it’s really frustrating how you have to wait like, 2 weeks before you can drink milk after you buy it. i know you gotta wait for the date on the bottle but like why cant the store just sell the milk thats ready?
i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an “internet etiquette” for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom
Don’t Like, Don’t Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That’s OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship
I would like to present a counter-argument
“The Master’s Quest: Meet Annabella” was published nearly 4 years ago
There is no porn of it
There is no Fandom
There are no genderbent versions of any of the characters
No one ships any of the characters with anyone
There is no AU
I’ve done a shitty job promoting this book, by probably most people’s standards; but I’ve still sold maybe 200 copies. I genuinely have mentioned it a number of times on this blog though. Despite the fact probably no one reading this will know what I’m talking about.
My point is, I’m literal living proof that the internet is wrong and has been for years.
I have defeated the internet through sheer power of “I’m bad at selling and people don’t want to be advertised to”
So I win. I beat rule 34 and every other rule on that list. I win and the entire internet loses
I had a former manager named Craig who once football-tackled a customer that was assaulting me to get her away from me. Also when Susan the bitchass evangelical other manager started badgering me to join her in a prayer circle to make me straight again, Craig jumped in and said “SURE there’s lots of people here that need prayer!” took her hands and, loud enough for the entire store beseeched the lord with: “OH GOD OUR LORD PLEASE HELP SISTER SUSAN HERE LEARN TO PRACTICE HER FAITH WITH GRACE AND LOVE THOSE DIFFERENT THAN HERSELF. ”-AND IF YOU CAN’T SWING THAT, GET HER NOSE OUT OF EVERYONE ELSE’S BUSINESS AND ASS OUT TO THE LOADING DOCK THE PROVEN WINNERS TRUCK IS HERE.“
So like. Craig is actually good for the job.
Important Craig update, I cannot confirm it but we have a witness for him being good for it
You know how you wake up and your left knee is hurting, right? Killing you pain. So all day you limp along being as easy as you can on your left leg … and then the right one starts hurting cuz you’ve put too much pressure on that side while babying the other side?
was playing “fetch” with the ocean today by tossing stones into it and watching them wash back up with the tide a few meters away, and it got me thinking about grief and the things we carry with us even after we lose them
I took a minute to quickly check which sample would have the most activity, assuming 100g, low-enriched (5%) samples, and negligible activity from the other sample constituents. Radium is top by a factor of 10,000, which seems about right considering my personal experience with it.
“considering my personal experience with it” What the fuck does this imply
It implies I have personal experience with handling radium samples, which I have. That saucy little thot can make the geiger counter crackle through a lead plate more than americium can through air
Folks have got to understand that they probably aren’t messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can’t remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don’t even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.
Whether you’re carrying one big rock or a big ol’ bucket of sand, it’s going to weigh on you just as much.
This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.
After years and years of this, your nervous system gets “stuck” in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like “genuine human connection” and “interpersonal attachment.”
No lie, Complex PTSD/CPTSD is HUGE.
If you are disabled, if you are queer, if you are chronically ill, if you are the survivor of a toxic but not abusive relationship, if you grew up or lived under the threat of harm but no “actual” harm (or “very little” harm) was done, you may have CPTSD that isn’t getting caught because CPTSD looks different from PTSD.
At the risk of falling into a trivialization trap, a lot of things you may not perceive as traumatic actually are. I was embarrassed for a long time in both group and individual therapy to say anything in my childhood was traumatic, because I was sitting with people who had suffered horrible physical or sexual abuse. But here are some things that are, in fact, traumatic and - when they occur over a long period - can set you on a course of maladaptive coping for decades if not addressed:
Being told or shown that your emotions are not valid, that you have no safe place to express them
Parents or caregivers oversharing graphic trauma from their past with you
Threats of physical violence, even if not carried out
Being told or shown that affection or approval is contingent on competency or academic success
Prejudice from inside OR outside the family (homophobia, racism, body shame)
Mocking or dismissal of things that are meaningful to you
If you constantly feel unworthy, afraid, ashamed, or even flat and emotionless, it’s worth exploring why. And, because you’ve been so consistently undermined and minimized, you may feel like a fraud for being upset or functioning poorly. You’re not a fraud; it’s years of conditioning telling you “I should be able to handle this” or “lots of people are worse off than I am so I shouldn’t complain.” Your conditioned brain is lying to you; you won’t be able to open yourself to the joy of trusting relationships with others OR do meaningful things to help those who are worse off until you do the work to melt the block of ice surrounding you. All my love to you, friends.
Also, his books are not that expensive, well-written, and truly helped me process a lot of my trauma. I did a ton of it alone because I couldn’t find a therapist for years, and those books (complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving & the tao of fully feeling) really changed the trajectory of my life.
He talks about grieving, about changing our internal dialogue to one that’s positive instead of negative, talks about SEVERAL trauma typologies, and more.
As someone who has been diagnosed with the big trauma PTSD but most of their problems were coming from the little stuff that was CONSTANT and made me run on 2000% all day every day, this guy is a lifesaver. I’m so different from how I was before, especially with the help of some in-person therapy. Finding the right person makes all the difference, truly.
You can pick up his books on the website, but if you’re looking for resources on this and you have the space and support to be able to do some of your own work (please don’t do it completely alone unless you must) check out the sidebar over at pete-walker.com. He made this incredible resource that not everyone knows about and I try to share it where this comes up.
Thank you for informing people about this.
Reblogging for the additional info and resources, and to emphasize that the C does indeed stand for “complex,” not “chronic.” (Understandable that people would get mixed up, though.)
Hi, I want to add a little story a very silly trigger I’ve got. Because for real, it was due to the most minor ~trauma~ possible, but it still had very clear aftereffects. I hope that hearing this helps someone know that whatever their own thing is, no matter how trivial sounding even to yourself, it still counts as “bad enough”, whatever that means, for them to get help.
The sound of Velcro opening feels worse to hear than nails on a chalkboard. I genuinely thought everyone felt this way and was putting up with it in coats/shoes/etc for convenience, and the reason it wasn’t a saying is because it was a space age material, much younger than literal chalk, so why would it be used when we already had a literary device for this feeling? Turns out that was a trigger for me and literally no one else thinks of it like that!
Took a few months after we realized that I was perceiving the world differently than everyone on the planet for my mom to be the one who figured out why.
Some times, very rarely, as an infant my mother couldn’t get to me “fast enough” to comfort me. That’s it! That’s literally it! And the reason? She’s disabled, and wears hand braces at night to help support her wrists. But they also mean she can’t really use her hands, and when I was little her braces had like a thousand rows of velcro: so as an infant, all I knew was that the only times I cried out and was “ignored” were accompanied by the sound of my mother opening up her braces so she could come pick me up.
Seriously, you can have the best parents and childhood in the world and still come out with random trauma because of it! And guess what? Doesn’t matter how minor it was, it still registered as trauma to my tiny brain, and talking about it in therapy was so bizarre, like, worst crying I’ve ever done in therapy?? But it helped, and the sound of velcro is still nothing I like, but it’s way more tolerable now.
However small you think “it” was for you, whatever “it” is, or even if you have no idea what “it” could possibly be!, that was still enough and you should have support.
There is nowhere NEAR enough discussion about how damaging constant/chronic lecturing, invalidation, mocking, dismissal, bodyshaming, and overblown expectations are to a kid, even when it’s low-level, even when it’s “for their own good,” even when it’s not accompanied by physical violence. That’s still emotional abuse. It’s a heart wound by a thousand tiny cuts and it still leaves scars. And it’s made all the worse by the perception that because things weren’t as bad as they COULD have been, that person has no grounds to be upset or have trauma from the events.
There’s shit my family has said to me that’s stuck in my head FOREVER and it pops up like a jumpscare whenever conditions are right to recall it. Things that make me doubt myself, things that make me doubt my competency and question my interactions with others. And it NEVER goes away. But they’ve forgotten about it. Doesn’t even register. Because to them, it was a throwaway comment about my appearance or my interests or my intelligence, while to me, it was like getting hit with a brick.
I’m 2016 I had a shoplifter role play blog because to avoid getting deleted all the shoplifting blogs claimed it was just to rp. Mine actually was though but I’d post shoplifting content and reblog tips and my “hauls” were just stuff I borrowed from my much more fashionable sister. I had a decent amount of followers and I got a lot of hate but I’d be like “ok buddy I’m just goofing around lol” and then post $150 of Sephora products legally purchased by my sister with the caption #gettingawaywithit. this did not improve my life but it did get me talking to people more often which, obviously, I needed
not that I don’t appreciate the tags reassuring me that at least it was better than shoplifting, very supportive very sweet, but you are voicing this opinion from imagination world bc there is no question that shoplifting would have been immeasurably cooler then whatever the fuck this was
I think if a place has free WiFi, I should be able to use my phone. It don’t matter if it’s a fancy ass restaurant, it got da WiFi, I’m on ma phone on da tumbl
YOU ARE THE FIRST NOTE!?!?!?
cuz i’m goated and i have compulsive tumblr checking disorder (CTCD)/j
[ID, a 4 panel comic showing Miss Piggy dressed in a fancy cowl neck dress and a sparkly jacket. The comic shows how Miss Piggy greets various people.
The first panel shows Miss Piggy presenting her hand, expecting a kiss to the hand in greeting. It is labeled, Complete Stranger.
The second panel shows her extending her hand for a handshake. It is labeled, Acquiantance.
The third panel shows her waving a cheery hello. It is labeled Dear friend.
The fourth panel shows her and Kermit the Frog. Miss Piggy has her arms wrapped around Kermit who is standing in front of her. Kermit is smiling widely and Miss Piggy has her head nuzzled into Kermit’s head. It is labeled, Kermit [exclamation point]. /. End ID]
People talk about needlessly gendered items but one time I got diagnosed with female presenting autism and I’m still losing my mind over it
This is why Autism Speaks studies are invalid. it’s resulted in people thinking that only men can have autism. Thus resulting in stupid terms like female presenting autism.
FEMALE PRESENTING AUTISM???
I refused to give my adhd evaluator my gender/sex so she logged my traits and answers from the questionaires both for the “male” adhd and “female” adhd traits and the results varied so much that even my evaluator was shocked by it bc it was the first time she had done both “genders” for one person (and i think it opened her eyes on how wrong and inaccurate sexed tests/evals are). my hyperactivity, and impulsivity scored lower (aka downplayed) on the female page but had a HUGEEEEE spike for it on the male page, their were things like my emotional dysregulation that were also“less apparent” on my female results than my male ones.
Genuinely ask who ever is evaluating you to remove sex/gender from the evaluation process and if they refuse demand that they test you as a “male” and “female”
Lots of us esp black and brown autistics and adhders are getting duped out of a proper diagnosis bc white perisex cishet people are seen as the “standard” for literally everything in the medical field
“no trans guy wants to be a feminine boy twink some of us wanna be bears and jocks!!!” yes that’s ok and perfectly valid btw can you stop throwing feminine trans men under the bus thank you (ᵔᴥᵔ)
Read an article, started thinking. People who menstruate, if your period stopped completely one day (not because of menopause, it just disappeared) but you were still 100% healthy, would you miss it?
You deserve love now. Not once you lose weight. Not once you accomplish that thing. Not once you move. Not once you get on medication. Not once you start therapy. Not once you get that job. Not once you’re more like them. Now. You don’t have to earn the right to be loved. You deserve it right now, and always have.
i’m planning on moving out early next year and would appreciate financial assistance with this. i’m not strictly in danger aside from my situation being bad for my mental health but i have a very difficult time saving money because of said situation and would like to at least pay off my debt before i leave. thank you for any help.
call me the fucking ~internet police~ BUT I DIDN’T KNOW UNTIL TODAY THAT THERE’S LITERALLY A COMMUNITY OF “PEDOPHILE POSITIVITY” ON THIS HELLSITE
THERE ARE PEOPLE OPENLY ADMITTING THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO CHILDREN/CONSUMING CHILD PORN ON THIS WEBSITE!?!??! THERE’S 13 YEAR OLDS ON HERE!!!
so my dudes, how to flag “maps” (minor attracted people aka pedophiles)
1. click “flag this blog”
2. click “this violates tumblr’s community guildlines”
3. click “someone is at risk of harm”
4. click “harm to minors”
5. type “pedophile” in the box
THIS IS GOOD AND ALL BUT PLEASE IF THEY HAVE ACTUAL CP PLEASE REPORT IT TO FBI TIPS,
If it’s clear they have broken laws (they post/talk about using child porn, admit to things they’ve done with minors, etc), go fill out a form here ( https://tips.fbi.gov ) to make the FBI aware and bring this filth to justice. Every single one. And if there’s no proof of criminal offense, then go on and flag them, at least then they aren’t here to prey on children on the internet.
Hi guys I recently had a run in with a pedophile who was posting child pornography, please don’t call the police there’s not a whole lot they can do in situations of tracking unlessit’s in your home state! And they don’t have a department that deals with blogs.
Instead call 1-800-843-5678 or fill out a form for cybertipline.com , they reach out within the same day and deal with these assholes all the time. They will contact you if they need more assistance or if they’ve resolved it! The police department redirected me to the hotline and will do so in every situation unless it’s local. Stay safe!
call me the fucking ~internet police~ BUT I DIDN’T KNOW UNTIL TODAY THAT THERE’S LITERALLY A COMMUNITY OF “PEDOPHILE POSITIVITY” ON THIS HELLSITE
THERE ARE PEOPLE OPENLY ADMITTING THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO CHILDREN/CONSUMING CHILD PORN ON THIS WEBSITE!?!??! THERE’S 13 YEAR OLDS ON HERE!!!
so my dudes, how to flag “maps” (minor attracted people aka pedophiles)
1. click “flag this blog”
2. click “this violates tumblr’s community guildlines”
3. click “someone is at risk of harm”
4. click “harm to minors”
5. type “pedophile” in the box
THIS IS GOOD AND ALL BUT PLEASE IF THEY HAVE ACTUAL CP PLEASE REPORT IT TO FBI TIPS,
If it’s clear they have broken laws (they post/talk about using child porn, admit to things they’ve done with minors, etc), go fill out a form here ( https://tips.fbi.gov ) to make the FBI aware and bring this filth to justice. Every single one. And if there’s no proof of criminal offense, then go on and flag them, at least then they aren’t here to prey on children on the internet.
Hi guys I recently had a run in with a pedophile who was posting child pornography, please don’t call the police there’s not a whole lot they can do in situations of tracking unlessit’s in your home state! And they don’t have a department that deals with blogs.
Instead call 1-800-843-5678 or fill out a form for cybertipline.com , they reach out within the same day and deal with these assholes all the time. They will contact you if they need more assistance or if they’ve resolved it! The police department redirected me to the hotline and will do so in every situation unless it’s local. Stay safe!
call me the fucking ~internet police~ BUT I DIDN’T KNOW UNTIL TODAY THAT THERE’S LITERALLY A COMMUNITY OF “PEDOPHILE POSITIVITY” ON THIS HELLSITE
THERE ARE PEOPLE OPENLY ADMITTING THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO CHILDREN/CONSUMING CHILD PORN ON THIS WEBSITE!?!??! THERE’S 13 YEAR OLDS ON HERE!!!
so my dudes, how to flag “maps” (minor attracted people aka pedophiles)
1. click “flag this blog”
2. click “this violates tumblr’s community guildlines”
3. click “someone is at risk of harm”
4. click “harm to minors”
5. type “pedophile” in the box
THIS IS GOOD AND ALL BUT PLEASE IF THEY HAVE ACTUAL CP PLEASE REPORT IT TO FBI TIPS,
If it’s clear they have broken laws (they post/talk about using child porn, admit to things they’ve done with minors, etc), go fill out a form here ( https://tips.fbi.gov ) to make the FBI aware and bring this filth to justice. Every single one. And if there’s no proof of criminal offense, then go on and flag them, at least then they aren’t here to prey on children on the internet.
Hi guys I recently had a run in with a pedophile who was posting child pornography, please don’t call the police there’s not a whole lot they can do in situations of tracking unlessit’s in your home state! And they don’t have a department that deals with blogs.
Instead call 1-800-843-5678 or fill out a form for cybertipline.com , they reach out within the same day and deal with these assholes all the time. They will contact you if they need more assistance or if they’ve resolved it! The police department redirected me to the hotline and will do so in every situation unless it’s local. Stay safe!
The lack of hoists in healthcare settings is so ridiculous.
Whenever I’m referred for any testing which requires me getting out of my wheelchair I have to tell the referring clinician usually more than once, and then when I get the appointment I need to phone up and make sure that they have a hoist.
And even then, even after repeating myself several times and several people assuring me that there’s a hoist and it’s all okay, 50% of the time I get there and there’s no hoist.
your scent processing being so close to memory in your brain is insane sometimes you step outside and take a whiff and go “ah, it smells like playing pokemon emerald in my third grade afterschool program in the crisp september of 2006”
ALT
