start crying. I want hamlet to go grab her by the wrist, her to wince, and him to automatically loosen his grip. I want them to stage hamlet dragging her around by the ear using classic stage-fight techniques. I want them to be aggressively in cahoots with one another because they know each of their bastard father-figures are watching.
I want this for the lols of seeing them trying to fake-fight on the spot, to give ophelia more to do than just be the victim, and so it never crosses ophelia’s mind that hamlet’s actually losing it a little bit.
that is, until she hears how her father died.
Oh my GOD.
…
OPHELIA [talking just a bit too loudly and clearly] Good my lord, How does your honour for this many a day?
HAMLET [distracted, not quite getting it yet] I humbly thank you; well, well, well.
OPHELIA [even louder, pointedly so] My lord, I have remembrances of yours, That I have longed long to re-deliver; I pray you, now receive them.
HAMLET [caught off guard and genuinely perplexed] No, not I; I never gave you aught.
OPHELIA [exasperated silent sigh, meaningful stare] My honour’d lord, you know right well you did; And, with them, words of so sweet breath composed As made the things more rich: their perfume lost, Take these again; for to the noble mind Rich gifts wax poor when givers prove unkind. [in an undertone, gesturing with her head to where her father and his uncle are hiding:] There, my lord.
HAMLET [after a second or two of silent realization, loud and theatrical] Ha, ha! are you honest?
OPHELIA [exaggeratedly startled] My lord?
… and so on.
You’re a genius
They actually did something like this in York a few years back! Hamlet entered the stage and Ophelia jerked her head in the direction of the eavesdroppers , Hamlet mouthing a question and she nodded. Then they started talking putting on a performance for the spurs- BUT Hamlet pushing too far. He gets agitated, yells his insults and really does hurt her feelings but only notices he’s gone too far when she rushes away- which in a way made it even worse cause it was obvious she could not tell anymore when he was performing or being genuine- and it showed how deeply shaken their respect and trust in each other was by the events happening around them after all.
they both were being robbed of their agency, becoming playballs of sth bigger than themselves DESPITE everything they try to do avoid exactly that.
This is exactly the kind of dramaturgical possibility that I love.
And how DARE y'all shatter my heart into a million pieces like that.
The same is true if you want me to take “narcissistic abuse” seriously.
If someone was abusive because of a mental illness, they wouldn’t be surrounded by people cheering them on. They’d be surrounded by people wondering what the fuck is wrong with them.
Every type of abuse you can think of is considered normal for parents to inflict on their children under some circumstances. So if you want to stop parents from abusing their children, you need to dismantle the power that parents have, not scapegoat mental illness.
I don’t know if it’s because I’m autistic, I’m not American or because there’s a special gun telepathy… But I don’t understand how mirroring would infer you’re a liar here?
Okay, so this is a very particular Thing that happens largely in the American south. It’s the shotgun wielding dad “what are your intentions with my daughter touch her and I kill you I’m the head of the household” trope irl. My father has never actually done it, but he was given a gun by another man when my sister and I were very small to be prepared.
So to the dad, anon just challenged his authority and his manhood. Dad is already threatened by his daughter having a boyfriend (and potentially eventually moving out due to that boyfriend/marriage), now anon is saying “I don’t give a shit about you or your threat” as far as the dad is concerned. So anon saying he didn’t mean it that way is what’s triggering the “liar” comment.
It’s a very patriarchal woman as property thing that crops up especially among white Southern Christians. I would lay money based on this story and my own experiences that anon is the girl’s first boyfriend and that she’s in the kind of family environment where she will live with her parents until marriage, a very literal dad giving daughter away at the altar situation.
Anon probably does not have sisters and didn’t have all of this subtext made text constantly throughout his life, even though him carrying on a daily basis suggests some level of immersion in gun culture
Tl: Dr the American south is a very weird place, he’s violating some established power lines and then “acting clueless” when the dad reacts to the social transgression
Ooooooooh!!!…. It is in fact special gun telepathy, but you must be THIS misogynistic to ride. I think I got it.
This was actually very helpful, and disturbing.
I think there’s also a level of, like:
Dad shows gun = “If you hurt her, I will kill you.”
Boyfriend shows gun as well = “I also suspect you of being capable of hurting her and anticipate having to defend her.”
And “hurt” in a dating context (or at least this specific gun related one) usually just means heartbreak, but “hurt” in a father/daughter context would more often be abuse.
So there’s an implicit accusation he could read into it that turns the conversation into:
Dad: I think this relationship might not work out, and you will hurt my daughter’s feelings.
Boyfriend: Well, I think you are physically harming your daughter, and brought this gun to show you I mean to rescue her.
Dad: How dare you! At least accuse me outright, for such a strong claim as this.
Boyfriend: I shall never say it outright, and therefore you have no evidence against me to use to kick me out right now.
Dad: So you plan to play ignorant if I bring your accusations to my daughter, and make me look crazy?
i was recently denied life-saving gallbladder removal surgery by my GI specialist due to being “too fat” (i’m 300 lbs and very muscular) and “needing to lose 10 -15 pounds and waiting 2 - 3 months in order to get the surgery”. i was then signed up for bariatric weight loss surgery before i could get the gallbladder removal despite the gallstone stuck in the neck of the organ as well as the other stones inside of it causing me to be incapable of keeping down food
i ended up getting the surgery done by a local hospital with far better doctors, but the initial denial had me so defeated. if you are fat and have ever been denied important surgeries, life saving or otherwise, because of your weight, i am so sorry and you should never have to face that. most surgeries are not impacted by weight in the slightest. this is usually an issue with the surgeon’s skill as a surgeon.
i was told by every other surgeon i met that weight has no bearing on a laparoscopic gallbladder removal surgery. at the other hospital i was also told that anesthesia wouldn’t work on me or that i wouldn’t survive it. yet again i was told by other surgeons that was also not the case. most surgeons worth their paygrade can do these surgeries after just… trying and learning how to work with fat bodies.
i was told by the surgeons and nurses in the ER that it’s ridiculous for the other hospital to behave as though fat people will never need surgery of any kind ever throughout their lives, for one reason or another. it’s unrealistic. most people will encounter a potential surgery in their life times, no matter their weight and it’s unprofessional to just give up when someone above a certain weight threshold needs help.
my heart goes out to you especially if you’re trans, intersex, gnc, and queer and have been denied top surgery or other gender affirming care surgeries because of your weight. this is also medically unethical and done for no reason other than fatphobic transphobic bias. you do not need to lose weight to get top or bottom surgery.
in a queer discord server im in there was a notice today. "please refrain from using she/her for anyone today because [one specific trans guy]'s dysphoria has been really bad due to a family event". i continued to use she/her for my wife, obviously. got asked to use they/them "just this once" "for his sake"
i responded "im not gonna misgender my wife for your comfort" and swiftly got kicked out of the server. lmao
please tell me this is a joke 😭 nobody’s masculinity is that fragile. surely. surely.
i don’t think that men with masculinity so fragile they can confidently ask an entire chat full of people to not reference she/her pronouns for a full day are in any position to laugh at anybody.
anyway, “boy who is so sexist he’s afraid of pronouns” is a much funnier meme.
literally just “Women should cover up their bodies so men don’t get distracted or make bad decisions” with a trans coat of paint.
can you imagine the backlash there would be if trans girls said that trans men shouldn’t pack in queer spaces, because it could give us dysphoria? or that trans men shouldn’t have facial hair in queer spaces, because it could give us dysphoria? it is only ever women who are expected to change our presentation for the sake of men. just like in wider cisgender society, wow, who’d’ve thunk it?
can you imagine the backlash if a trans girl asked a queer discord server to not use he/him pronouns for the full day? can you imagine the vitriolic hatred that woman would face? wow, it’s almost like the double standards of the gender binary have implications on the trans community too 🤔
I laughed at this so hard I stopped getting air in my body and had to sit down. This isn’t a vibrator it’s a failed homunculus and it’s in terrible pain
my dnd party has run into an npc who may or may not be evil and may or may not decide to betray us and the dm was in chat today like “just so everyone knows…not addressing this comment at anyone in particular…his favorite colors are red and black…wink” so now i’m desperately trying to get a real physical friendship bracelet done before session tomorrow in the vain hope that i can somehow stop this npc from trying to do a murder on my party
UPDATE: the npc was in fact a shapechanged adult black dragon with violence and conquest in his heart. however he did let merry put a friendship bracelet on him and then when she was like “hm okay how big is your wrist in dragon form” he was like “you wanna see?” and then turned into a dragon and let merry measure him for a second, dragon-sized friendship bracelet. the dm described him afterwards as being deeply confused as to why he did this or let any of this happen to him. call that the merry effect
this guy is now a recurring npc because merry was SO determined to make him her friend that it actually somehow worked. he cast dream to talk to one of my party members like “hey…how’s it going…how are the tieflings in the party…not that i care…also i’m not lonely. bye” and the player was like “is he still wearing merry’s friendship bracelet in this dream” and the dm was like “yeah…”
fsdfjhskdf the dm just sent us all this image
so merry taught naeric (the dragon) the power of love, obviously, and because his heart was open and beautiful he started dating…a SECOND evil dragon. and then that gf betrayed him and cast ninth level imprisonment on him so now naeric is our damsel in distress and we have to save him from his girlfriend, the actual villain. how the turntables…
and. in the most horrible plot twist of all. the gf stole his friendship bracelet.
In case you need it for your D&D games or siege actions— here’s what the ballistic trajectory of a flaming pumpkin fired out of a trebuchet looks like.
Actually, this is very helpful for visualizing a ballistic arc.
Right? I’ve already sent it to my math teaching friends. One occasionally brings in a tiny trebuchet for his class and this might encourage him to up his game.
So to be pedantic (because that matters with legal cases) she is not suing him for human trafficking. She is suing him for intensely abusive employment conditions, including underpayment, overwork, harassment during attempts to take breaks or leave the city, psychological torment, and housing conditions which conspired to keep her from leaving, which can very reasonably be said to constitute a degree of human trafficking. But the suit is not specifically pressing trafficking charges.
That said the degree of racist and sexual harassment alleged (from his mom) is horrifying and deserves specific attention.
Actually, I think this is worth emphasizing. While human trafficking charges are not being filed, the allegations absolutely represent a pattern of human trafficking control. Sleep and food deprivation, constant surveillance, economic deprivation, housing control, continuous harassment, all of these are behaviors desgined to keep someone burned out and with no time to make moves to get themself out.
Someone living in a city they’re unfamiliar with, with San Francisco’s housing market, no time to establish connections with locals, withheld wages and illegal lies about what wages would be coming, who is constantly sleep deprived and hungry, and harassed constantly by their captor who reacts with extreme measures to moves which might let them leave (like taking a trip out of the city), is how not in a position to leave their job. Pedantry is important in legal matters, but we can recognize when something is absolutely being described in allegations and not on a list of charges only for practical reasons of ease of prosecution.
behold!! my blorbo who’s canonically a middle aged traumatized man with several mental disorders, violence tendencies and a long list of committed crimes
“The nonbinary afab who goes by she/her, dresses femininely, and uses a push-up bra when I—” when you what? What’s wrong with her?
Is she not nonbinary enough for you? Is the way she experiences her queerness and how she presents not perfect enough for you? Nonbinary people don’t owe you androgyny, right? So why is she the exception? Why does she have to hate herself to appeal to your standards? Why is she any less trans—any less worthy of respect—cause it’s “not visible”? Queer solidarity my ass. Don’t spout this bullshit on Pride, man.
This, but also for enby amabs going by he/him and with hairy chests and beards
sorry I always felt undesirable my entire life and it gave me kinks of wanting someone to desire me so extremely it’s uncontrollable for them as if that’s my fault
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